Sorry to hear about your denial.
All you have mentioned is art work and video calls and Facebook. This is Africa and parental acceptance is vital to an approval. Did you submit pictures with your family, parents friends? All 3 visits showing difference venues. Or did you rely just on Facebook post. When they say fake or set up they are speaking to whoever but you are posting and interacting. I have had a few people get that noted in their denial that their Facebook was just created to appease immigration. Facebook you have friends, family to talk debate whatever. Not just I loves you's with just you two.
And the Facebook might be a sticking point because you didn't know. Remember you are married they expect you to know such things and not be blindsided at an interview.
Ghana is big on visits of long duration. When you have red flags like you do (the age no big deal) but a divorced woman with 3 kids is ages of maturity(well generally speaking) older. It's a big deal. They are approving a visa for you to immigrate to a whole family not just her.
Me and my husband had red flags so I moved to Nigeria stayed from approval at USCIS to Visa in hand 6 months later. We also meet 6 months before we got married first visit. And this after I divorced my previous Nigerian husband 30 days prior to marriage. You have to do what's needed.
Unfortunately nothing you can do. You are in for quite a wait. People I am helping now had denials in January and February of 2015 just having interview. Expect now 18 months to even hear from USCIS. Keep the visits going. And Ghana truly holds on to petitions usually 6 to 8 months before they ever even send them back. Then it will sit until reviewed for Revocation.
Well join the crowd of people who marry their hubbies the first visit. I'm thinking most the consulars conclusion is your not knowing how to interview. You must be confident in your answers and they are looking your body language. Most of the guys are not reviewing what the wives are putting in the package. Plus when talking with your hubby or wives you need to present quality evidence not quantity. Plus it's a trend that's going in Ghana men are marrying plus size women and they usually older them. They are looking at social norms and they know most men there want children. I know some may get mad at me but it's the truth.
This is quickly becoming something that's none of my business, but what is your fiance's ex girlfriend doing with his phone, or in a position to have access to it? It sounds like something beyond your knowledge is going on here. Either he's way too close with his ex, or he's not being honest with you and cancelled it himself.
