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11 minutes ago, Abies said:

You seem to know so much about this your friend or are you the Philippino?

 

Just asking 

No. 

52 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

 

Well I mean yes I understand the scepticism. But I can also see how someone from a more traditional society may have been in the closet for so long and now feels able to fully express himself. American men and women have done this too of course, suddenly come out after years of being married with kids. 

i didn’t actually wonder so mich about the gay bit as about whether it is a green card marriage. Either way yes there will be scrutiny as to how genuine the relationship is.

 

something else to consider, assuming this is a genuine relationship and they manage to get married and the guy eventually is able to file for naturalization: he is going to have to show that he has continued to support his kids as part of showing good moral character. Do you know if he sends them money? And has a record of it?

He came clean to me that he has been feeling that he's gay for a long time. But because of his family who are quite prominent in our province, it would cause quite a controversy. So when he came to the US to work, I believe that's when he felt free from his sexuality. 

Supporting the kids is not an issue. He sends money every month and also they have businesses in the Phils which provide a comfortable life. Needless to say,  I feel bad for him that people look at him this way that he is just using the gay guy to obtain a status. I know both of them and they seem to have really genuine relationship. 

Back in college, my friend has always been a happy person, such a ham. 

But if they do get married, I wish them luck. 

You may be right, that he came out of the closet upon moving to the US. 

2 minutes ago, milimelo said:

If this doesn’t scream fraud I don’t know what does. Married with three kids overstaying his visa. Realizing he can’t stay any longer finds a male usc and claims love to attempt getting GC through same sex marriage. Then he’ll dump him after getting GC and filing for his PI family. 

 

I feel bad for legitimate gay folks who fought hard to get same sex marriage approved as this guy is totally working against them (and for his own personal interests). 

 

Op, tell your friend to man up and go back to his wife and children. 

I can't judge them. I came here to ask the questions that I dont have the answer for them as you can see it's more complicated than most of us. I went through this whirlwind process back in 2008. 

I will however tell him that going through with this process is not a joke.

3 minutes ago, Sunnyland said:

Just one question. You mention he still is married to his wife in the Philippines and has 3 kids together. And now he found love with a man. Is this person an USC?

I honestly do wonder how immigration see this kind of situations. Out of status man living in the US (still married to a woman in another country and with children together). What I mean is that your friend will probably have to prove (after he divorces first spouse of course) that this new relationship is real and not to gain immigration status. Considering he is out of status right now in the US.

3 minutes ago, Sunnyland said:

Just one question. You mention he still is married to his wife in the Philippines and has 3 kids together. And now he found love with a man. Is this person an USC?

I honestly do wonder how immigration see this kind of situations. Out of status man living in the US (still married to a woman in another country and with children together). What I mean is that your friend will probably have to prove (after he divorces first spouse of course) that this new relationship is real and not to gain immigration status. Considering he is out of status right now in the US.

You have a good point. 

My friend is the Filipino Citizen, he is with a USC. 

They would then go a lot of scrutiny. That's totally understandable.

Thanks for your response. 

Just now, EM_Vandaveer said:

Where he resides.

Thank you.

41 minutes ago, EM_Vandaveer said:

Family court does not care about his immigration status.

So he needs to file divorce in the county where he resides, or where they Intent to marry?

2 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

what the heck dude, bigamy is illegal. Of course he needs to end the first marriage, annulment, divorce, whatever, but he needs to be single again before he can get married again.

I appreciate your response.

Just now, EM_Vandaveer said:

He's not free to marry. He can try filing for divorce in the state he lives in, though.

But if he files for divorce, how does this applies if he is out of status? 

Ok. Thank you all so much for the input. 

Hi everyone. 

I have a Male friend who went here in the US for a work Visa and he has have been out of status. He have found love with a guy and they decided they want to get married. This will be a same sex marriage. 

Now, few questions here. 

He is married in the Philippines, with 3 children.

1. Can he marry this guy? 

2. Will my friend have issues when filing given the fact he is married in the Philippines?

3. Does he need to be annulled first with the wife in the Philippinee before he can marry here in the  US?

Thank you all so much!