SadGirlneedshelp

On 3/5/2019 at 12:06 PM, Talk2me said:

Congrats! Am happy yo hear that. Am afraid am in a similar situation as you were. My husband abandoned me after confessing to another woman claiming he is the father to baby boy. And he has been in jail several times for owed child support and Assult. I dont want to be in the marriage anymore. My question to you is dis you file a no fault divorce or contested divorce because we filed a joint petition in September, 2017 few months after he confessed to me he left and I havent heard from him. Now we received a RFE and I plan to inform USCIS with my reply to RFE and Divorce proceedings paperwork. Does it matter if I file a no fault divorce to get the divorce final quickly? I need help

Sorry I've been traveling this whole month and wasn't able to reply sooner. I'm sorry to hear your situation. My divorce was a no-fault divorce. My ex would contest and lie to USCIS if I did otherwise. That's just what he is good at. I think if you really plan to divorce, you should tell USCIS by writing a letter to them. I never received an RFE. But I sent a letter to them anyway along with updated evidence and told them to change my name back. They read the letter and changed my name back on my new GC.

10 hours ago, Sani1988 said:

Congrats can u share timeline when did u apply for removing condition and when u got approved? 

Thank u 

Sure! Here is my timeline:

Applied for ROC with my then USC husband on 10/19/2017

Divorced 7/31/2018

Sent decree and a letter request to change my last name back to my maiden name 8/31/2018

Case received at my local office: 2/25/2018

Case transferred to NBC 11/16/2018

Case approved with name changed 2/27/2019

Card mailed to me 3/2/2019

1 minute ago, SadStories said:

Oh how happy for you!!!!! Unfortunately, I still have my also cheating ex-husband last name!!!!!!! Since we first file a joint petition and then a year later I switch to divorce they did not change my name, but I will change it during the naturalization 

I also filed the joint petition together with him with his last name. I hope 'your name has been updated' means they saw my last letter and changed my name on the card. Do you remember if you got such notice as well?

Hi all,

Just wanted to update my case here. I just got my card approved and my name updated! Yay finally don't have to use my cheating ex-husband's disgusting name on official documents anymore (except for my past academic publications - I have to explain it to people all the time)!!!

No RFE no interview. I hope everyone got their case approved smoothly as well!

On 11/22/2018 at 2:06 PM, Tunisian_tunisia said:

Hi guys, i really need help

I'm on a conditional GC, i came to the states on a K1 visa. i'll be filing for removal of condition in juin 2019. 

Me and my wife have been having some issues, but would always work them out, Recently things got worse and she asked me to leave the house and give her some space, which i did. i'm currently living with her parents and they know what is going on. The thing that i learned form her parents is that she have depression issues since she was a kid which i had no clue about. her parents told me that she needs therapy, so i'm working on getting a marriage counselor and also getting her to go to a therapist to get some medication. even tho i have been out of the house, i was still paying her rent and paying all the bills just so we don;t lose the apartment and also because i thought this is just temporary and we will eventually work things out. 

what chocked today, is that i got access to her social media and i found out that she was also talking to another guy since 5 days ago, and that also her friend  from ( a female) is having her out every weekend so they can meet other guys. 

given the fact that i was having all the good intentions to keep this marriage going but she took advantages of my efforts to cheat on me, now i'm really concerned about renewing my green card. I'm really so scared that divorcing her will result in me not getting my 10 years GC. i'm a student currently and i also work to pay the bills while she stays at home. i'm honestly busting my butt since day 1 to make a good living for the family. also, her parents are 100% on my side and said that i should confront her about her cheating and stop paying her rent and bills. but to be honest with you guys, i really don't want to do this and lose my chance to remove my condition. please help

I'm on the same boat with you. Just file for divorce. No need to stay in this relationship. My ex told me similar things like he needed to get his work done and he was too stressed blah blah blah. But in fact he was cheating on me with another girl in a different state! Then he told me he needed more space and it is normal for a couple to live in different houses to have their own space. But in fact the moment I moved out, the other girl from New Hampshire flew to Minnesota to move in with him. Now they are about to get married. His family initially supported me as well. But later they are all on his side.

Just have faith in God and hopefully things will work out without your spouse.

9 hours ago, ros88 said:

 

When it is saying that I will receive a notice what does it mean?

What kind of notice?

CAN BE AN EXTENSION LETTER? AN I 797 NOTICE THAT EXTEND MY STATUS?

I WOULD APPRECIATE ANY ANSWER!!!!tHANK YOU!

