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I found out about mine by calling the NVC. Can't remember exactly when the letter arrived, but it was sent to my husband in the US, and we didn't have much time between receiving it and the interview (around 2 weeks?).

thats what im afraid of.

i just got him to call nvc, they said my case is under review, and they'll send hubby the letter. also they said that they are sending papers about my daughters case,they want custody papers, which we sent copies of with the very first forms we ever filled out. ugh.

I am still waiting to hear about when my interview is.........nvc recieved ds230 november 20.

anyways, Where did your letter come from that informed u of your interview date? Was it sent to you from nvc or montreal? and also, we put hubbys name down as the choice of agent, since they reccomended a US address, will the interview letter go to him or me?

im stressing big time because he just found out he has to go on a job out of state for 2weeks and im afraid the interview letter will go to him and not me and i wont find out about the date until its too late. i still need to do the medical as well.

oh ya, about the medical, we have also applied for my 12 year old daughter, will she need a medical as well? i think ifiremember right, she doesn't have to come to the interview with me.

thanks for any help guys

I am still waiting to hear about when my interview is.........nvc recieved ds230 november 20.

anyways, Where did your letter come from that informed u of your interview date? Was it sent to you from nvc or montreal? and also, we put hubbys name down as the choice of agent, since they reccomended a US address, will the interview letter go to him or me?

im stressing big time because he just found out he has to go on a job out of state for 2weeks and im afraid the interview letter will go to him and not me and i wont find out about the date until its too late. i still need to do the medical as well.

oh ya, about the medical, we have also applied for my 12 year old daughter, will she need a medical as well? i think ifiremember right, she doesn't have to come to the interview with me.

thanks for any help guys

Im a cr1. i sent my package 3 back and had confirmation it was recieved at the NVC in new hampshire on november 13. so now i'm waiting for the news of when my interview in montreal will be.

Welcome, you found the right place. I wish I had found it early on in the process. It is good you are a canuck and can visit here. My wife is Filipino and can't.

Thank you for the welcome-why cant she visit?

Also,sorry to be such a newbie, but was does NOA and "touched" mean?

Welcome to VJ.

I hope you are reunited with your hubby son

Thank you so much for your kind words. It is so refreshing to FINALLY find people who understand what we are going thru.

We just... .cope. We've always been a distance couple, and this isn't really different except that there's a process going on the background. So, the usual things, plus him passing out on the phone whenever I mention paperwork.

ZzzZzzz.

i know what u mean, hubby thinks paperwork will just fill itself out

I agree, i bet my hubby and i know each other better than people who have been together 10 years lol

Seriously try vonage. I think it runs about 25 a month for north american calling, but i know you can add other countries to it. You can also get a 1-800 # added onto your account, 4.95/month for 100 mins, and 5cents a min after that, so he could call you, in case they dont have a local number for egypt.

I spend a fortune on calling cards... I work a lot... I read visajourney and try to glean helpful hints while preparing my K-1...We chat with cameras when we can, when we're not working. I don't know how I cope...I do good for a few months and then I feel a little hopeless and then I tell myself it won't be much longer...I don't know. I guess we all do the best we can.

I understand. Occasionally I have days where i actually smile, and at night i have such positive thoughts, that i can do this, i can do it and it will all be worth it. then i have days where icant stand another minute of pain.....

Where you live, can u get VOIP? Like vonage or sunrocket? we use that and it saves HUGE amounts of money. Hubby has the #, and for an extra $5 a month, he added a second number onto it, a number that is local for me, so i don't have any long distance charges and he can make unlimited calls to anywhere in the US and Canada.

How do u cope being away from your loved one? We use webcam, both have them running24/7, even when we arent home, and of course the phone. But i all too often find myself bawling in hysterics,needing to be with my husband. Like when i see someone i know, and they ask " why are u still here, when are you leaving" I just don't know what to say anymore without crying. What are some things you do to get your mind off the process, even if for just a short while?

I know exactly how you feel. It is very hard to be so far away from the one you love. I just keep reminding myself that the separation won't last forever, that one day we will be together everyday and when that day comes it won't be taken for granted, that is for sure. Some days it is very hard to keep your chin up & try to stay positive though. There are times when no matter how much I tell myself that it won't last forever that I cry and feel depressed because I want to be with him so badly. I just know that in the end it will be worth it because if we can get through this time then I think we can get through just about anything.

