Mona_Greg

This is very confusing , i guess i will just wait if they issue the card without saying anything about replacing it , then i will just leave it like that , still waiting for the extension letter for my son hope i will get atleast that , and yes we had to file at Vermont , because we moved last year summer from Virginia to Louisiana , i just hope what that man on the phone told us is true about my case that would be awsome .

Hi Everybody , i have a question , me and my son applied on the 20.January 2009 for our 10 year GC at the VSC , i came here on K1 and my son with me on K2 , i got my extension Letter from VSC a few day's after we send the Application in and i got my Biometrics apointment 2 weeks later wich i have already done , but my son didn't recieved anything no extension letter no biometrics apointment nothing , not like it was before when we aplied for the 2 year conditional GC , i also need to mention that my son is 13 years old and will turn 14 at the end of March 2009 , so i got worried and Hubby called the number that was on the Biometrics apointment to find out whats going on with my son's status , the man on the phone wasn't sure so he went to ask his supervisor , then he came back and told us that since my son is 13 he don't need another biometrics they will just take the old fingerprints and picture of him , we told him that he is turning 14 next month and he said we don't have to worry about this they already send all our information out to the print office and he checked again on my name and adress and case number and told us that our case is about to close and we are good to go .

I was very relieved about that , but then i was just checking on my case when i found this at the USCIS website : If you have reached your 14th birthday since the date your card was issued, your payment is the biometrics fee of $80 is required. The base application fee is not required if you file the Form I-90 within 30 days after your 14th birthday. Total filing fee = $80.

Under the section replacing GC , so what should i do now wait and see when the GC comes in what date it was issued after or before his 14. birthday or call them again ? somebody here who had the same or similar experience ? any answer or information Apriciated . thanks in advance ,

When people realized they are scammed for the American dream there first response is always revenge by way of taking away their "loved ones" rights to be here. I think when someone makes the decision to make a commitment to bring someone to America they should decide if this is a person that would contribute something to America, your community, and society. If you do not think they would, why would you marry them anyways? Then if you thought she/he would, then let them stay and benefit the rest of us. AH, but all most care about is what do they get out of the deal.

Get some counseling figure out what your lacking emotionally, spiritually, and mentally, that allowed you to fall victim to this type of scam. Stop with the revenge animosity and grow from the experience.

If you have any obligations left regarding the situation, I would tell the truth, but do not waste your time trying to figure ways to get her out. Let the USCIS figure out how to fix your mistake. That is what they get paid for. Spend the time growing, changing, and healing from the situation.

Oh isn't that the truth.

How many times have I read the angry comments, especially those that refer to 'how much it cost' to bring them here.

You know, when somebody moves halfway around the world, a little bit of understanding and compassion towards their adjustment to a new life could go a long way.

I often wonder, when I read posts about a USC being 'scammed' - I sometimes wonder just how much real effort the USC put into the immigrants adjustment and adaptation to America. I sometimes wonder if the foreign born spouse didn't just feel neglected, lost and abandoned, and the marriage subsequently fell apart.

It's funny how you guys can judge when being on the outside of a situation like this and say "well it was your fault because you brought this person here", etc....

Let me tell you guys something NONE of us PLANNED for things to turn out the way they do. If we knew it would, then I'll tell you for a fact I would not have done in bringing my then fiance here to the US. NOBODY here is perfect and to say that we LACKED in something and that is the reason of a failed marriage/relationship on the basis of a few posts here sharing a problem is so PREMATURE.

REBECAJJO - Your attitude twds the victims in a situation like this is just plain nasty, wicked and humiliating. To say that all we care about is to "send your spouses back to their countries because we spent so much money" is so shallow that maybe you need to be put through a situation like this and have your feelings played with. Then we will see what you would come here and say..... Get yourself through a course of "humanity" and then you can come here and hopefully not come on here and type all that garbage just just reflects the attitude of someone that thinks that you are so much better than others that come here to share a problem......

Thank you !!!!! I AGREE ...

the comment above is totally out of line here how you can defend a violent woman ? my suggestion keep her away from you as far as possible and i hope she will get what she deserves , after all you have done for her , if she can not apriciate it , i am sorry but then she should go back to her country , maybe she will wake up and learn something out of that ! sorry but this is my opinion ! Good Luck to you ....

if you mean my comment is out of line then you are reading it wrong...i wasn´t defending anybody and i wasn´t taking anybody´s sides...i also understand you had some similar experience so you are speaking out of anger...its so simple for everyone to say she should go back to her country...i guess you guys can´t even imagine what it can feel like for someone to be taken away from where they grew up, put somewhere where they know nothing and then you just say send her back...after you want her to try start a new life with u there? how many more changes do you want from a person in a year? you ever tried quitting your life and starting a new life on the other side of the planet? and it doesn´t really help being in usa and hearing so many things on the radio against immigrants etc...then one doesn´t feel very welcome there...

anyways..what i wanted to say...i was suggesting that she should seek a psychologist´s help who could help her deal with her situation better and overcome some struggles or issues she might be having...wasn´t defending violent behaviour...just saying everything has it´s reasons or roots somewhere and can be dealt with some professional help

Just wanted to let you know i am an Immigrant too , i left everything for my Husband back in Germany and yes you right it is not easy i was often Homesick at the beginning and my husband wasn't that much help for me either , but i would never ever attack him for that or hurt him in such kinda way , and no i am not speaking out of anger i am long time over that , the Relationship i was Talking about is 13 years ago , I just think it is Wrong to find excuses for such behaviour , and talk everything nice when it isn't , i think if you would be in such situation you would understand better what the people here are talking about , somebody who never experienced a violent partner have no Idea how humiliating it can be ...

