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We had an RFE for something that happened 15 years ago in my life. The records they asked for no longer exist because they were minro so we submitted certified documents from courts stating this.

I've been stressed out over this and other issues in life. Finally got some sleep last night somehow but still on edge.

Take a look at my sig timeline. Think our NOA2 is coming soon?

Is it possible to get touches like this and get denied?

For what it's worth, I have prayed for all of us who are waiting for the NOA ( miracle ) -2 just a few ago. I tried to remember as many names as possible.

Thank you.

I have said a silent prayer myself after reading about your prayer.

I'm not very religious but I do believe.

My signature says it all as for delays. I know I have not been waiting as long as some of you but it is a long time for the VSC.

I don't know what to do. Besides delays in the K-1 there are also personal issues affecting my income and I don't know how things will turn out in that regard until a day or two. I mean... I will make enough for us to live a nice life but things are going to be much different for me financially due to circumstances beyond my control. I have told my fiancee this. She was upset but not because of the money part. She was upset because I am upset and confused for now. The biggest problem is not knowing. Just like the K-1 NOA2 there are other things up in the air. Very trying times that were completely unexpected.

My fiancee has been supportive and told me we are life partners. She is such a good woman.

Sometimes I feel like it is just unfair that there is some process that might keep soulmates from being with each other. We are SO happy when we are with each other. It's amazing how much we complement each other as people.

I'm stressed... and I am definitely having trouble sleeping for the past few days.

I know that these things will all pass... but it is difficult to relax given the financial trauma on top of all the other worries.

Any input appreciated.

Satellite and AK...

Your comments are received and considered.

It is nice to have other's perspective.

I'm more worried about my NOA2 than how much money she needs once she gets here. But she will need something and I am prepared to deal with it.

My point being that I made initially is that the original poster of this thread did not appear to be financially prepared.

Either that or he is controlling and does not want his wife to have freedoms. She is a freak for cutting herself of course but the whole story seems odd.

Again... Why was there a 4 month delay between her visa and her POE?

Well, If I recall correctly from a few years ago yours brought enough to give you an allowance but mine will not have that situation. Mine usually travels with $ 400-500 on her. Still I don't want her spending her money.

AK, There are cash people and plastic people and I am a cash people. I have not used an ATM machine in 15 years and the only ATM card I have is in Russia. I have a wallet full of credit cards but use them as little as possible except for business. I don't go out for a quart of milk without what a lot of people would consider a lot of money on me.

I guess the money in the drawer thing would work fine. That is what I used to do with my ex long ago. My fiancee asked about an allowance so she did not have to ask me for money. If she is more comfortable with a couple of thousand sitting in a drawer that she can access whenever she needs that is fine with me. In fact I already have that so all I would have to do is tell her what drawers. She is a very conservative gal so I don't worry about her blowing it because it is there.

T/G... I think we're on the same wavelength.

Not that we're right... but at least I can suggest that we're not necessarily wrong.

Well AK, from the time she arrives until she can work she is about as dependent on you as a child would be, is she not?

Well, if she doesn't show up with any money I guess, sure.

What if she is hot and want a soda and can't find a soda machine that will take plastic.

Don't you guys have a convenience store on practically every corner? If not, maybe we can send some your way.

Only cash I usually carry is quarters for parking meters, and even so, that's a stash that is sitting in the car somewhere.

If you feel cash is the only way to get by, then leave a big pile of cash in the house and tell her to use some when she needs some. Makes cash available, without an allowance, and without having to ask for it. An ATM card will also serve this purpose. No need to resort to an allowance system.

The problem with an allowance system is that it tends to create a desire to spend money. The thought process goes like this, "I get $X per whatever to spend on anything I want. This is MY money. Therefore, I will spend $X per whatever on anything I want." There TENDS to be less thought given to what one really needs to spend, or should spend. Same thing happens in government. "Well, property taxes brought in $x this year. We need to find a way to spend that money." God forbid it spends only what is necessary and gives the rest back to the tax payers. Hell no, it will spend every last dime, and usually then some.

Cheers!