No it won't last forever, but even a day is too long, and you are so right about taking things for granted. we cherish every second that we do get to spend together, I try to think that which does not kill us makes us stronger,especially our relationship

You are right. I can say this much that people who don't or who have never went through what we are going through with this process takes love for granted way to much. I used to until i met my love now i know what love really means!!!!!!!! that's for sure.

AJ1

For granted is so very true!! Alot of my friends and coworkers thought i was mental to get married to aguy i met online, but the way i look at it is, we spent (and still do) about 5-8 hours a day, talking online, add that up day after day,and thats alot of getting to know someone time. When u meet someone in person and go on dates, you are always doing something, watching a movie, having dinner, hanging out with other people. Not much of that time is spent talking, 1on 1, like it is online. To me, long distane relationships like this have way more chance of succeeding, because you actually get to know the other person, you aren't distracted my your surroundings(i have no idea if that made any sense?lol)

How do u cope being away from your loved one? We use webcam, both have them running24/7, even when we arent home, and of course the phone. But i all too often find myself bawling in hysterics,needing to be with my husband. Like when i see someone i know, and they ask " why are u still here, when are you leaving" I just don't know what to say anymore without crying. What are some things you do to get your mind off the process, even if for just a short while?

I know exactly how you feel. It is very hard to be so far away from the one you love. I just keep reminding myself that the separation won't last forever, that one day we will be together everyday and when that day comes it won't be taken for granted, that is for sure. Some days it is very hard to keep your chin up & try to stay positive though. There are times when no matter how much I tell myself that it won't last forever that I cry and feel depressed because I want to be with him so badly. I just know that in the end it will be worth it because if we can get through this time then I think we can get through just about anything.

No it won't last forever, but even a day is too long, and you are so right about taking things for granted. we cherish every second that we do get to spend together, I try to think that which does not kill us makes us stronger,especially our relationship

join some activities.

1. try to find extra job few hours a day

2. join a language classes espacialy spanish bcxz its a great help in states.

3. join a club like gym, sports, dancing, outdoor activity club like hiking, camping.

4. work as volunteer for other poeple.

5. read american history and other books bcz usa is a place of media, you know something good, you can use it anywhere. sorry no offense most of the americans dont know their history much so you can have extra benifit.

There really is no easy answer to this. I have not seen my love for 9 months and its very hard. No matter what you try to do at the end of the night when you go to sleep you are left with your thoughts alone. I never thought in my life that i would ever or could endure so much mental agony, and pain. The only thing that keeps me going is my love for him and knowing how we feel about each other, and my family is very supportive and try to help me, and my kids really help me alot. I try really hard to spend alot of time with them and do alot of things with them also. And mostly i pray alot. Everyday when i wake up i say to myself that i am one day closer to my baby. You will get through it we all do but it just takes time to get there. Just be strong and try to pray alot. Invest time in doing things that you enjoy in your free time if you can. You will make it just hang in there.

AJ1

I know what u mean, he is the last i think about at night, and the first when i open my eyes. This is the most painful thing i have ever endured,an emotional rollercoaster. My kids keep me busy too, but my son especially makes me think of my husband. This is so painful.

My ways of coping are totally unhealthy and should not be passed on.

I understand. Eating reeses peanut butter cups isnt helping me lol

Welcome to VJ. Sorry to hear all the hurdles you have had during the process. I hope you do get an interview soon so you and your family can all be together.

Thank you, that means alot to me

How do u cope being away from your loved one? We use webcam, both have them running24/7, even when we arent home, and of course the phone. But i all too often find myself bawling in hysterics,needing to be with my husband. Like when i see someone i know, and they ask " why are u still here, when are you leaving" I just don't know what to say anymore without crying. What are some things you do to get your mind off the process, even if for just a short while?

Hi everyone. i'm so glad i found this site, i only wish i had found it a long time ago. i have been reading about everyones cases and it gives me hope. Let me give u my background:

I met my hubby online,by a fluke, playing online games-nodating websites,no intention of finding anyone. That was about Sept.2004... I flew to Louisiana to meet him on dec.21.2004...and he proposed christmas day!! I knew he was the one, i honestly did, the first week we talked. Anyways...i came back to canada, anxious to go back and see him. We married in April 2005,my 10 yr old daughter and his 4 yr old daughter were the flower girls. Our bliss was shortlived however, as my daughter was denied re-entry to the US in aug 2005,as we hadnt done our homework. We were extremely naive in thinking that all we had to do was be married and we would live happily ever after, not realizing that it doesnt mean a thing, that u still have to go thru the paperwork and the long drawn out process.