I got the notice in mail and it says my case was transferred to Nebraska...

On 11/24/2018 at 10:36 AM, Tunisian_tunisia said:

i confronted her last night, after catching her on her way to cheat with the other guy. She admitted it but blamed it on me. To be honest, i'm emotionally broken right now, but i just wanted to share this so maybe someone will give me some advice or make me aware of what i should do next. I don't know if she will file for divorce or she will just run away, but currently i moved in with her parents and they are waiting on her to show up so they have a conversation with her.They are way beyond angry with her and they offered me all the support i might need. I'm filled with anger and hurt and at this point and i don't care what she does, all i care about that i don't want to end up the on who gets cheated on and on top of that have my residency at risk, especially that i'm a student and i definitely have a future here.

thank

Sorry that you have to go through this like I did a few months ago. I filed for the divorce while my ROC is pending. Haven't heard anything back yet. But hope for the best!

I'm glad your in-laws are supportive. The first reaction my former in-law had when he heard us going through separation (long before divorce) was "Come and visit your cousins. They are waiting to marry you!"

1 hour ago, SabeehNajam said:

same question, I got this notification today

Same here.

1 hour ago, BrianK said:

Did you wait until divorce was finalized before sending? My friend is in a similar situation, she sent in her joint I-751 in November and has just decided to divorce - not sure if she should let them know now that she is planning to divorce or wait until the divorce is finalized.

Yes. I sent them the final decree.

4 hours ago, SadStories said:

Hello,

When I send my paperwork with the update I did not hear anything back either. After 2 months I called and I talked to a tier two immigration officer who did a service request to make sure the new documents were placed with my file. Then a few weeks later I got a letter responding to the service request saying that my updated documents were placed with my file and were going to be reviewed with all my information.  

 

Thanks for the info! In your resubmitted file, did you include any newly filled form (e.g. refilling I-751)? Or did you just submit a letter saying you want a switch along with some other materials?

Thanks!

Hi all,

I already submitted my updates along with the divorce decree to the USCIS to switch my jointly filed i-751 to a waiver. But I haven't heard anything from them. What do I expect next? I do not see any updates on myUSCIS either. Will I eventually receive a confirmation letter in my mail?

Thanks!

12 minutes ago, Unidentified said:

IF you decide to have your therapist write up a letter and you decide to send it in, make sure you're therapist does not write anything about the mental status of your soon to be former spouse. Your therapist has never met your spouse and can therefore not make a diagnosis and if she does write in the letter it would be highly unprofessional and most likely illegal. 

Thanks! I talked with my therapist the other day. Although I haven't seen the letter yet, I think she will handle it well, because she told me she wrote them before to various other situations, including to the police and the court.

8 hours ago, USC4SPOUSE said:

For the I-751 you shouldn't rely on sending updated items. They want everything from the date of the marriage until the day the relationship ended. In this political climate, I would just stick to the instructions and send everything. Even if the evidence overlaps with the evidence you sent in with your

I-130/I-485, it does not matter. They may not reach for that file to fill in any gaps there might be. Yes, it's going to weigh a few pounds. Just send it UPS ground. Our AOS package weighed 13 lbs. 

I am just saying. Leave nothing to chance and send more evidence. Follow the format on that last link I shared with you.

 

All the best, 

 

USC4SPOUSE

Thanks! I mean updates since I filed I-751. I already sent some documents. I guess it doesn't hurt to send everything all over again. Thanks so much! 

1 hour ago, USC4SPOUSE said:

I beg to disagree with the consensus here.  Do not forget that these are all opinions. The instructions state "Submit copies of documents indicating that the marriage upon which you were granted conditional status was entered in “good faith” and was not for the purpose of circumventing immigration laws. Submit copies of as many documents as you can to establish this fact, to demonstrate the circumstances of the relationship from the date of the marriage to the present date, and to demonstrate any circumstances surrounding the end of the relationship, if it has ended."

 

I do not see how or why a letter from your therapist is irrelevant. You are clearly not intending to submit such letter in lieu of a divorce decree. Does the letter demonstrate that your marriage was real? Not on its own. However, if you add that to other evidence of bona fide marriage that you may have, then yes, the letter adds a layer or another facet. 

 

I can't speak for the intentions behind the opinion of others. But you have to do what's in your best interest. That letter does not weigh 1 gram. Adding it to your file will not hurt you. Aside from that, your husband proved he can't be trusted. Who's to say that he won't turn around and mail a letter to USCIS accusing you fraud or whatever? So it seems to me that having your therapist state the reason you came to him/her and certify on letterhead the dates that you had therapy, would actually be helpful to demonstrate any circumstances surrounding the end of the relationship.

