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38 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

Good that you were an effective student of the process.  Nice feeling of self-accomplishment.

I couldn’t afford a lawyer unfortunately, but if anyone has means I suggest getting a lawyer bec I almost lost my sanity tryin to do all of this on my own lol. The stress was too much that I thought it is what it is, thank god it’s all over now. 

11 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

Great news and a great feeling!

Thank you! I even lost hope already bec my case was so complicated no joint residence only a year bec after that we couldn’t afford it anymore. Almost no commingling assets.we handled finances separately bec my ex got addicted to drugs and alcohol.  I couldn’t even afford a lawyer. And filed a divorce in Nevada which I think saved my case due to my job always flying which made me capable of moving in every city/ state easily. And had a final decree with me on the day of my joint interview amending to divorce. Thank you all ! I seriously just read every case scenario here on VJ in doing my applications. 

20 minutes ago, zzBh13 said:

My case just got approved today! I had the most complicated case even amended my joint petition to a divorce waiver on my day of joint interview! There’s hope to everyone who’s still waiting!

On 8/10/2019 at 8:57 AM, BrokenWings said:

Your time line and patterns match with my case a lot surprisingly. Like F1, marriage and other events. The only difference - No joint filing and divorced after 22 months of marriage. I wish you good luck and keep us posted about your result. 

My case just got approved today ! For everyone still waiting!! There’s hope! I had the most complicated case and amended to a divorce waiver on the spot during my interview.

On 8/15/2019 at 5:11 AM, vvp said:

So you already went for i751 interview and now they transferred your case? Where is it transferred? Isn’t your case in local office already? Btw, how was the interview? What did they asked you?

My case just got approved today! I had the most complicated case even amended my joint petition to a divorce waiver on my day of joint interview! There’s hope to everyone who’s still waiting!

23 hours ago, vvp said:

Who knows... I’m still waiting for interview and it’s been 132 days. I’m not even divorced.

Just an update after me amending my case to divorce on my interview date aug 9th, I got an update saying my case was transferred to another office . My local office is CSC. And I don’t know if this is a bad thing. Anyone with similar situation?

28 minutes ago, LampPost said:

They wanted more evidence. My divorce happened after applying jointly. So now i sent my divorce decree and all evidence and requested for waiver.

 

After how long they call for an interview; after responding to RFE?

I sent mine my RFE for joint April 2019 but things didn’t go well with me and my husband I filed for a divorce July and I got called for the interview aug , I went to the interview amending my case to divorce with my final decree bec there’s no time to mail it anymore. Til now I’m waiting for a result.. only been 4 days since my interview 

9 hours ago, BrokenWings said:

Your time line and patterns match with my case a lot surprisingly. Like F1, marriage and other events. The only difference - No joint filing and divorced after 22 months of marriage. I wish you good luck and keep us posted about your result. 

Did you get interviewed? And how long did it take to get the result 

54 minutes ago, j-unique said:

Good day everyone..... Does anyone know if when a i751 waiver is garanted or denied, if it shows on the update in the uscis account or it comes only by mail?

1 hour ago, j-unique said:

Thank for your update, and hopefully the decision will be a positive one for you... Just pray and believe... 

 Thank you! Yes hopefully even though I feel like there are important informations that I just totally forgot and I talked a lot , it feels as if I was talking to a therapist or a friend which I know they said don’t talk too much. But she was nice in general that’s prolly why it felt comfortable. The only additional evidence I added was text messages and she asked she doesn’t see the dates or year and I said there are some with dates and others are continuation. Coz Idk for iMessage it doesn’t show year or every date of a message and Ofcourse I didn’t print everything , only those substantial tryin to save those papers for our environment. Lol I’m kidding. Just tryin to make us all relax. Also she didn’t ask for anything else even my birth certificate which is still currently in hongkong right now in transit. It didn’t come on time for my interview. Just a screenshot of my husbands IG post when I investigated how I found out he was cheating bec we both deleted our social media before due to jealousy. And I told her I don’t have any other additional evidence. She didn’t ask for photos either. Even my entry documents. 

Anyway my case is very complicated I guess more complicated than everyone has here. So don’t worry I believe y’all would have your approval soon. 

Timeline

F1 visa August 2014 

got married may 2015

got interviewed for GC November 2015 (approval on the spot)

i751 joint October 2017

not much evidences bec  aug 2016 we got into a huge physical fight but got back together dec 2016 and fight happened again.

whole  year of 2017 on and off (husband tryin to be sober but keeps having relapse 

overdose  feb 2018

year 2018 things started getting better bec he’s been tryin to get back on track

Things started getting better for him but he started cheating too , 4 years and 4 months we decided to divorce, we’re not in good terms and I didn’t ask him to come to the interview bec he used this over me (threats).

