miamiwife

Hi everybody,

I am sorry I have been misssing in action on this forum. I have had a rough time lately. We have been having marriage problems for a long time and I think it is time we thought about ending the marriage. I am not going to Turkey to visit him this summer since it seems like neither one of us knows how to fix our marriage, nor really wants to. We don't have the money, he doesn't have the time, and we will just extend the inevitable, because we are trapped in limbo and are both unhappy. It has just been too much time apart, growing in different directions, not being able to get to know the person 7000 miles away, etc. It is hard to read every day about people getting visas, getting married, and getting pregnant when these are the very things I have dreamed about for so long and now are just not going to happen for me. I have made some good friends on Visajourney, so I will continue to check in to see how everybody is doing from time to time, but I probably won't be throwing my commentary in too much. I wish you all wonderful lives and know that all will fall into place for all of you!

I'm losing faith.. it's so sad now.. :crying:

Me too gogo. I don't even have a marriage anymore to hold onto. I am just here out of habit. Gonna call it quits soon.

Hi Wendy! Well it sounds like you are going to have a fabulous wedding in Hawaii! How exciting! Please post photos or describe all the details, leis, sunsets, wave height--you name it!

I am still waiting. I will be heading to Turkey this summer to see the husband, I just need to try to find a plane ticket and a place for my kitty.

Not the week. Maybe it's the next one???? Guess it's time to hit the chocolate or wine or a lobotomy?

hey everyone !!

my husband just got his passport back with no visa and a letter saying :

"Please bear with us while ur case undergoes mandatory administrative processing. We will contact you as soon as this process has been completed."

im very sad this is a livign nightmare....

What? Oh, good lord! Why do they do this to us?!

sure thing we did it once and succeeded, and we will do it again.. I will never stop fighting for her, and for us to be together.. ESPECIALLY when the background checks party (FBI, there might be others, but they are the biggest one) say that we are not under any checks and never have been.. we won Round 1, let's bring it.. Round 2 begins now!! :angry:

I really admire you gogo. Your determination and patience are truly admirable! Please keep us informed about the lawsuit and any advice you have for the rest of us.

gogo! We haven't seen you here forever! How are you doing? Still hanging in there?

Congrats Kenny and Handan!

Tanya--

I think you will be okay, because you got married in October 2007, right? So you will have to lift conditions 90 days prior and submit your tax returns. Well you already filed so you will be good. If you are applying next year, then it might be a problem, but since it is almost 2 years now, I would think you will be okay. Sorry to hear about the job--I know what it is like to be uncertain of the future--but it does sound like a blessing in disguise, and what a great severance package!

Sibel

Congrats Magpie!

Thank you for your prayers. I am telling you, every week I think, "Oh, this will be the week!" Then by the end of the week when I see it is not going to be the week, I get soooo depressed. I just don't understand why this is taking this long. I mean, the embassy told me it was name check. How long does it take to figure out who someone is or is not? My husband has already given up believing we will get the visa. FRUSTRATING!

Magpie--what about Canada?

Kris--congratulations! Keep us posted of the progress.

Wow Mercedes! Congratulations! Are you two still in Germany or back in the U.S.? How is everything going for the two of you?

Julia--so exciting! School is almost finished and a marriage on the way--keep us updated! So proud of you chica!

So everybody has been very quiet lately. Today is 10 months of AP for us, so I am feeling down. I am anxious to hear some good news to cheer me up like from Filiz and Julia, perhaps even Mina might be doing better? Do share if you have anything.

Sibel

Understand completely how you feel. It will be 10 months of AP for us on Friday and we have waited almost 2 years now for a K-3 visa. Our marriage feels like it is falling apart and I just want this AP to be finished already so I can move on with my life!

sorry about the delay

update tracker visa in hand 4/15

visa issuance date 2/26

Congratulations! Finally!!

today i called my congrassman office and the lady who handles our case told me if AP takes more than 6 months that mean something wrong ,it made me lose hope and give up for time been and prepare my self for another 10 month or more in AP so i decided to go and vist my husband end of may in pakistan and stay there for a month.

My congressman's representative told me the same thing a few months ago when I called too. But what is wrong? And can we find out? Can they find out? Jeez!

Take us off the list. We are approved and our visa has been issued.

See, only a minor hiccup! Congratulations

Hey Kenny! We haven't heard from you in a long time! How are you and Handan doing?

Great news! Hope it keeps coming!

Congratulations Filiz! All your dreams are finally coming true!

The last DOS operator told me that they do not have the information if one check clears or not, she told me that information goes to the embassy. I don't know if she was not being truthful, but I asked her if she could tell me if any of the multiple agencies were finished with my husband's name check and she said that they would never receive that information to their computers. Who knows?

Hi all! So I am back from a one week cruise with my mom and I had a great time. This was actually the first week in two years where I did not cry for a week! I went to Honduras, Belize, Mexico, and the Bahamas. I got to swim with the dolphins, see monkeys, and not think too much about AP and visas.

Julia--I want to know all about the wedding plans (both the official and ceremonial!) Glad things are going well for Onur and you. Let me know also about the job hunting, and just keep in mind that you usually won't find out until the summer, so don't get too nervous.

That is a lot of code names! I guess we are a visa donkey too--I know I feel like one!

Thank you so much everyone for your wishes and prayers! I hope this will end soon. I have become so numb over the past 10 months of waiting in AP and wondering if something is wrong or what to do. I hope to give you happy news one of these days. Thanks again for thinking of me.