MadeinIndia

Hello. Good day! I have some concerns and I need a guide/ help. Me and my son came to the US (K1/K2) last May 31, 2015 and I get married to a US AMERICAN last July, 2015. My problem is this. After our married, my husband talked and tell me frankly that the reason he marry me is for sex only. Nothing more. So If I cannot give him the sexual desire that he wanted, he won't support me financially and me and my son won't received any single cents from him. We had sex but he is not satisfied and he demands more and more and he likes it like whole day everyday. I feel disappointed to him because I felt I'm just like a sex machine to him. And then many times I caught him going out and look for a hooker and he pay money for sex and he admit that to me also. I cannot do nothing when we are in the US that time, so he continue looking for a hooker. He doesn't support me financially when me and my son stayed there in US for 11 months.

That time, I don't have yet PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD and EAD so I won't able to work and support myself and my son. I just only received that 1 month before we go vacation in the Philippines.

Now we are here in the Philippines for a vacation. My husband talked to me that he doesn't care anymore If me and my son won't go back to US anymore. He plan going back to US next month just by himself only so me and my son will be left here in Philippines. In this case, what shall I do? What gonna happen to our status If me and my son won't go back to US? OUR PERMANENT RESIDENT CARD is valid until 03/07/18 and OUR EAD/ ADVANCE PAROLE is VALID UNTIL 11/11/16.

Please I need some help so I know what shall I do what step shall I need to do. Thanks in advance!

The first thing you need to do is contact a lawyer. Maybe your case falls under sex trafficking. The US Govt is very tough on that. Your husband can be forced to give you compensation and also face jail time himself. Second, if he has abused you mentally or physically which I think happened, you can get a waiver for removal of conditions, in case you want to keep your GC. Either way, you have to be strong to get justice for yourself and your son. Tell him that if he doesn't take you back with him, you will report to the authorities in your country and/or US Embassy that he has abandoned you. Just don't let him go scot free!

Does anyone have similar situation before?

My I-485 has been approved on May 13, which is the a worst timing to me. We have a plan to travel outside of the US from May 20 to May 30. I have not received any notice that my card has been mailed out. Therefore, I don't think I will receive the card before I leave. My trip is for my wedding reception, which involves lots of people and money issue and will be difficult to move.

I looked up a few solutions, but not sure what is the best way to solve this situation:

1. Enter the US with my EAD/AP combo card. Legally, it seems not to be allowed when green card is approved. Will it cause my green card to be suspended or anything?

2. Get a temperate I-551 stamp. However, I am not able to make an INFOPASS appointment before I leave. No opening left.

3. Ask my neighbor to mail the card to me when it arrives, but I don't know when the card will be mailed out from USCIS. It may not make it before we return to the US.

Is there any other option to enter the US? I would appreciate for any help!

Getting the I-551 stamp is your best option. I think even if there are no appointments, you can walk in to your local USCIS office and explain the urgency and they will help you if you show the flight tickets, reception plans.

I am currently doing a 6 Months nonpaid internship in Michigan. I am being sponsored by my countrys Government, so the funds I get are in Euros, since I come from Europe. I arrived in the US February 11th 2016 and I have a B1 VISA, which expires August 22nd 16' and is only valid for my Internship. My internship ends Friday August 19th 16'. I have flight back to Europe scheduled for August 21st. During my internship I am not allowed to take vacations. Since I am already in the USA, I want to take the opportunity to travel around the USA right after my Internship ends, for about 2/3 weeks. All costs would be supported by me, including the change of the flight back to Europe. Since my Visa expires August 22nd, is there any legal possible way that I can either extend or get a tourist VISA, in order to travel for those 2/3 weeks after my internship, knowing my VISA expires 3 days after my internship ends?

What are your suggestions? What can I do?

Thanks.

Yeah, whats the last day on your I-94? Visa can expire on the day after you enter the US but the date on I-94 matters. Anyway, max stay on B1 or B2 is only 6 months and you have to file for an extension much before and I think they only grant extension for something important like bad health etc and not for sight seeing. You can try for extension but if denied, you have just a day or two to leave and that can be stressful. According to me, the best thing to do is just leave and come back later.

I dont have a "history" of marrying foreigners. No, im not Egyptian. Im an American who was married to an Egyptian and the marriage of almost 10 years didnt work out. In the mean time, yes Im free to marry but im not in a hurry to marry right now. I'm fine with getting engaged to someone that loves me and I love too who happens to be in Egypt where tons of my friends are from. I havent been on VJ in forever so I was giving a little back history to those who are new. Sure, I can delete Adams picture off here and probably will do that sooner than later since we arent married any more. OR maybe I'll just start a new fresh VJ page.

Well it is up to you what you want in your profile picture and if you want to change it here, it is simple, go to your profile and change the picture, or till you are ready to upload another picture, you can always keep the profile blank, no need to create a whole new page.