Aug 2019 came to a supposedly joint interview but I asked to amend to a divorce waiver with my final decree, IO didn’t make me sign any paper for it tho..,

she said 2-5 weeks waiting time for result. 

On 7/22/2019 at 12:51 PM, zzBh13 said:

I submitted joint bank account, we don’t have shared address it’s quite complicated bec we were not able to afford it and since I fly a lot and stay in hotels. We were on and off and fought a lot bec of money. But he got addicted and I have him on my insurance and sent them a medical record of his drug overdose; counseling sessions I had bec of a violent fight we had back 3 years ago; him as my beneficiary; health insurance; Optum cards; mileage card; and additional I could print out are text messages of our fights, and an email from him blaming me that I’m the bad cloud in his life etc that’s why his acting career went down; name calling (he’s verbally abusive) . My mistake was I should’ve just filed on divorce waiver from the beginning but since we were on and off and our fights became a regular thing it’s more like we’re just really two immature couples with bunch of petty fights so we never really thought of divorcing bec was hoping fights would stop when he starts booking acting jobs again and our money problems would go away. But other than that, I don’t really have any traditional evidences like a conventional married life. I’m 30 and he’s 31.

 

 

 

 

 

I just went for my interview today. Lasted I guess an hour, the IO was nice but firm, and I forgot important informations for some reason. I didn’t get sleep the whole night organizing my evidences which I barely have and added text messages screenshots. She asked if I have questions and she said in 2-5 weeks I will received a mail either with a green card or not or other information they might ask. I can’t believe I forgot information like what other jobs my husband did coz he did so many jobs but I forgot to mention the one that’s actually in the w2. I just mentioned those under the table jobs he did which earned him a lot of money. Then I cried when I was explaining the divorce thus couldn’t even speak well in the beginning which was so embarrassing 😭😭 oh well it is what it is like you said. At this point I feel sick already mentally and emotionally just about everything I went through this 4 year marriage waiting that it might get better but still end up in a divorce bec he’s cheating already like what’s the point of it all. I still hope it will get approved so I have the options later on if I wanna stay or not.

Anyway I promise to give you guys an update since I didn't have a lawyer and basically just replied doing my application by reading post here.

50 minutes ago, dumiduda1990 said:

I'm assuming you meant your I-751 (not divorce) was jointly filed? 

 

Yes it is.

 

If that's the only additional evidence you have, it is what it is  What did you submit originally?

I submitted joint bank account, we don’t have shared address it’s quite complicated bec we were not able to afford it and since I fly a lot and stay in hotels. We were on and off and fought a lot bec of money. But he got addicted and I have him on my insurance and sent them a medical record of his drug overdose; counseling sessions I had bec of a violent fight we had back 3 years ago; him as my beneficiary; health insurance; Optum cards; mileage card; and additional I could print out are text messages of our fights, and an email from him blaming me that I’m the bad cloud in his life etc that’s why his acting career went down; name calling (he’s verbally abusive) . My mistake was I should’ve just filed on divorce waiver from the beginning but since we were on and off and our fights became a regular thing it’s more like we’re just really two immature couples with bunch of petty fights so we never really thought of divorcing bec was hoping fights would stop when he starts booking acting jobs again and our money problems would go away. But other than that, I don’t really have any traditional evidences like a conventional married life. I’m 30 and he’s 31.

50 minutes ago, dumiduda1990 said:

Financial co-mingling is the biggest thing. Shared residency, co-mingled medical/insurance, etc are pretty important too.

 

I believe you can by telling me in your interview. 

51 minutes ago, dumiduda1990 said:

I'm assuming you meant your I-751 (not divorce) was jointly filed? 

 

Yes it is.

 

If that's the only additional evidence you have, it is what it is  What did you submit originally?

 

Financial co-mingling is the biggest thing. Shared residency, co-mingled medical/insurance, etc are pretty important too.

 

I believe you can by telling me in your interview. 

Hmm reading all this post about the waiver it gets kinda scary. My divorce was jointly filed and filed it in Nevada , I’m hoping to get my final decree before I go to my joint petition interview and I’ll just try to amend it to a divorce waiver under good faith right on the spot. Is that possible? Bec by the time I get my final decree is probably only two or three days left before my interview. And the only additional evidence I have are the text messages  between me and my husband that I was able to retrieved and photos of his new girl that he’s dating already so at this point there’s really no reconciliation anymore. Idk how they base good faith, but we entered in good faith and ended it in good faith. For 4 years that we’ve been married and struggled fixing the marriage, we came to an end and right before the interview too

since anyway he wouldn’t make changes on his schedule to even attend or help me with the interview and at this point I just have to think on how I could utilize a legal way available to me in getting my condition removed.