AKDiver

Very good points about government and well taken.

I'm not sure exactly what we will do. I was thinking to give her a reasonable weekly cash amount to freely spend or save. This is difficult to put a number on because we (On this board) are obviously all in different financial situations.

I do agree with you with the credit card deal. I mean... she will have credit cards of course. I was commenting only on the cash available without her needing to ask or me seeing the statements. Freedom in spending.

I think we're going slightly off topic and this could be a thread all by itself.

In any case... I was thinking of ways to ensure she feels free and comfortable. Giving her about the same money per month/week she makes working back home until she can work here seemed like a logical start. This would allow her to live with the same financial freedoms she did back home. Am I terribly wrong in this thought?

I honestly would like some russian women input on this question.

I spent a few weeks in Russia and I cannot imagine being there without cash. Why on earth would I expect my wife to be without cash? Again... am i wrong?

As for another poster's comment - $200-$300/week spending money? Christ, I don't even get that kind of spening money, and I make a shitload. I don't think most people are in that kind of situation, where they can absorb blowing that kind of cash. I don't think "not being financially ready" is a valid argument. People live like they live, and I don't know ANYONE running up those kind of phone and text messaging bills, no matter how much they make. There is something called trust and responsibility and understanding. In this case, the topic was discussed, an understanding was made, and actions did not follow. That's a problem.

AKDiver

AK... What do you consider a shitload of money? Ah... nevermind. I think $200 a week is fine. After all I plan on charging her rent, food, and of course she will need to pay me for sex. This will cut into her allowance but will keep her fed until she can get her green card and get a job to support me and my son.

(That was a joke)

But seriously... I don't think it unreasonable for a household to set aside some spending money for a new wife coming from overseas. And... maybe it would only be $100.00 a month in some households but it MUST be something.

With my income the $200 weekly feels ok for me. For others it might be less or more.

When I first started communicating to russia I ran up some large phone bills. So what. Pay them and move on.

People place way too much importance on money I think.

Too bad you didn't learn about internetcalls.com Three months of unlimited calling to Russia (land lines) for about $13 total. My wife is calling to her daughter and friends almost every day.

But I guess there is much more to your relationship problems than phone bills....

I use skype for outgoing calls and sms to russia. It is much more affordable than phone company.

you can see at skype.com

I agree with T/G... It is just not right in my opinion to stop someone from the freedom of communication. Especially after bringing her to this country.

Having said that... I would like to comment a bit more. This relationship seems strange.

Like T/G said... if you're worried about $75.00 a month... or even a few hundred... then you are probably under capitalized on the whole international marriage deal. I mean when your woman comes to this country she has no source of income. You should at least have a reasonable amount of spending money to give her. If she is like many women from Russia she will need that money to help her support family and at a minimum be able to buy herself things needed.

I plan on giving my woman about $200.00 -$300.00 a week spending money. More if she needs it or wants a major item. Probably a couple thousand extra during the first few weeks so she can purchase items to help in her transition.

BUT... In line with what Slim stated... regardless of whether this is a RW or AW you have a huge problem if she is really cutting herself. First I would be concerned about hers and yours safety. This is unacceptable. Second you are on the verge of facing serious charges if she is taken seriously by police and hospital. Unfortunately for you if she is really cutting herself, she WILL be taken seriously.

I think you need to make a quick decision to not be around this woman without an escort at all if this is the case. I would even go so far as ask the police be present while you get your things and find a hotel room until she can leave the country.

I looked at your timeline and noticed something odd:

Visa Received : 2006-10-17

US Entry : 2007-02-12

Why did it take 4 months before she came to you here? This smells like something is not kosher. I know once my Fiancee gets her visa she will want to fly within a few days to her new home.

Was it her that delayed her entry for some reason?

Or was it because of your financial situation and you needed to wait for an airline ticket?

This whole story sounds odd.

I received and RFE asking for certified court and certified police (arrest) records from 1992 misdemeanor conviction.

The conviction was NOT related to DV or alcohol related.

This sucks. What a waste of time.

Hello all!