Well,when they wouldnt let my daughter back because we hadnt done any paperwork, my heart broke into a million pieces, I kick myself daily for not doing the research. 2 weeks after she was denied entry, i left the love of my life and came back to canada. We immediately contacted USCIS, to find out what to do, and they told us to file an I-130, which we did in sept 2005, for both my daughter and myself. I honestly cant remember exact dates for everything, this whole process is so confusing. My husband flew up here in November 2005, and afew days after he got here, we welcomed the early arrival of our son, on the US thanksgiving day. Hubby left a couple weeks later, and ever since then, ever couple of months or so, i fly down to LA for an 8 week visit with our son. my daughter stays here with my parents so she can go to school. In May of 2006, my husband came here and we filed a report of birth abroad report at the embassy in Toronto. We have a big certificate for it, and as far as i know, the baby has dual citizenship, and nothing more needs to be done with him.

Right now we are at the point where i have the ds-230 forms here to send in, I am just waiting to recieve my police check and long form birth certificate so i can mail them in with it. Our process seems so long compared to everyone elses, this has been over a year already for us. We did have some delays though, such as i had to order the long form birth cert. for my daughter-i only had the wallet size one. I didnt know we would need a long form one, and same as myself, i didnt know they would want one for me as well. Plus we had a delay when they requested a copy of her custody papers. Geez i wish i had found this site a year ago, i would have been able to find out everything they needed and avoided these delays.

Anyways, i talk too much.I am just so incredibly lonely, i cry every single day about this, I have been back a month today from seeing my hubby last, and am unsure about when i will see him again. He would like to come here to see us, when he gets time off work again, probably the end of oct-beginning of november. but we dont know if he should. i know once i sent the ds-230 forms back, they will be setting up an interview in montreal right? but we have no idea when that will be, or if he needs to come with me for it or not. And our sons birthday is nov 24, and i was so hoping to be in LA for it, was hoping to gomed november for 8 weeks, that way we have US thanksgiving and xmas together, but again, don't know when the interview will be.

Im sorry I will stop now, if you have read this far, i thank you. I am so lonely and depressed, but im glad i found this forum and others who are going thru the same thing. I need to get some tissue andsplash some water on my face.

I travel to the US every couple of months, and my stay is almost always 8 weeks. My father always drives me, and we usually cross at the kingston-lewiston bridge in buffalo. Only 1 time i had a hard time with customs. Made us pull over and go inside. Basically I showed them all my paperwork i had at the time, and they looked up info on their computer, and gave me the go ahead. Actually the woman guard I dealt with inside was very helpful in letting me know what needed to get done next. They also wanted to see my flight itinerary, i guess making sure i was gonna fly back. The next time i came across, I had no problem whatsoever, all he wanted to see was my passport, and told me to have a nice trip. I guess I am not as far along in the process as you, as i dont have an interview yet.

In short, i dont think you should worry. As long as she has all of the case documents to show as proof, she wont have a problem.HTH and good luck, I hope to be going to the US in november to see my hubby

Thanks for your reply. Again, in my haste, i didn't read the whole site I just got so excited to find this site, I wish I had found it months ago. I just looked at my papers and yes its CR1 and the papers I have to fill out are the DS-230. Thanks again

Ok let me begin. Met my hubby online 2 years ago. He lives in the US im in canada. I flew down for christmas and he proposed. We did a little research, and im first to admit we didnt do enough. We married in the US in April 2005. Went about our lives happily ever after (so we thought) In july 2005 i put my daughter on a plane to come to canada to visit her dad, well when my parents went to bring her to buffalo airport, she was denied admittance. I got a 5:30 am call from customs asking if i had filed I-130 forms. Hubby and i were like what? we didnt do enough research. we honestly didnt know that paperwork had to be filed even though we married. Needless to say, 2weeks after that phone call, i flew back to canada. Anyways...we have since filed the I-130, for BOTH my daughter and i. Right now we are at the point where i recieved some forms that indicated i need to get a police check (which should come in mail any day) and i had to send away for a long form birth certificate(should come anytime as well) Theres a couple forms i gotta fill out and mail in along with the police check, BC, and immunization record.

Can anybody tell me what happens next? In this last bunch of papers i recieved it had a paper about visa interviews in Montreal...do i really have to go all theway there? can it not be done in Toronto (45 mins away). The last year hubby and i have been travelling back and forth visiting each other, usually i go down for 8 weeks at a time, then come back here for a few months. I am so tired of being apart. I feel like my life is on hold, i just want my family together. I guess what i need is someone to tell me that we're almost there, near the end of the red tape. Plz help?