This is so sad. If she is dangerous and you really fear for your safety, then I guess behind bars is the only place for her....but between this and your other post I'm really seeing that you are more mad at her than scared of her...I don't know either one of you but she is alone in a strange country, now stuck in a strange jail and a system that she probably doesn't understand...I just can't imagine how scary that is and its soooo wrong if you are putting her through this and letting it continue just to win your argument or say f-u louder. I mean, you won. You got to document being the victim first. Ok, she'll have a hell of a time staying legal. She knows that if she tries to hold you to support you've prepared to fight that. By now she's been briefed on what happens to her if she touches you again. If you are really afraid of her hurting you, don't do anything, but if you are just making sure you"win", you gotta make this stop. Get her out. Divorce her if you are going to. Move on. Let her worry about her status. Maybe the 864 will come back at you, maybe it won't but you signed it. With your head on straight you said you loved her and you signed it. Might have been a mistake, but you knew what you were signing. You have to move on. I'm sure this isn't going to be a popular position to take, but I'm feeling bad for her (well, both of you, actually) Obvioulsly, you are both hurting, so start making the hurting stop. I hope you guys can find a way to stop hurting each other. Neither one of you really wins til you do.

Thank you for your comment.

I am both mad and somewhat scared. But not scared for my life. More like scared of the legal consequences I will have with her. I'm being honest here.

Here is how I feel. I did EVERYTHING for my wife. Dated her for 2 years, visited her every 2 - 3 months, spent thousands on phone calls, brought her here, married her and have done absolutley everything for her. Paid for English classes, bought furniture. etc....etc....etc.....

Now our marriage is practically finished because of her violent behavior and now I'm going to have to MAINTAIN HER and PAY FOR EVERYTHING else she decides to do here in the US, just because I signed an Affidavit of Support!!!????

In other words not only did I bring her here with my money and effort, but I"m going to have to maintain her economically after marriage (that she ruined) while she lives here comfortably as if NOTHING happened all with my hard earned money???? I"m sorry but NO.

Put yourself in my shoes and lets see how any of you would feel.

First of all i am very sorry for your situation , i feel for you cause i know what it feels like to be abused or being in a violent relationship , the comment above is totally out of line here how you can defend a violent woman ? my suggestion keep her away from you as far as possible and i hope she will get what she deserves , after all you have done for her , if she can not apriciate it , i am sorry but then she should go back to her country , maybe she will wake up and learn something out of that ! sorry but this is my opinion ! Good Luck to you ....

I'm speechless.

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This is so sick , how can Adult's do something like this ...? i am just speechless ...oh my God , i also can not understand the Parent's of Megan why they allow a 13 year old Girl to be on a website like MySpace this is truly no Place for Kids or Teenagers there is many other websites out there specially made for Kids and Teen's with Games and a lot of fun stuff , my Son is 12 but we blocked all chat and dating websites and anykind of Porn stuff on his computer , and our computer is password secured , he know that such websites exist , but we explained to him why we don't want him to be on those websites , like people can find out our adress and telefonnumber and this is very Dangerous who knows what might happen , and i can just recommend every Parent's try to keep your Kids as long as you can away from such websites , there are so many pervert and sick people out there , you never know who you child meet on the net ...

yes we spend about the same not more then 400$ a month on food for 3 persons , and i believe safeway is one of the most expensive stores i would never shop there , we save a lot with collecting coupons from the internet to print out and looking always for items on sale and try to avoid the name brand products there is most of the time a cheaper version with the same quality with noname available and of course comparing prices in every shop we go to like walmart , aldi or shoppers .

also my husband is in the military and we have the option to go shopping for groceries on every military installation which does not mean it is always cheaper , sometimes even more then outside the base ....

Welcome to VJ and good luck on your journey !

Congrat's to your new Job , i had almost the same experience the first job i applied for was mine the manager liked me so she hired me straight ( working at the A.J.Wright ) , it's just a part time job and i make just the minimum per hour but i like it , it keeps me busy and i meet a lot of people , i was very surprised how easy it is over here to get a job or was it just luck ? well back in germany something like that would never happend !!!!