As for "history", I did not mean a whole load of previous instances, even once sets a precedent and the second time too you are marrying an Egyptian and sponsoring his visa, so that makes two similar cases. Of course there is nothing wrong in it but I am just trying to look at it from a USCIS perspective so one can be better prepared. I wish you all the best!

Okay, trying to understand...If your divorce is final...why would you still want your ex's picture in your profile? Legally you are free to marry anyone you want but if you have a history of marrying foreigners and bringing them here, there could be a closer scrutiny (It's just my opinion, might not be the case) Btw, are you Egyptian?

What are his career prospects? When will he earn enough to support her?

I asked her this a long time ago. My friend has a transport business and it seems he planned to work along with her if he comes here....

I feel bad for her but being an Indian myself, I know how their minds work...It really is a stretch that a guy who lived all his life in a small village in North India, can hardly speak English found love with an American woman 23 years older than him. I mean it is not impossible, stranger things have happened but in this case...something ain't right...

The sad thing about these scams is that by this point the victim is already in so deep they can't believe it's fake. It's so easy to rationalize things, think of yourself as Romeo and Juliet, you against the world. The US Embassy in Morocco has a page about romance scams that shows this is a real problem from the US Gov, but doubt your friend would be receptive. Sorry, hard place for you to be.

The problem is, you can't tell that directly to someone you know. Before anything happens, we will become the bad guys so I am trying to be supportive. I have a strong feeling about that guys bad intentions but keeping it to myself.

You said the man's family received a car from the USC, their neighbours do not know anything about it?

That guy took it with him to Delhi where he has a job ;-)

I would be very surprised if it was overturned. I have seen some really strange things happen.

What is her plan assuming it does not, is she planning to move?

Well, all she says she won't give up! She cannot move there because she needs to work here or no livelihood! That guy makes $250 a month in India!

So she sent me the NOIR letter she got and I am attaching it here after editing out identifying details. I don't have the heart to tell her it is a losing battle but now she is gearing up to get a lawyer, getting affidavits from the man's family and friends, her family etc, vacations taken together details etc etc to submit additional evidence before 30 days. Do you think she has a chance?

Okay. By reading the history, I presume it was messed up quite a bit in the first application. What was your basis for telling your dad not to mention about you? In the first application, what did he write in the application about having relatives in the US (I know he mentioned it to the officer, but what did he write on the form?)

As other people in that post commented, you made a simple issue complicated by having your cousin send the invitation instead of you. It doesnt matter if you are 7 days old in the US or 7 years, you can always invite your family. If in the first application form he ticked "No" to any immediate relatives in the US and said he has a son verbally to the officer, it's counts as lying and would be tough to overcome. Anyway, try now with all the documents I mentioned above and don't put pressure on your father on what to say or not say, just let him be himself and also make sure the application is 100% truthful.

You did not mention what your status is. Are you a citizen, GC, H1, EAD etc? Also, last couple of times, did you send a Form I-134? If not, send that, along with your paystubs, employment letter, bank statements, invitation to letter, a letter addressed to the consulate from you mentioning how important it is for you to see your father as your work does not permit you long leaves to go visit him and you don't want to miss the time spending it with him since he is 71 years.

Yes, they call this the "lonely hearts" scam.

Just heard from my friend. As I expected, she got a Notice of Intent to Revoke letter...

That should be fine. It is a multiple entry visa and she is free to enter multiple times but when someone spends more time in the US in a year than their home country, then it is a problem. Parents of lot of Indians I know come here every year and spend 6 months in the US and they never have any problem. If it is more than that, it becomes an issue.

My aunt was here for 6 months, went to India for 3 months and came back. The officer at PoE warned her that she needs to keep some gap in between trips, minimum of 6 months. This scared her and she now plans to come only after a gap of 1 year just in case. If you mom was here just for 2 months and coming back after 4 months, she most probably would not have any problems nor be refused entry (I am sure you know this is just an opinion, not a legal advice). I think the best way to be safe is to make sure that in one year, your mom spends at least 6 months and 1 day in her home country and the rest here (even in multiple trips, the total days should not be more than the days spent in her home country)

I am sure every case is judged differently. Unless there is clear evidence of fraud, I am sure no case will be rejected. Having said that, in case of consular processing, if they have any doubts, I think they put the case on perpetual loop of bureaucratic layers. I know of a woman here in the US, she is 54 years old, been married 4 times, drives a semi, met this guy from India online and they fell in love and she went to India and got married 3 years ago. This guy is 24 years old and is from a small city in Rajasthan, barely speaks good English. She travelled to India 2-3 times to meet her husband, bought her in-laws a car, spending all the money for his visa expenses. So he recently had his interview and the consulate sent back the case to the state department and now it seems she just has to wait to hear from them. It has been 6 months since.

I really don't know the intentions of that guy but I feel sad for this woman. Maybe that guy is just playing her for a green card but she thinks its genuine love. Anyway, these are the cases I think USCIS would scrutinize more.