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    trust issues

    in Middle East and North Africa

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    You've only known this guy 11 month and he's already asking for money. I know you probably have your heart invested in this man but honestly, he shouldn't be asking you for money. If I were you, I would've dropped him after the first request for money. I don't care how poor he is. If he didn't know you he would be surviving, right? He'd find a way to get by.

    I get so frustrated by these guys who think they're "owed" something because they're poor or have ####### jobs. Boo hoo...not your problem. They look at Americans with dollar signs in their eyes. He's a grown, healthy man. Tell him to put his big boy pants on and go out and work another job if money is that tight. Sorry for being harsh but I'm passionate about this subject.

    I agree with you. I told him this morning I was not going to support him. He claims he is ok with this. we shall see.. this is a huge test of our relationship. I was the one who kept helping him every month ( 6 months total $1900 plus to expensive trips.. my choice also so I am to blame for this) the test is to come. I do not have an instinct at all about this.. I just dont want to fill like a bad person, but as I told him I did not make him come to Italy and he has a home in Marrakech he can live in.. He always tells me I can live there if I want for free and he would support me. But given he makes about $10 a day, this would not work for me. I am really confused.. but I think the only way I will know his true feeling for me.. is to completley cut him off. Which I am doing. Thank you for your post

    regina

    I think the advice given so far is good.

    In nearly any culture around the world, a self respecting, good man would not ask for money from his girlfriend/fiancee. A good man should have enough pride and self respect to live on what he can earn, even if it is a humble life.

    He's asked for and received money from you already (after just 11 months) and that is not likely to change in the future. You need to ask yourself if this is the kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with. It isn't a trait that speaks good of his character, but of course you have to weigh these out for yourself. It is difficult to look at your own relationship from a distance, but give long thought to what kind of man would ask for money from you so easily.

    Best of luck,

    Brian

    thank you Brian

    trust issues

    in Middle East and North Africa

    Posted

    Hello

    If anyone is up at this time at night would really appreciate an honest answer. I met Salah my fiance in Jan. in May after I arrived, payed for the apartment for a month ( as his job is not providing him enough money to live on) he asked me for 200 euro to pay for a bed with a bunch of guys. As of June I have paid. I understand that work is not good for him, and have asked him on occasion to go back to Morroco where he could live for free. He said he would go if I went with him. He does not care he says about the visa.. and on to go further would rather live in Italy than the U.S. I am the one who thinks he should live here, as my buisness and I think life here is better. Anyway in a nutshell, yesterday, he called me to tell me that the Italian police had confiscated his posters. ( he sells these on the street) I lost it. I told him to move back to Morroco..went on and on about supporting him with his apartment for six months. Anyway, I don't know what to think. Is the guy using me? In my gut I dont think he is..

    any wisdom would be grea!! And I realize this site is for visas and not for relationship help.

    thank you

    regina

    What's he going to do if and when he gets to the US?

    he worked in a restaurant in morroco.. he would like to work as a waiter and learn about the restaurant buisness...

    trust issues

    in Middle East and North Africa

    Posted

    Hello

    If anyone is up at this time at night would really appreciate an honest answer. I met Salah my fiance in Jan. in May after I arrived, payed for the apartment for a month ( as his job is not providing him enough money to live on) he asked me for 200 euro to pay for a bed with a bunch of guys. As of June I have paid. I understand that work is not good for him, and have asked him on occasion to go back to Morroco where he could live for free. He said he would go if I went with him. He does not care he says about the visa.. and on to go further would rather live in Italy than the U.S. I am the one who thinks he should live here, as my buisness and I think life here is better. Anyway in a nutshell, yesterday, he called me to tell me that the Italian police had confiscated his posters. ( he sells these on the street) I lost it. I told him to move back to Morroco..went on and on about supporting him with his apartment for six months. Anyway, I don't know what to think. Is the guy using me? In my gut I dont think he is..

    any wisdom would be grea!! And I realize this site is for visas and not for relationship help.

