Birdysboy

If lunch together is possible it is wonderful way to break up the day. I think we have missed 5 lunches together in 5 years. That little extra effort I made to get home every day has made our marriage much deeper and richer.

Tita and I talked about this prior to her coming here, it was hard for her then she started getting adjusted and she found a job she likes and made friends at church. She stays in touch with her family via the internet and calls her parents from time to time. She gardens, and recently we got a little train set that we both like.

I am hopeful you find something meaningful to pass your time.

I met Tita online and visited her 2 times in the Philippines. I took lots of pictures and supplied some texts of out messenger conversations and all was fine. I even furnished a copy of the receipt of the engagement ring purchase. She came over on a K1 we had a small civil ceremony here in 2007 and had a nice church wedding in Philippines in 2011, which her parents really appreciated.

All this said, you might consider K3, marry there for her parents if it looks like tourist visa might be a problem. Very important to do the right thing for her parents. Remember the immigration process should never drive decisions as much as the way you treat your wife and her family, that will last forever. May God bless you +++

When my wife and I first starting planning everything, we had to made the same decisions. In 2006, we decided to do a K1 and get married here. We did a small civil ceremony here in US and then last year in 2011 we did a big church wedding with her family and it was beautiful. Some people are not as blessed as me to marry the same beautiful woman twice.

The moral to this story is: If the actual wedding ceremony is more important than the immigration then plan around the ceremony. If the immigration is more important, then plan around that.

I remember when my wife got here it was a challenge. Then one step after another she started working part time, she kept in touch with her family via the internet, she got involved in a Filipino community here in Charlotte (a rosary group) and I actually started doing Filipino stick fighting and made even more Filipino friends. Every once in a while she gets a little homesick, but most of the time she has adjusted well. Be positive, make some friends, have some fun.

I don't understand the question.

If this is a marriage that never happened and your fiance is the victim a mistaken identity and/or identity crime?

Knowledge is power when dealing with the IRS. Get very familiar with the publications (all on irs.gov)dealing with back taxes, collections and installment plans. Without playing 20 questions with you, I couldn't help you personally, but also look at "Offer and Compromise aka OIC". And if you don't get help after 3 attempts directly, you may be eligble to deal with Taxpayer Advocacy, a group within the IRS that works on your side.

As far as all the back taxes go, do not be surprised by penalties and interest to pile up. Non-filing penalties, late payments all start to pile up. Also be advised that you may be audited, so document everything. Be advised that as long as you don't file, you are on the hook, there is no statute of limitations on non-filing. Suggest you and spouse have a nice heart to heart on this because back taxes split up a lot of couples. Open communications and resolving to solve the problem will make it a lot easier on the marriage.

All this sounds overwhelming, but one step at a time and one day at a time and you can get through it. +++

Send in the amount of evidence that you feel comfortable with. It's your case. Just make sure it is organized and proves what you want. Always step back and think about it from the other side of the desk. These are people too, they think and reason and have seen enough cases to smell the fishy ones. Good luck.

I agree with the staying married people here. If the first thing you think about is how to stay here instead of how to save your marriage, then go back to your country. Anyone that comes onto a public forum and calls their wife crazy deserves it. Why do you want to tell a bunch of strangers your problems I don't know.

Years ago we had a collection lady showed up in my door and as I wasn't aware of these practices here, she told me she was looking for my husband hd some papers to deliver and that I wouldn't like my neighbors to hear what she has to say, and as she was a female I let her in and signed whatever she had for my husband and those papers that I singed make my husband go to court for oustanding debts, and my husband told me that if I wouldn't have signed them he didn't have to go to court; he has broken leases, medical bills (most of his bills are medical)

My mom lives in South America, and I always buy whatever is on sale and send them to her when a close friend travels there.

You are right 4 hours is an awful long time I was falling sleep on the waiting room, per muy husband he was loosign his patience too becasue of how slow the officer was and asking the same questions all over again and reading answers back to him as he wrote. Other than that I don't know as I said I was interviewed for a short period of time.

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The officer would only ask the same question over and over again if there was concern over the answer or there was something contridictory. The questioner is not the problem, the answerer is.

And a bill collector on a credit card or medical bills would not show up, but someone that had a secured interest might show up (like a car, tractor, construction equipment for example). I would try to get my equipment back if I was the secured creditor. Or if fraud was a possibility, I would show up. In any event the next persom might be a sheriff, so be prepared.

Four hours, is an EXTREMELY long time for an interview.

If one question and one answer take one minute, that makes me think 240 questions and answers would be close. Being an auditor myself, I cannot comprehend any single case calling for such measures. Something is not adding up to me....

This is easy, just move to the Philippines.

Please update Tita's record, Oath was yesterday. All went off perfect and it was very professionally handled.

In no particular order:

1. DO NOT follow the advice of a bunch of strangers on this type of forum. Get professional advice from a state agency or marriage counselor or pasto/priest/rabbi.

2. DO NOT air out your dirty laundry on cases like this on a public forum. This can be used against you in a court of law.

3. DO NOT delay, get help today.

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Anyone else going to be there tomorrow? Also venue has changed from Levine Center to Tyvola Center Homeland Security same time.

From what I understand new citizens will be able to register and vote provisionally on election day here in Mecklenburg County. I have a call into the Board of Electors for instructions on where to register.

If your cousin is a spiteful person he might go talk to Homeland Security and see if this had been done before by your cousin's fiance. Might be grounds for a criminal fraud case if it had. Might even give him some "atta boys" from Homeland Security.

But in any event he must go back to Pakistan and tell him to do a K-2 next time and don't give up the dowry so fast.

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Hail Mary

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Let this be a lesson, extreme advice either way is bad.

If you show bad character on your FB page I would be worried, but moderation in communications could also be looked at as a good thing. The funny thing is most of us have at least one or two trolling incidents on our pages if you have been around for a while and that could be a bad thing. But as most families have scraps between themselves I would be sympathetic to that as someone reviewing an applicants FB page.

Before FB got really popular Tita and I did Yahoo Messenger alot, this was 2004-2007. We actually used those as our "letters" to show real relationships in her K1 application. But out on your main page / wall, that is a little too public to be putting private conversations anyway.

Finally, if your lawyer is dogmatic about all this, do it yourself and save the legal fees, especially if you disagree with them.

Sounds like you need a "better" lawyer.

Agree

My wife and I did all the paper work ourselves all the way from fiance visa through natralization. There were a few times we wish we had used a laywer, but in the end it all worked out fine. However, if she had a minor child we probably would have used a lawyer.

OK, we have Oath day now. November 6th at 8:30 am. Election day.

Big day has arrived. I will be leaving work for my interview. I hope everything will go easily and have no problems. I will share my experience after the interview. Wish me luck guys.

Good luck.

People usually get yellow letter right before interview letter so hopefully that's your case. Although I didn't receive that.

My oath is for October 26. So hopefully I can still vote.

I am hopeful for the same. Wishing you the best.

I used info pass yesterday to check on Tita's status. She passed the test 09/12/2012 so I was a little concerned. Apparently she was not put into the Oath queue until 10/15/2015. I do not know now whether she will get the Oath before election day, but we remain hopeful.

Tita had her interview on 09/12/2012 and it was approved. We are waiting for her Oath Appointment.

The Homeland Security Facility here in Charlotte had about 5 guards standing around the security check point, had to even take shoes and belts off to get in.

I mailed my wife's today. Charlotte NC has aprox 5 month backlog.

Anything before Christmas would be awesome based on our experience.