Thank you for the time to post this information. This case isn't a Hague adoption of course. We were living here in the Philippines for two years before the adoption was finalized and still live here. The age gap did come up during the court proceedings but during the hearings, it was 45 years difference for my wife and the child. My wife is a dual citizen and is related to the child so this influenced the court decision I believe. We anticipated but wasn't sure that we would have to file under the relatives provision using an I-130.
I am going to need to find an immigration attorney in the US I believe. Maybe I can get the petition done for slightly less than $7k.