Ramona

I would honestly think about it to buy a car for that price , but i understand and probably nobody will finance you a car and why you want to buy a car so urgent if all will take time to get a workpermit and find a job and stuff like that ??? is it not better you wait and see for your self , and i don't know which state you will go to but here in virginia you have to pay tax and inspection on the car and to pass the inspection the car has to be in a good condition , my husband just bought me a car and we went through all that we paid almost 500$ Tax or was it the registration fee at the DMV ? because i got a letter in the mail yesterday which asked for state Tax , i don't know how they count the tax but i heard for older cars you pay more i have a BMW 325i model 2004 and it is not that old so i don't know what you will pay ? well i wish you good luck and hope you will find what you are looking for !

Ramona

I am so sorry Luz , just ignore her something like that happen to me a while ago but with some crazy black woman who started talking ###### to me because my husband is black , i am so happy that i have my drivers license now no more Metro or Bus , just try to forget and believe me not all people here like that i met some few nice once already

head up everything will be fine

Ramona

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I am using calling cards which gives me 600 minutes to germany or all over the world for 10 dollar my husband get them online i don't know which website but i am sure there are a few out there , maybe you wanna try that ?

Ramona

CONGRATULATIONS to the two of you and all the best

Thanks raymaga for the quick replay , i thought so there is not much i can do , but yes you right Germany have similar rules that children can decide with which parent they want to live with i think the age was 12 , i will get me some more info on that . Yes it is very hard not to see my child , before i could see him often cause his father lived very close to me and my son could come when ever he felt like to my house now all whats left is telephone calls if his father allow me to talk to him and if so the the speaker is always on so he can hear what i have to say , well lets hope that when he is 12 that we can do something about this situation thank god he will turn 11 this november so there is one more year to go .

I'm sorry to hear of your situation.

Unfortunately, if your ex-husband has joint custody of your son, and refuses to give his permission for you to bring him to the U.S. to live, I doubt there is anything you will be able to do. I know in Canada, there is an age where the child can decide which parent they would like to live with. I think that age is 11, but I'm not positive. Maybe Germany has a similar rule.

I know how much I miss my 2 sons that live in Canada, and they are not children, they are adults. I get to see them whenever I want, though, because we only live 3 1/2 hours from them. But, for you, it must be very hard not to see your son who is still a child.

I hope you can resolve this situation to the point where, even if your son cannot move to the U.S. to live with you permanently, you can at least have him come to the U.S. for occasional visits.

Best wishes.

Hi Everybody ! I have a question , i want my 10 year old son to come to the US , ok let me start from the beginning i have two kids ( boy's ) in the age of 10 and 12 , the 12 year old is with me over here in the US and the 10 year old is living in germany with his father , he wanted to live with his father before i filed the I-129 and before it was planed that i will move to the US , i wasn't very happy about that because me and his father never got along he was always fighting for the whole costudy on his side but we have 50-50 and he could never change that , before i left to the US i asked his father to make my son a passport and let him atleast visit me and his older brother , his

father said yes he will do that but i knew already that would never happen , when i saw my 10 year old the last time which is now 1 year ago he wanted to come with me and he was crying and said he don't want to live with daddy no more , the problem is i could not do anything cause his father won't let him go , and since he have 50% costudy i need his agreement to take my son over here and he would never agree to that now my question is there anything i can do from here to get my son living with me ? somebody maybe had or have the situation ?

Ramona

Ich druecke euch auch ganz doll die daumen das alles ganz schnell geht , bei uns ging es relativ schnell hat nur 4 monate gedauert bis ich mein Visa in der hand hatte , aber durch die ganze umstellung jetzt mit den visa gebuehren kann schon sein das es etwas laenger dauert , ich wuensche euch auf jedenfall viel glueck !

Ramona

Go to the postoffice near you and fill out the " Change of Adress form " they will forward your mail automatically to your new adress ! Thats what we did , and its so easy

Congratulations ! and good luck for the next step

i am sorry to hear about the situation you are in now , but you can't stay in the US without changing status on your K1 which is only possible if you marry the man who is named on your K1 Visa in your passport in the timeframe they gave you at the embassy i believe it was 90 days , otherwise your Visa expire and you are here Illegal . You can not change the K1 visa to a working visa !!!!! maybe you can talk to your man again and you both figure something out ? Good Luck !

is the affidavit of 2 friends a must have Form or is this more an optional Form ? I mean we still have time my CG expires in march 2009 but i try to get already as much info as i can get what i need with the I-751 !

Why people here are afraid that somebody from the USCIS might show up ? I wouldn't mind cause we have nothing to Hide !

Congratulations to the both of you ! It is always nice to hear that someone else got through all that visa jouney ! I am so happy for you guy's , good luck for the next step and best wishes for a happy Future together

I don't know how it is with canadian citizen , but i have visited my fiance while our K1 was in process i spend 3 months with him in the US and had no problems at the airport to get in the country , i am german i don't know maybe it is different in your case , when i came back to germany i had only 4 weeks to wait for my Interview apointment which was really good that way we avoided the whole waiting period apart from each other . I wish you good luck ...