    thank you

    regina

    change of address

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

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    Hello All,

    My fiance who has been residing in Italy, is considering moving back to Morroco. I under the assumption if he changes he address to Morroco, it is going to take even longer.. I want the best for him and will support him in this move. If this does occur do I need to call the consulate and update his address with them in Morroco. I guess I am looking for the ramifications if he decides to move.

    thank you

    regina

    over 30 days no answer about noa1

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    good evening everyone,

    I sent i-29f on sept 23.. it is nov 5th and as of today no notice of noa1? I am bit worried as my fiance does not speak english (only french and italian) any way I filled out the g325a on his behalf. I made notice of this on the form. Does this make a difference? I spoke to a customer service rep before I filled out this form and she in a very non chalant attitude said it was ok for me to fill out the form on his behalf.. I hope this is correct...

    frustration noa could be up to 90 days

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    I called the USICS number today as I have not heard from them ( filed form I-29f form 9/24/07) they told me they could respond in up to 90 days.. which in essence means.. 9 months of waiting possibly for my love.. this is extremely draining for me.. thanks in advance

    regina :whistle:

    Try to stay positive..it will go by fast at times, slow at other times...just remember what you are working towards and how worth it it will be in the end!!!

    Best of luck :thumbs:

    thank you thank you

    Well you've come to the right place because we're all in the same boat. It's sad, and it's tough, but we all know what you're going through. Just try to focus on your relationship and your future. And have a virtual margarita on me. :) Best of luck to you and your fiance.

    thank you thank you.. having that virtual margarita now...

    yeah finally sent out package today

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    hello everyone

    thank you to this site for this wonderful insight and advise.. it has helped me tremendously.today i sent the I-129f package off and running. i am really excited now.. and cant wait for my fiance to finally live with me.. I am hoping it is only six months as that seems to be the average.. does any one really know how long it takes? i vowe to be patient...

    regina shili :dance:

    It took less than 6 mths for me because I was ready and prepared for as much as I could be. Make sure you have everything you need and even things you dont think you need. If you have questions about things email your service center or your embassay they do help you.

    Best of luck.

    thanks for the advise.. i have been trying to follow this site as much as possible is it important that you have for example three originals of everyhting like birth certificate, divorce decree etc. just curious for other things you might need

    regi a

    a-number receipt number

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    The "Black Hole".....hahahahahahahahahaha!!!

    Yes indeed, USCIS does feel like a black hole sometimes! :lol:

    Once they get your package and cash the check, you will be able to see a copy of the back of the check where they will stamp your receipt number. Not sure where you filed, but if it's VSC it will start with "EAC" if it's CSC then "WAC". You can then log on here (https://egov.uscis.gov/cris/jsps/selectusertype.jsp;jsessionid=acbaYjVZR_YgU6kInv1ur) and you can register to get updates.

    Good luck!

    Vanessa.

    thank you.. it is a bit humurous at times this whole process.. it helps to laugh.. good luck to you as well..

    regina

    a-number receipt number

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    You will receive your "A" number once you get the NOA 2 a few months down the road. As stated above leave that part blank. You will first receive a NOA1 which will tell you they have received your petition then a few months later after gong through the process you will get the NOA 2 then the wait will begin. Good luck wit the process.

    NOA means Notice of Action, you will get 2 of them

    thank you for the information.. why was your visa denied.. sorry about that.. will everything be ok with you guys.. in my thoughts

    regina

    proof of ongoing relationship

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    I am so what confused. Do I need to proof that I am having an ongoing relationship? I have much proof of having met my fiance in the last two years, but I am not sure if I am ok with the ongoing. I have been to Italy in May and am returning in October, would my plane ticket in 19 days suffice as ongoing, also My fiance does not have email, we communicate via phone with a sprint calling card that I keep buying a refreshing as it runs out. Will these two pieces be enough.. thanks in advance

    thank you

    regina shili

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