Ula Svensson

 Yes I know all that

yes thank you so much for your response Penguin and ofcourse i understand all of that and dont want all that good advice gone but it is going to hurt the girl in question... and i did send and email to the "contact" link.. what i was hoping for is that since i changed the profile name that all my previous posts would have changed but, yes i understand now google works and didnt think of that when i first created this profile, to not use a name i commonly use in my daily life.. all that being said, ive researched this topic for years and although im not claiming to be an expert, by any means, none of the advice that was given to me is unique and can be widely found anywhere online, so yes if you would please delete that thread it would really be what needs to be dont after much thought about it... im sorry for this and thank you so much.. just cannot have "calyorker" to be found anywhere in this site.. as far as google is concern i never had the syncing turned on so that should be minimal and if it wasnt they wouldve already seen the posts.. thank you again Penguin...

i want to know how to delete my account and everything with my previous name here (calyorker) so that when a site search is done nothing will pop up (with the name calyorker)... im having some problems...

Everyone has their own opinions and their own experiences ofcourse, no one is right and no one is wrong..thanks to all for sharing a bit of themselves

hey Ryan H... thank you!

Thank you Ning, sorry I thought you were one of them for some reason

Ning, please remove the photos of this woman  in my previous posts, from the site, thank you

Ning's the best and thank you dear, yes i will succeed... she is not the first girl I've talked to over seas, in fact I was doing this since the mid 90's when the internet was still relatively new and my email address is 25 years old this year! hehe so yes, I do know quite a bit more than it may seem by the limited comments I have left here at this prestigious and invaluable site I adore and will definitely continue to enjoy, hopefully

Umka36 thank you for your thought and for me.. I feel that, and thoroughly explain to the girl in question that this will be a very long project and that anything good in life takes alot of hard work, patience, commitment and faith and if she wants to be happy for the rest of her life then she will have to wait for a year or whatever it takes... because if she cant then shes not serious or deserving of it in the first place.. Ofcurse i can just got to any of these countries and have more beautiful young girls then I'll ever want but thats not what its about, I'm not a sex tourist or sort time affair kind of guy...

At this point i told her i love her and shes the most beautiful girl in the world and I have the utmost integrity and determination and my informed opinion is that the issue of the money was not a very big part of this... 

Thank you everyone! I welcome all comments as always form my visajourney family!

NING... everyone listen up here! we love this girl and shes the real deal, Ning is the best and always correct... yes 99% of us farangs do not grasp the entirety of the situation but some of us (yes me) have done countless hours of research ..I subscribe and watch numerous youtube chanels of farangs living in Thailand and the US and although they seem to honestly lay things out for us properly, yes I still do take things with a grain of salt and average the information in with caution and an open mind, ofcourse...    and Ning my dear, yes I will remain loving, supportive, always present and with a very open minded! Thank you, everyone as always! Cheers!

Cyclone27 you're the best! hehe  and I've known this from the start.... I don't mean to make light of this, for everyone following this but I'm trying to cheer us all up, just as I do for her...  so now it's a waiting game... maybe in a few years her parents will accept these couple rolls of quarters I have a finally stop suffocating her.. yes, culture, tradition, etc etc etc... stop already..

thanks everyone and yes i will stay positive and hopeful, ofcourse... i never quit and i knew from the get go it would always be an uphill battle and im battle ready hehe... at least she admits these things and although i get jealous and yearning for her touch when i see her put up a post on her facebook page she looks so happy and sex (in a nerdy way, which i love about her hehe) she says that its a fake smile to stay positive for her family... shes so strong and yes i might have dodged a bad situation but i think if she could break free she would find a free life here.. should i give up on her when shes in need? when her heart is in such pain? when she is resounded in failure and sadness? i will have to wait and see and i let her know she can always find me here for her... 

Uhhnmmm...

I'm afraid to announce that she has mite or less given up and shut down... she seems to have substantial depression and schizophrenia, her family is killing her and she had convinced herself ours impossible to leave them...

My western mind just cannot shake that allot of it is bcuz I can't or won't pay the one million bhat sin sod and says her parents don't approve of us, partially because I have a but of a criminal record even though I explained that has no play in this... she changed dramatically and doesn't text me anymore although we still check on reach other at our private chat app... doesn't look good guys.. and I'm sad but the more I think about sin sod, the less I'd be willing to pay, especially when she simply doesn't do anything you make me feel anything (was going to say deserve it) don't know what to do now! I still care for her and want  to prove outs still possible

narakthisud, thats what im talking about brother! thnx!

Boiler... Yah thanks...

Ning, Thank you so much again, yes I agree with everything you've said since the beginning of this post...

Ofcourse I realize everything here is in the interest of helping me and my girl...

I did not Thailand is in any way tainted, quite the contrary, I was referring to our relationship because that's what I thought was meant by that statement..

I would love to go to Thailand and especially if we end up together to visit her family and I would always do home improvements, buy supplies for them, etc..

They already own land, a small sort of farm with some cows, etc... they already have some sort of structure there where they can spend time at... 

She already has a significant amount of whatever money she has been saving towards that. She really does work more hours than are good for her health and she suffers migraines all the time due to that dedication..

As for who will live there it would be her parents and 25 year old sister who has some sort of job herself...

We do have plans and she often tell me to just be patient and trust her because she has a solid plan for me/us but right now the only thing she wants to focus on is getting through her working and caring for her parents who aren't in the best health either...  She mentioned the middle of next year and I have no reason to not believe her... I'm a pretty good judge of people and she seems to be very genuine, again..

I've never heard of that 10 years length of tourist visa, that would be great! 