 

Before I respond to posts, I generally look through previous posts and I imagine others do, as well. It's inevitable to judge and wonder if you are telling the truth or not. There are some inconsistencies. For example: I am not sure I understand why you wouldn't front load and overload your I-751 petition to begin with. On this post, you asked "do I also need to send a lot of other information including tax files for the last year, pictures of joint credit cards, bank statements, and texts between us since we met ( I did not send all these materials since I thought our marriage is real and we were happily married, and was never afraid of any RFE or interviews)?

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/677772-switching-to-wavier-after-the-divorce/?tab=comments#comment-9268877

 

You are switching your I-751 to a waiver. This is your opportunity to include as much evidence of bona fide marriage as you can. EVERYTHING. There's no such thing as sending too many bank statements. You should craft a meticulous Table of Contents that lists ALL YOUR EVIDENCE and includes a brief explanation of what your evidence is proof of. Here is the Table of contents that I used as a guide for the I-130/I-485. http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/604970-i-751-cover-letter-list-of-evidence-samples-and-reviews-megathread/

 

Again, I do not understand why you wouldn't just send anything and everything that you have available to begin with. I would if I were you. 

 

All the best,

 

USC4SPOUSE

 

 

 

 

Thank you so much for your suggestion!

I just thought if I show that we have some joint accounts it should be fine. I did not send all the bank statements from the beginning of our marriage to the end because that would make it tens of pounds (we have multiple joint bank accounts too). I did not send any credit card copies because when we had the first interview, the officer said it was not necessary to make copies of those. But anyway, I have them in hand now and I will add more updated items. I will also have two more affidavits from my coworkers who know both of us.

On ‎3‎/‎6‎/‎2018 at 3:53 PM, cute-cactus said:

Unfortunately, my husband decided just a few days ago that he wanted to divorce. We have been married for 3 years and almost 7 months. He has not yet applied for a divorce. 

Like I said, our case status was just recently updated saying that our case will be transferred to a local office. My question is: What should I do now if I get an interview or if I don't?
Will they deny the 10 green card? Will I be deported? Should I ask a divorce waiver now? I don't know what procedure to follow to have my case approved, even if now my husband wants to divorce. I am scared, stressed and exhausted and I don't want to have any problem with the immigration. Is there anybody in my situation or who has been in my situation?

 

From my personal experience, husband wanting out of a happy marriage always posts a sign of infidelity. If that is the case, never trust them with anything. My ex also promised to wait until I get my 10-year GC. But I found out he took $40,000 out of bank account for unknown reasons and did not hesitate to proceed with the divorce 3 months later. I understand you may still love him and trust him and wouldn't believe they would lie to you or anything. But the truth is usually hard to accept. I would choose to move on with my life and do not rely on him. 

10 minutes ago, Naes said:

I’m confused.. weren’t you filing for divorce this Monday? Just for curiosity do divorces finalize that fast, or your husband filed before you know it?  

 

I’m sorry for what you’re going through... Just don’t forget to have proof of bonafide marriage.

It's almost finalized (potentially next week). We don't have complicated assets or kids so it should be done within a week. Minnesota is a quick state. My ex also agreed with everything I proposed (of course he might change his mind later). Sorry my wording might need to be corrected.  

1 minute ago, mushroomspore said:

As far as USCIS is concerned, if your divorce went through and was finalized, the paperwork is all that matters.

 

If you and your ex-spouse were still together and legally married, then providing proof that you were BOTH attending therapy and actively trying to make the marriage work with a therapist is perfectly fine and necessary information to share with USCIS at the RoC stage. But since you are fully divorced, the therapy is a moot point now.

I started going to the therapy 3 months before the divorce. I tried to talk to my ex to come with me many times, but he refused.

1 minute ago, statmania said:

Well your therapist definitely should not put anything about the psychological health of anyone they have not met with and had the opportunity to diagnosis with the pat persons permission. An opinion of someone else’s mental health they have never treated is not proof. Seems you just need to file the waiver and really don’t need to state your are visiting a therapist. 

Okay. Thanks for the opinion. But why do I have to avoid stating I am visiting a therapist?

8 minutes ago, Bfree3 said:

When you asked your therapist to write the letter to USCIS, what exactly did you have in mind ?

