We are just running through options . Right or wrong. 

Like we said on our initial post we are not wanting to be judged just try get a clearer picture . But if it means i leave the USA to keep my family together i will. 

Nope i am not in med school .

Ive been nursing for over 20 years . Had management roles in hospitals and went back to nursing . Had offers of other higher roles but my goal is GP which i am training for now along with my normal work 

Again thanks for the info ... i know not all concrete but handy to knkw . I think this is where we are 

Seems the only options really are

1. He applies for an actual visa which would take 9 month minimum and even then it could be longer given the current situation and even then he could get refused which would leave me no option but to quit nursing here along with my GP certification im working towards .
I had no intention of flying while pregnantand most certainly wont fly untill our child is atleast 1 year old minimum and it wouldnt be fair on the childs father to not be with myself and child so i may have to reconsider that one

2. If he flies over. We marry after 90 days regardless of whats said he wouldnt get away with saying that he didnt realise spent convictions in the UK still count in the USA and that not allowing him to stay would cause hardship on his family when married

3. Regardless of any of the above if he applies for a visa and they see he has ESTA we would be lead to belive he has intentionaly lied on his aplication which although not true they would still see it as a lie on a visa application etc

4. If he came here and we marry and apply AOS we are still stuck due to the original ESTA problem

5. The baby is born and he is here on ESTA. we decide to fly and marry in the UK . I return back to the USA to work and look after our child alone . he still cant come over for atleast 1 year while waiting for a spouse visa ? Isnt it even longer now ?

6. I think we have no option but to return full time to the UK . My other half has lost 15 years of his first child in the UK growing up due to laws and restrictions at the time regarding he wasnt married to the mother and the child didnt have his surname.
the mother refusing to give him access unless he went back to her .
i most certainly wont put him through that again

if we go down the visa route now he prob wont get anywhere for well over a year and while waiting for a visa he will have no means of seeing his child . I would have to return to work more or less immediatly after having the child. Which is where i would need my partner. Other wise we would have hard ship with out him here.


Thanks so much for the replies . I think they have made the decision how ever hard . To leave the USA

Thanks for the reply .

We think we know where this is going and need to make decisions asap . 

Cant keep our baby away from its father so its looking more like leave the USA asap and see what the future brings .

I plan to be married before the baby is born any how

Yes child care is available but its no substitute for a father at home .