So my question is can I amend my joint petition to a divorce waiver when I get to my interview? Do I just tell them or do I need to print some forms for it? If even my final decree comes earlier like a week before I highly doubt they’ll receive it on time before the interview and I just thought maybe then I can get a result whether it’s approval or denial. The whole process is just excruciating on top of struggling to save my marriage before.

1 hour ago, vvp said:

If it would be me, I would run to the courthouse and file the divorce at this very moment. Your situation is serious, uscis won’t approve you just like that if your husband won’t show up. You need an attorney, but I understand, maybe with the money situation, it’s tough. What are you planning to do?

Yes that’s what I’m planning to do. Im

Goin to file in Nevada so I could get a decree in 1-3 weeks. Just in time before my interview. If I get the final decree should I send a copy to USCIS if even maybe i

get it before the interview? Or just go straight and ask to

amend during the interview?

24 minutes ago, TK619 said:

One keep track of everything about the fight and when your husband closed the joint bank account. I'm not sure when the interview is. I'm assuming that it's a month from when you get the letter. You need to talk to an attorney asap and see what they can do. Since I'm not an attorney, the only thing I can tell you is to document everything. Make sure you have all the photos and everything including divorce decree. If you're able to convert it to a divorce waiver, the USCIS is more likely going to schedule an interview. 

he just recently closed it, actually he just removed his name and opened his own account. I found out after i sent the statements for RFE, he got really mad i requested statements for two years and the account went negative. our joint interview is first week of august, but he refused to go specially he has DUI classes he has to attend and wont do anything for me, or even re-schedule.

8 hours ago, vvp said:

Was your case transferred prior to the interview notice? I’m not sure what to advise you, but I think you need an attorney. If your husband refuses to go to the interview with you, you should file for divorce ASAP. Once you file, send USCIS a letter and explain your situation. 

no it wasnt. it has always been at CSC

Hello. I’m quite on the same situation right now. I filed i751 removal of my conditions as joint with my spouse October 2017. However before that we already had physical fights. I have photos and counseling session. I needed to go because I had to take a leave of absence from work and I was advised to get counseling session by my work company. I actually mainly went bec I was out from work for 3 weeks bec of what happened between me and my

husband. We had many ups and downs. The big physical fight we had bec he was under the influence of alcohol and drugs bec of

his depression as his acting career went downhill and can’t book any jobs. He would always even blame that since we got married bad luck started happening to him. Ofcourse I don’t believe that as what my therapist said abusive people always try to make you think everything is your fault. Anyhow we would get back together and separate and get back together. Only bec sometimes he’s sober and tryin to make our marriage work and promises to change. Physical violent fight started happening September 2016 then it stopped then happened agian dec 2016. After that mostly when we’re fighthing is just verbal abuse. Also he’s very bipolar. Sometimes I give him my adderal ((((I buy it from someone I know but I don’t have prescription ; I take it to feel emotionless and focus at work; my husband had made such a huge negative impact on my mental and emotional well being that I need the substance to get up from bed and go to work))))

to calm down and have sound judgment. . (He used to have adderal prescription before when he was a kid but he was refused by the psychiatrist he recently went to June 2017 because he’s under the impression of substance abuse). Long story short, I was still able to file joint petition bec he was sober, however I got a notice for interview and we just recently fought again this time about money, that he removed his name on our joint bank account and opened his own bank account. He has this erratic behavior that when he’s mad he doesn’t have sound judgment anymore. Right now he told me he won’t go to the interview and we can just get divorced, but in California it takes 6 months to get a final decree which I wouldn’t have if even id be given 87 daya

RFE for it.  

I was thinking should I go to the interview alone , and convert to an abuse waiver and I will also file a divorce too. But I’m thinking maybe I have a higher chance of not being denied if I go to convert to an abuse waiver. Is that even a thing? Since most of my evidences are actually bout counseling sessions photos of bruises, his drug overdose medical record, and his psychiatric medical record when he went to a doctor to try to get adderal. 

