Jafifa1978

Maria&Steve, i do understand what you mean i appreciate it, but for someone to quote "not serious about your relationship" is just some statement that is not helping. I totally got what you mean from the point of interviewer and thats why i came here in the first place. to find out what was the red flag and almost all the opinions that i got from everyone else previously is the same answer and i am totally agree with everyone else on our red flags. It might not be personal, but it surely sound negative.thats all.

but again, thank you for everyone's opinions and the rest of the good ideas and helps that you been giving me so far. My fiance is coming down again and is spending more time with us and we're not going to give up on this. we will make it happen, thank you guys!

and yes we do have a very compelling reason, not everyone is in a very comfortable enough to travel right away, i am thankful for your advise on what could be the reasons we got denied in the first place, but i dont appreciate for you to judge us by saying such thing that we are not serious about our relationship. everyone sail in their own boat, making judgemental statement like that is not really appreciated. I came here to ask for an advise what to do and what not to do, not to be judged by being told that we're not serious about our relationship.

baron555,if you would have read my post properly, like i said, we did met in person once, doesnt matter if he waited for 3 years to meet me or not, he did, the topic was posted over here to ask for some humble advise and not to question why he did this or why he didnt do that. Everyone's relationship has their own stories, which i believe none of our rights to question them.

I am thankful for everyone's else advise, the point is we are trying to make it work,thats all.

PedroKiske,

My fiance was beyond his belief and said the exact same thing you have said,he really didnt expect that i would get denied that easily and you are right,for some of us, travelling all the time is not something that everybody can do especially when it comes to money wise of perhaps some other family matters too,we're devastated,but we are learning to accept it and working on to do whatever we can to make this happen.

Trust me PedroKiske, i know it is but unfortunately what Anitafeliz is true, there is too much fraud cases thesedays when it comes to visas and at the end of the day some of us have to suffer for it, its a hard and long road to go, but if it is a true love, we just have to keep fighting

Hi Ebunoluwa,

thanks you very much for your advice,that really helped a lot for me to understand as you have helped me to break it down in details thoroughly. i can see it clearly more visit is needed to make this thing success thats why we getting him down here in couple of months, even if there is no chance to get another interview by then,at least it will add more proof to our relationship.

Great idea on the timeline relationship. I used to read it before that it may help in the applications but there was so much infos every now and then it confused us and thats when we didnt send any out.

Dont mind if i ask your opinion on getting an immigration lawyer's help, what do you think about that or if you do have any experiences or anything that you aware of it, please do share,thank you.

is there any couple in here that have a different religions relationship before? it would be nice to have some guidance from some who knows what they dealed with before too when it comes to that topics please, thank you.

well we getting my fiance to fly down here again in couple of months time, at the same time he said he will make a call to the CO office down here to ask it to be reviewed by a senior consular or supervisor just as one of the lawyer on the visajourney.com has advised us to.

i would agree with NLR and few more couples on here that has been kind enough to give me some feedback,judging from the questions that was asked, i do believe the red flag is because 1 week is not enough and because he was married twice.

Nothing was asked about religion or age different or anything like that before i get denied under 221 (g). Our next step is to get him down here to spend at least another week or 2, and then perhaps get another appointment but this time he will come with me to the embassy.

And whatever pch1 saying is pretty much make sense as well, because to be honest, i dont want him to have to convert down here just because he wants to marry me because religion is not an issue in the first place. I read some of the feedback too that the evidences that was gathered need to be presented in a proper manner with cover page and also a letter of statement from both of us saying that we intend to get married after 90 days of arrival in USA. which we dont have it in the first place, but they did made me sign a statement of it when i went for the interview the other day.

no worries pch1, i understand if it makes you question the situation, most people would anyways

yes he did sent them a picture of me and him, and also a picture of him and my daugther, all 3 of us together, but nothing with the rest of family member like my dad or so though

well honestly yes we do have different religion and culture, i am a muslim and he is not, but the truth is, he just hates to fly that long, he never fly before in his whole life and the first time he ever get on the plane is when he came down here that one time, flight to malaysia is 16 hours and he was just wondering if meeting half way would be okay since the flight is much shorter, it has nothing to do we trying to run from the culture or anything like that

my fiance was suggesting that we should meet half way like in japan or something and get married over there, any advise?

Hello adil & jeanne,

thank you very much i cant express how your reply helped me to feel a lil bit better, i hope my fiance will see it that way too.

Penguin_ie,

i will talk to my fiance and let him read this forum as well, thank you i feel a lil bit hopeful with all of your support.this surely help to make us look forward to something positive.

Yes,we did submitted the evidences of the relationship when he filed the petition, but i guess you were right, the flight tickets, the hotel receipt, the pictures is not good enough for now,im thinking of getting him to fly again in couple of months, and youre right, the road is really long and hard, we cant give up now.

Yes,different religion, guess thats another red flag.cant stop fighting now

Hi soulstriker, im not sure what do you mean by frontload?

we never thought it didn't meet the consular expectation TBoneTX. would you guide me a little bit more on this please?

Hi nuestraunion,

no its not, his previous marriages was with u.s citizen

well he did visited once which met the requirement to file the petition in the first place, it just kinda frustrating when that was not even looked into

Understood merrytooth, what is the possibility if we get married and then file for the spouse visa then if you may share me anything you know about it, from what i heard to some of my friends and when my fiance went to the consular office in charlotte, they said it would make it more difficult and it will be much longer to get it approved

Hi happytobe,

thats correct,she did not even look at my evidence of relationship. my fiance did sent identical proofs with the petition, but i also brought the proof of the card that he sent for me and my daughter,pictures and skype convos that was not sent by my fiance though.that is an additional proof that i figured might help to prove our on-going relationship after we met

hi merrytooth, yes he does sent me money regularly but not really like a big amount every now and then, it probably for something like to buy my daughter a presents, or buy us some new shirts or shoes and he does it willingly just like taking care of us like his own family.

Im not sure what red flag is about in the first place but yes he is 11 years old older than me and different religion as well, but nothing was asked about it in the first place.

how much time usually we need to spend time together before there is any possibility we can get approved though merrytooth? thank you so much for at least replying to my post, we was clueless, no idea whats going on at all and just got rejected by piece of paper and not given a reason for it

Hi guys, me and fiance has known each other for 3 and half years and we finally been together when he decided to fly for a week down here in malaysia on last october. We filed the petition on last December, got called for an interview yesterday at the american embassy in kuala lumpur.

I was asked few questions on how i met my fiance (which i told them the truth that we known each other online) and when they asked me when did he asked me to marry him, i told them before he even met me and he actually sent me the ring first before he even meet me in person. i remember the CO asked me that if i am sure that a week together is just enough for me to be married to him and i said yes because i known that man for 3 and half years and he's been taking care of me and my daughter ever since then. The next question was asked that is it true that my fiance was married twice i said yes and the divorce took place quite a while ago. and right after that is when i was given the white paper stating that i was denied under such reason that i dont have a relationship with him and it will be return to USCIS

what devastated me the most is that i was only that few questions and i wasnt even asked to present for any proof or evidence of relationship like the pictures that we have together and others.

Please help us, me and my daughter are so brokenhearted as he has been in our lives for a while and he has been nothing but loving and providing to both of us ever since then