I should add that I own land here and have a small farm myself doing aquaponics (growing fish and vegetables/fruit in a closed system) inside a greenhouse, bees for honey, sheep to clean the land we don't use and  for milk to make cheeses, chickens etc. and it's on a very small scale but it's way more than enough to feed us and sell alot which could be very lucrative if  I wanted to expand my sales which wouldn't be hard..

But I told her that I would insist on her staying involved in her Thai culture and life, I could easily construct a covered stone "temple" sort of structure for her to be at peace and quiet with the nature and "pray" to Buddha, contemplate life, etc. I would seek out Thai groups, restaurants, temples, families, whatever I can find here and any other form of home for her to make her comfortable... I think she would be very comfortable and it would be the peace she needs!

I'm sorry if it seems like I ramble on but you have taken alot of time and care towards our life together that I owe you some insight on the extent of my resolve and intentions, also the more you know, the better you can judge the situation, which, after all is why I did this.. 

As always, any other insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated and I do intend to act on all of them..

Ning, thank You again for your clearly superior knowledge and advice about this topic...

I DO realize the damage this could cause that's why I'm talking about it here hehe   It would be like a rattlesnake bite, it would die or be severely crippled for a long time...

Yes I am on disability (SSI) and thats brings another question to mind, to be able to host a foreign wife I have read certain income limits but also that they cannot deny someone on social security or SSI due to discriminatory laws, etc. and that is a big problem as well for sin sod... The other night I was in a bit of a disagreement with her and I'll admit it is usually my lack of patience and self esteem but I just threw it out there that I didn't want to stand in their way and I could never pay more than 100,000 bhat, yes I know that was a big mistake, I know and save all your comments about that ok but I really don't like to be in the dark about things..

I have no problem going to Thailand to meet them but I feel it's already tainted... luckily she doesn't share our conversations with her mom and shes always telling me that she is actively trying to work on her mom as far as her feelings towards me and how she doesn't need sin sod and that's why she's so aggressively working such long oppressive hours, her plan is to buy them or build them a new house and apparently she is almost there then she said she can come to me.. she wants to fulfill that dream for her family, again a very noble and commendable woman there! I tell her 10 times a day how she's a great and strong girl and I appreciate her! I have offered her my help in whatever aspect I can but she's very determined to do everything herself and states that time and again...

I do think it would be a better idea for her to come here for a week if she can, and yes I KNOW that's a big if but apparently she's confident about that, if this is where she really wants to live and be a nurse it would be so much more beneficial for her to see what it's like here instead of me going there first...

My entire life would be dedicated to helping her with her goal and dream of learning English medical terms and adjusting here comfortably, finding employment if she chooses and skyping her family every night, etc...

Thanks again for everyones thoughts!!

Hello to everyone again, yes I do like the comments here tonight  (US), (July 28th, 2017)...

NDB052714... Thanks for your input, no I have no experience with being on the ground in Thailand and to tell you the truth I cannot stand the heat and my girlfriend there, who has never been anywhere else and is very small is always complaining about it so I would surely die form it the moment I get off the plane..

Ofcourse I would never think of spending a penny into a relationship unless we got along good after some time and I don't mean great because it would always be a learning experience for us both but I'm convinced she's genuine and has a very pure heart and very selfless..

Hey ThyJourney, thanks so much! That's such great advice I will definitely look into that asap! A really appreciate that and what a beautiful girl you have,  such a great looking family! To be continued...

Yes, everyone awesome advise and input, I thank you so much and I will definitely be updating the situation here as it warrants.. 

Ning... now I see why you are so passionately fuled by this ignorance of mine hehe ok, yes ofcourse I would love to care for her family and that wouldn't matter if she were Thai or any other nationality, that's how I am... Thank You again for your input!!

Ning, Yes ofcourse there are so many great Thai people, she is very stable but she is miserable because she has the world on her shoulders.. she is a nurse in a place very understaffed ad she works there most of her days, she gets very little sleep and then runs back to work more hours to save money for the house that her parents told her to buy them she believes its her responsibility...  We are talking about her coming to visit me first and that would be next year sometime, then I would go there for the Thai wedding and begin the visa process... she wants to be a nurse here and she does take english classes although her english is ok now

Yes some or all of the money can be returned.. according to her, her parents would give us half of whatever we pay back so we can start our life together.. I have seen hundreds of stories of where some or all of it was given back.. I doubt that if they agree upon something they would risk throwing everything in their future away...I would not feel comfortable paying more than 200,000 bhat but I would start the negotiations with 100,000 and see where it goes... Frankly all this talk about it is making me upset and makes me want to just go to the Phillipines to live on a beach and grill fresh fish.. I dont like regret and if they still think that they will ever get 1.5 million bhat then I will have to say goodbye because thats a huge insult to me and my senses and its their way of saying goodbye

All the talking of money, I'm doing here, her and I have barely discussed it for more than a few  moments... It is the topic I have here and I'm just getting information.. Thank you everyone

Hey comic, yah, I feel you, I'm right there with you hehe and that's what it might come to... honestly it isn't like they're trying to play me because I knew about sin sod before I made the first move to meet her, so I knew it would possibly come up one day...

Yes, ofcourse that would be the plan and we will play it by ear... although she reveres her mother and family she doesn't like the situation either and she KNOWS I will never pay that much so if she did want to hit the road she would have so I think she's a good girl.. she has asked me for time to finish earning the money to build the house for the family and then she wants to be with me so maybe this coming year it will happen, and I will have a youtube channel to document our lives together, thank you Seth and Quynh!!