I have no logical help to offer, but I will say this: Hang in there. Sure, its tough being apart, but it is not impossible. My foreign wife and I thought our situation was ideal and it took just under five years to get her here. F I V E Y E A R S. Do you want to talk about suffering? I could share a few stories that would make your situation feel like a walk in the park. Even so, be strong and keep your eyes on the prize. Its coming soon. I promise.