Imua

Oakland, CA

I am going through something similar and have 2 points to make.

1. If your spouse left and you have no way to contact them you can do what is called 'Divorce By Publication' as others have mentioned upthread. If you really think your spouse will not be found(and in that case you are lucky because you can get a clean simple divorce without them asking for support or division of assets) then google for a paralegal service which will handle the investigation and paperwork for you. In NY it will cost around $1K proven your spouse is not located during the investigation.

2. If your spouse has left the country permanently then again you are lucky because it gets you off the hook re the I-864 which you signed when you brought them over. In my case I am fearful that he may have been found in my neighborhood and though he is too stupid to know that he could sue me for alimony under the I-864 his friends may know otherwise and help him find a sleazy lawyer in 'the community' who will help him for low cost. He abandoned me 1 year ago and lied to me about starting a new job when in fact I knew through phone records he was still working at his old under the table job until at least the end of February when he changed his phone #. If he is still working under the table then on paper he is unemployed and I am cynical that a judge would stop to ask how he has been supporting himself for the past year when it was his choice to abandon me while 'jobless'. In my googling it seems that these cases always end up with the USC being screwed regardless of circumstances. I have seen cases where the foreign ex-spouse has even sought support under the I-864 after the divorce decree has been issued - it is mind-boggling.

Nagarkot, Nepal

East Orange, NJ

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Asolo, IT

GC arrived yesterday!!!! :dance:

Go VSC Go!!!!

Nantes, France

Niederstotzingen, Germany

Rarotonga, Cook Islands

When he first made me dal bhat and aloo gobi I knew he was a keeper.

Lalitpur, Nepal

Hau'ula, HI

Rovigo, IT

Einsiedeln, Switz.

Honolulu, HI

Good thing we're cheap and only have old skool flip phones

Nagarkot, NP

Orissa, India

Genova, IT

Mysore, India

Kona, HI

Yonkers, NY

I know enough Nepali to have a basic conversation, ask directions, understand what Govi is saying when he is on the phone, etc. Govi's dad is trying to learn English(he is in his 60s, so good for him) but his mom knows absolutely zero words in English, yet somehow we communicate. She is not terribly demonstrative so I was unsure if she liked me or not - however the last time we had dinner before Govi came here she not only remembered all my favorite Nepali foods but cooked all of them for me(even sel roti *drool*), then I knew she loved me. When we went back to Nepal in June we hadn't seen Govi's family in 2 years and I told Govi's mom how much I loved her son and how much I wanted to make him happy and she was crying - I think we understand each other now.

Air India JFK - DEL is OK, the food was so-so as well as the entertainment - the convenience of a direct flight makes up for it though. I prefer the Gulf airlines (Gulf Air, Qatar, Etihad)for food, entertainment and service - but not sure if they have any direct flights to India. When I have flown to Nepal I have always had a long stopover and it sucks when I don't have a lot of extra time. Solely for the experience Singapore is the best and it is the best airport I have ever passed time in - the food and shopping is great. The check-in experience at IGI airport in Delhi was an absolute nightmare the last time we were there - we arrived 3 hours ahead of departure and were still late boarding - luckily the plane was also late taking off(of course)!!