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Thanks everyone!

Hi guys, So I'm 32 and have decided to continue paying UK NI contributions. I am currently self-employed, so I've also opened up a US based 401k. I've been made aware of factors like the Windfall elimination provision (WEP). I'm also interested to know how your US spouses pension comes into it too? In any case, I'm just wondering how to navigate this area? Resources on the issue seem to be very sparse and since it's multifaceted, I don't quite know how each influence the other. Would you focus on a US pension? Does a spouses pension a consideration?

Hello, My conditional green card expires on 16th November. The earliest I can apply for removal of conditions is 18th of August. I want to travel 18th of August or around about there for two weeks and then return. I have been made aware of the delays and need to travel with an extension letter, but does this apply to my situation? Any advice welcome as I'm really getting confused whether I can apply for removal of conditions on the 18th and then travel and return without an extension letter? Also, how is the extension letter received? Is there a lengthy waiting period?

Thanks for the info. You say you need to travel with the letter....any ideas on when I would likely receive this letter? Is it an immediate online print out? Or....

Hey, The earliest date I may file Form I-751 is 08/18/2023. However, I am considering going to visit the UK after this date...is that an option? Or do I have to stay in the country until it's processed?

Hi and thanks for the input.... I think it's a case of him not wanting to offend or risk his relationship with his parents tbh. The parents visit a few times a year and are coming to stay in the house for at least a week each time. But yeah, ultimately, it's only tolerable for so long, nobody should be expected to live like this, hence my reservations!

Yeah I've tried...I feel like it getting to the point where I am having to beg almost, which doesn't feel good...I guess at some point it's a choice for him to make!

It's not very clear tbh. Basically, they know he is gay and they know I am a friend but they do not know we are married. I feel he is extremely close to his parents, who are obviously Christian and conservative. I wouldn't say they are necessarily toxic or aggressive, I'd just say he doesn't want to disappoint them. I'd say that is the main motivation in all of this. So, I think he just wants me to leave temporarily while they visit to save face as he doesn't want to face the issue and instead would rather have the best of both worlds e.g. time with his parents and then I'd return. Obviously I am not happy about the situation, but at the same time I am finding myself in a very difficult situation. Firstly, I do not want to drive a wedge between him and his parents, or feel like I am applying pressure, but at the same time I feel I need to assert my own boundaries and maintain my self respect. Ultimately, I would not be willing to live like this long term, so my main reasoning for posting it here was to see where I stood in terms of immigration law and maintaining my green card....I have sacrificed a lot and I also don't want to sacrifice my own values over fear of losing my status etc.

So first all thanks for everyone's responses. Second of all, I'd just like to clarify that in my mind it is related to CR1 since I only hold a conditional green card, so I feel insecure in my current situation for that reason, hence why I posted it here. Second of all, obviously being the foreigner and on a conditional green card I don't feel like I can rock the boat too much.

They know, but don't know about any details of relationship status etc Me too! I don't like the situation but feel like I have no other choice.

Our property alone...its not a case of them not wanting to visit etc, it's just that they are extremely conservative and don't agree with their sons lifestyle etc No idea what you are referring to but don't appreciate my bloody situation being trivialised.

I am not worried about being deported, I am a permanent resident and we are otherwise in a very happy relationship. However, essentially, it seems that his parents are precedent over the relationship atm. Right now I just feel that I am worried about forcing my position or at least being strong on it since I am on a CR1 visa (permanent resident) i.e. I am feeling a little secure about being to aggressive.

Sure, that's an easy stance to take, but I don't want to force him to burn bridges with his parents? What would you do in my situation?

I'm a green card holder You're a lot of help!!!

To clarify I am on a CR1 visa folks and living in the USA!!! I am looking for advice on what protections I have if I am being forced out of my USA property when I am currently on a CR1 visa. Thank you

So basically, I am currently going along with everything as I feel like I am in a precarious position where I almost have to? I am in the USA yes

Essentially because I am on a CR1 I am wondering what my rights are in terms of if I make a stronger stand against this? For example, what if I refused and our relationship turned sour? What are my rights etc?

Hi guys, So I am in a complicated situation, essentially me and my spouse are fine...however, his parents are extremely religious and anti-gay, so I am essentially being pressurised to leave the property when on a CR1 visa whilst they visit. However, I don't want to and feel that I am being forced to surrender my own values so that he doesn't cause animosity with his parents. What options are available to me? Do I have to just accept this?