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  1. Yeah, a friend of ours who is American moved to Holland and got married to a Dutch man. She had to take Dutch classes and reach a certain level before being legally able to work, yet most people speak English at her company....

  2. This is a great topic!

    I was worried about him meeting the kids but mostly because he's the first guy I dated since I got divorced. He came at Christmas, though we met last April, in Germany and "officially" started dating (because, you know, you can date someone 5000 miles away!) in August. That first meeting was bumpy. My son is 15, and very protective of his mom too, but I made the mistake of not really preparing them in advance. I always referred to P as "my friend" because I wasn't sure what we would do if he and the kids didn't work. As much as I love him, they have to come first. I thought it best not to upset them unnecessarily. Anyway, Christmas was bumpy but he made it clear too that he wasn't trying to take their dad's place and they eased into it.

    It was easier this time around. He was here for a month and neither of my kids wanted him to leave! My son is thrilled that he'll be moving here, and my daughter is happy because she really likes him but hasn't fully adjusted to the idea yet. Of course, her dad also has a new girlfriend, so it's big adjustments all around. This is one time where I think it's ok that we have a long process (not too long I hope!) until he gets here, because it gives her more time to get used to the idea.

    In the end I think if your kids know that this person loves you and treats you with respect and makes you happy, they'll love him too. Finding ways to help them bond is a great idea.

    I'm positive now, but that could change when he gets here permanently!

  3. Hi all,

    I am a USC and my fiance is a German citizen. We haven't filed our K1 paperwork yet, as he still has a semester of grad school and then his thesis left, but we found our way to this site and I figure it's not too early to start getting the lay of the land. We plan on filing the paperwork in August or September.

    I have a million questions, but I'm slowly getting some of them answered just by reading other sections of the boards.

    ~j

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