The only evidences we had were taxes filed jointly 2015,2017,2018. 2016 was filed separately just bec that’s when I thought there’s no chance of reconciliation. I also sent health insurance card. We don’t have joint assets or even car. I have a car lease which isn’t even under my name. We don’t have common residency (we couldn’t afford it since he couldn’t book any acting jobs) I’m a flight attendant and whenever im in town I stay at my old place for free where I help with errands for the old couple who owns the place. My

husbans used to

stay there before but never changed his address bec

he wants immediate access

to

his

mails which we don’t have. Only the old couple has access to mails and just hand it to me all the time. So the problem is we don’t even share same address. When I’m not in town my husband keeps residency in another address where he house sits and he get to stay in the guest house for free so all his mails go there. ( I couldn’t however put that address as my main address or even move my stuff there permanently bec the owner doesn’t like a Couple to stay there) anyway im a flight attendant pretty much living in a suitcase so it Doesn’t  matter to me. I stay with him whenever i can and also when the owner of the house he house sits is out of town.) pretty much we handle our finances separately too bec

right now

im the only one with a stable

job and don’t even earn enough money. And before he uses it to buy drugs so since then I refuse to

share my earnings.

so we pretty much  live our marriage life like a bf and gf who handles their own finances. I know my story is very long about the reasons why we don’t have much of the evidences USCIS want to see in a normal marriage,

but it is how we

handled our marriage. But right now I can’t do it anymore specially he knew I need him for the interview and he refuses, which I’m so over with that I’m so tired tryin and tolerating his erratic mood swings and I agreed to just get a divorce too Since I can’t really even rely on him anymore. If only I could tell USCIS that for all the things I’ve been through with my husband I think it’s just right for me to actually just focus on myself now and save myself from being placed to removal proceedings. I know they might think why I didn’t leave him the soonest possible. Answer is simple. I’m young and naive and fell in love and no matter how embarrassing to admit, I was manipulated into thinking I won’t find anybody else anymore. (Narcissistic behavior of an abuser). I’m so over everything and the mental and emotional impact he had cause me that there are times I don’t even care anymore about my status. But Ofcourse I want to rebuild my life agian, go back to school and focus on myself that’s why I want to stay here. I was an international student before never out of status when I married my husband, but things went to the opposite direction and didn’t turn out the way I want my marriage to be. I tried to own up to my decision marrying and keeping us together but it just seems not working at all.

Please give me an insight on how I should proceed with my case. I can’t really even afford a lawyer as I live paycheck to paycheck.

Hi everyone,

I was hoping to get an insight. I filed for removal of my conditions OCT 2017 (i751 joint petition), got extension letter and RFE, sent my RFE April 12th, and today got an interview notice to appear first week of August at CSC. A little background about us, me and my husband had a lot of ups and downs, mostly his drug abuse since he started not being able to book any acting jobs for some reason after we got married in May 2015, so we struggled so much about money and fought a lot, we've been separated and would get back together on and off. But the last draw was a month ago with a very serious financial fight we had and my spouse (US citizen) just wanted a divorce. At this point he started dating someone else already too, and wouldn't even cooperate or help me anymore for the joint interview. I was thinking maybe its just best to get a divorce now, Im thinking of getting the divorce in Nevada since ive been staying there at a friends house for about a month now. WE  both live in LA, but I'm a flight attendant so I could pretty much fly anywhere, and since that huge fight about money I haven't come home since or stayed in LA for more than 2 days. When I'm not flying for work, I recently stayed at my friends in Nevada and I was actually told I can actually get a fast divorce in there. I was hoping if there's no way of reconciliation anymore, then it'll be an uncontested divorce, should I just file it now or after the holiday so by the time I go for my interview alone, I can request a conversion to a divorce waiver with the final decree with me. 

Im quite confused, but if my husband doesn't really cooperate anymore, worst case is I get denied anyway and if I don't get a divorce now, I wouldn't even have a fighting chance going to the interview alone on a joint filing. 

Pleas give me some insights. I can't really afford a lawyer, and I've been handling my case on. my own. 

Hello everyone,

I just signed up but I’ve been reading post here. I received RFE too and sent my response April 12 and just today I got a mail for interview. However me and my husband have been fighting a lot lately and we were on and off tryin to fix our marriage. When I told him about the interview he refused and told me he wouldn’t come and we should just file a divorce at this point. It was a joint filing and my interview is on August 9th at CSC. At this point if there’s no possible way of reconciliation anymore should I just file a divorce now and go to my interview alone and convert it to a divorce waiver? Please give me some insights as I don’t really know what to

do at this point. My husband and I fought a lot before bec of his drug abuse and financial matters and right now I don’t think he would still help me specially he even closed our joint bank account recently when we had a big fight about money. I just thought maybe we can still

be fixed. We’ve been married for about 4 years now.