Our I-129F is on its way to Moscow. All of the worrying we did was in vein. The whole process has been pretty painless considering the issues I had with my past. I did have to phone NVC to get the downlow on the date of receipt and date the petition was forwarded to Moscow. The automated phone info was useless. I only had to wait two minutes on the phone to speak to someone and they promtly gave me the dates I asked for after a few security questions.

Best of luck to you all!

Congratulations my friend.

I hope the best for your fiancee and child in russia. Hopefully your case will be speedy.

I am wondering if there has been anyone here filing a K-1 for a fiancee and been denied even before an NOA2 is granted.

I am curious and did a search but did not see a denial of a K-1 on the USA side in the results. Is this even possible? It seems that everyone gets approved however some people have been delayed.

I received an RFE April 20, so I don't know what they are requesting yet. Maybe my income? I sent taxes for 2003, 2004, and 2005 but did not send 2006. Maybe they want that? I think I'll go nuts trying to guess so I'll stop now.

Sorry... going a little crazy here worrying about the process. I have some criminal history issues including a recent DWI. No felonies but all criminal issues look bad on paper. Can this cause a denial? Or will I possibly be delayed with waivers? I do have a lawyer and they said my packet looked good.

Ugh... Please do not flame me because of my criminal record. I am living a different life now and most issues were over 12 years ago.

to be honest with you, once i have my babydoll here with me, i dont care how long the rest of the process takes So i really rather be in your shoes

Hi,

Not all of us VSC K-1 filers are getting that 2 week approval. I used a lawyer with a thourough checklist... and I am still not approved after 6 weeks.

I got an RFE being snail mailed to me as of the 20th of April but I don't know what on earth they are going to ask for. I am sure it is something which is not simple because... like i said... my law firm had a complete checklist.

When I first filed I estimated time of visa at 3 1/2 to 4 months if we got NOA2 in a couple weeks. Now I am adding time to that estimate every day it takes to get the NOA2.

All of this is a little confusing to me. I mean... it really sucks that me and my darling need to wait. I was in Russia for three weeks in April with her (second visit) and we are so close. We are definitely the other half of each other and both of us just want to be together so we can live our life.

I'm with you! I don't care if the other processes take a bit longer, as long as we're together while we wait.

- David

I know other service centers are slower than VSC but I am concerned because there is no approval yet. Anyone else have this many days at VSC? Seems march filers from that date are all approved.

Any ideas what may have caused delay?

I do have past DWI charges. Would that slow the process?

With these many touches your case will probably get an RFE. Call 18003755283 and type 122421 you will be transferred to VSC not USCIS customer service they will tell you if you got an RFE or not. That is how I found out about my RFE that was generated on 03/15/2007 but not received until 04/07/2007.

I hope your case is not the same but usually VSC does not take that long unless you have a RFE.

OK... Bimax,

I tried this telephone number again on Thursday and got through to VSC. Thank you.

I was told there is an RFE on the way. On friday the RFE came through on the website. I still do not know what they are asking for.

I have a lawyer - Holmes and Lolly out of California. It seems they had a very complete checklist and they reviewed my packet before sending it in. I doubt it is something simple like a signature.

Seeing that I have an attorney to check everything first... I am very curious to find out what the RFE will be asking for.

Sheesh... Looks like I am going to have one more month to my estimated time just because of this, and I am worried what the RFE might ask for.

Any ideas?

Thanks for the info/support. I have been lurking here and researching for a few weeks.

I can understand stopping (trying to stop) terrorists from entering the country... but we american citizens already live here. Why should they (US gov) delay any free american citizen from bringing a fiance(e)? Nevermind... different topic and let's not go down that road.

In any case, I am a bit concerned and my concern grows larger a bit every day. I hope everything will be OK and I am just worrying for no reason.

Bimax,

I tried that phone number and extension but did not get the VSC. I will try again after I post this.

I know other service centers are slower than VSC but I am concerned because there is no approval yet. Anyone else have this many days at VSC? Seems march filers from that date are all approved.

Any ideas what may have caused delay?

I do have past DWI charges. Would that slow the process?