fantasist

My update: no happy news. I was not contacting him as per his request, but had not received any of my personal belongings back, nor had he contacted me about sending things. I finally contacted his sister and told her my concerns. She let him know, and today I got an email saying he would be sending my things. I tried to email back just to confirm what was being sent, but of course, since he blocked me contacting him in every way possible he didn't receive this. Instead a friend who he had texted with in past texted and said I wanted to clarify what was being sent. He had already sent what he was sending by then--gave me a list that did not include everything I anticipated. He did apparently include a note with the items saying he was returning personal belongings, so hopefully I do not get dinged at customs. No word on the visa; hopefully he has the sense to cancel it. I may be in contact with his sister in future if I do not receive everything I anticipated from him and will ask for more information then. I'm not sure why he would be holding anything back, and I didn't want to do this back and forth to begin with.
Relationship is well and truly over and I am just working on moving on. I won't ever understand someone being able to behave so brutally after so many years together, but I guess it's not for me to understand, just accept and move on.

My update: no happy news. I was not contacting him as per his request, but had not received any of my personal belongings back, nor had he contacted me about sending things. I finally contacted his sister and told her my concerns. She let him know, and today I got an email saying he would be sending my things. I tried to email back just to confirm what was being sent, but of course, since he blocked me contacting him in every way possible he didn't receive this. Instead a friend who he had texted with in past texted and said I wanted to clarify what was being sent. He had already sent what he was sending by then--gave me a list that did not include everything I anticipated. He did apparently include a note with the items saying he was returning personal belongings, so hopefully I do not get dinged at customs. No word on the visa; hopefully he has the sense to cancel it. I may be in contact with his sister in future if I do not receive everything I anticipated from him and will ask for more information then. I'm not sure why he would be holding anything back, and I didn't want to do this back and forth to begin with.
Relationship is well and truly over and I am just working on moving on. I won't ever understand someone being able to behave so brutally after so many years together, but I guess it's not for me to understand, just accept and move on.