 

 

I was thinking that a letter would prove the reason for me to visit a therapist was to save my marriage. However, according to the therapist's analysis, we are not going to work out because my spouse may have psychological or even mental issues, and our relationship is unhealthy. Neither me nor my therapist is clear whether we should put all the detailed discussions in the letter, or she should just say the purpose of me visiting her.

Hi all,

I am going through a divorce with my USC spouse. The divorce was initiated by my spouse. I suggested a marriage counseling together but he refused to attend it. So I have been seeing a therapist on my own. Upon the finalization of the divorce, I asked my therapist to write a letter to the immigration center. But my therapist has no idea what to write in this regard. Has anyone's therapist written anything to the USCIS? Do you know the content/format of the letter? Does the therapist need to state all the details of the conversations between us or does she just need to state that I have been visiting her?

Thanks!

Just saw your post here. My therapist was asking what the content should be in the letter. Do you have any idea what your therapist wrote in your letter?

Thanks!

46 minutes ago, SadStories said:

I think this is good evidence that you sent already! I would send the Divorce decree, a letter telling them your story, and updated tax and bank statements (just from the date you sent your ROC to now) that is what I send when I asked to change my ROC from joint to waiver. 

Hi SadStories! I am so happy for your approval and I see hope in my case from yours! Thanks for the advice.

PS: our names are even similar

1 minute ago, little immigrant said:

You did not send any evidence of a bonafide marriage? I really hope you have those type of documents so you can show it at the interview.

Of course I did send some evidence. I only sent part of the bank statements, not all since there are too many! And some pictures. I forgot to send all the text messages and emails between us. I also sent our car insurance, my life insurance from the employer with him being the 1st beneficiary, tax files for the first 2 years, two affidavits from his family members, and some flight tickets and boarding passes from the trip back to China. Unfortunately, we don't have any utility bills or rent since we were living in his Dad's house.

1 minute ago, EmmNM said:

I'm sorry for everything you went through. Sadly, I do not have the answer to a lot of your questions. I hope someone else in the community can better assist you. All I can say is gather as much evidence as possible to prove the marriage was entered with good intent.

Thanks anyway for the kind words.

Hi all,

I am totally new here, so apologize if this question has been asked by others before.

I have never thought of this day in my life. But here I am. My ex-husband (USC) and I met in our grad school and got married soon after in 06/2015. We were happily married and applied for ROC jointly in 11/2017. This January he attended a conference and met another girl from the east coast who started to seduce him by all means (yes by all means) knowing he was happily married, so that she could use him to get herself a decent job next year. A month after he came back from the conference, he told me he wanted to move to Boston (for the convenience of that girl) to work ( I declined job offers from other states to stay in Minnesota after my graduation to wait for him to finish his school). In late Feb, the girl from the east coast flew to his work place to visit him. After that he told me we were never in love before, that his life was in pain with me, and demanded a separation and divorce. I was devastated and tried hard to save my marriage. But he refused to do so. So I am going to file for divorce (yes I am the one who does it because he is a lazy bones and I have to handle everything). Looking back at our marriage, I realized I was quite abused emotionally. He lied to me about his family and his relationship with his ex-girlfriend ( I found these out right before we split up). He consciously or sub-consciously kept me away from my friends, and now he uses this as an excuse claiming I do not know how to socialize with people, and that I am sick, twisted and needy. Even today, he still refused to admit his relationship with this other girl is romantic.

Anyway, am going to file with a divorce lawyer on Monday. I do not plan to claim he is emotionally abusive on the divorce decree for the sake of an easy and quick divorce since he is moving next month. I am preparing to send the CSC a letter along with the divorce decree to convert the joint filing of ROC to a waiver.

My question is: do I also need to send a lot of other information including tax files for the last year, pictures of joint credit cards, bank statements, and texts between us since we met ( I did not send all these materials since I thought our marriage is real and we were happily married, and was never afraid of any RFE or interviews)? Should I also write a story about how we met and how the relationship ended with detailed evidence (pictures and texts) embedded? This story may be a very long one if I include all the screenshots and pictures. Or do I just send the decree and a letter for the waiver and wait for the RFE? Should I also claim an emotional abuse? Does my therapist's words on this matter count ( I have been visiting a therapist for the initial purpose of saving my marriage. But the therapist concluded in the end that he may have mental issues and is quite mentally abusive). I asked him to visit the therapist with me to save the marriage but he refused so I was the only one who was seeing the therapist.

I appreciate your answers a lot!