Dave-Bhel

sorry to the OP that your going through this, I was told yesterday that we are over.

filed K1 4-11

she arrived here 10/19

married 11/27

told we are over 3/2

 

oh and the because...

my kids dont eat all the meals she fixes

my kids make messes

I forget my lunch 3 times

I fixed dinner when I got home instead of going to our room to find her

and lastly because I dont feel her sister who lives in the US likes me

DOUG & THIN....oh my, I feel so horrible for what you guys are going thru right now!!! It is so frustrating that there seems to be no real order to how things happen....why some couples get letters from the NVC, and others don't.....why some cases that arrive after ours get approved before ours, etc. The system is clearly flawed and hard that we can't do much.

I am praying for you guys to get the answers you need and for that passport to come ASAP!!! You guys will get there....its just unfortunate with what you've been going thru!! Try to keep your heads up

my prayers are in there too for you. We are at 35 days of AP and I just had to reschedule Lorebel's flight home again to the tune of another 150 UDS.

Good luck and congrats

"he wants me to pay half of the rent pay electricity and internet and food"

She also mentions insurance, clothes, phone bill, transport ect. So most if not all bills

Half = 50%, no?

Against my better judgment I'm going to pop one last post in. I am talking about percent of income going into a join account not about half the bill. It let's both parts feel like they contribute equally even though the dollar amount is different. One person pays more but both contribute on an equal basis based of value of income. So no 50% of her pay would not be 50% of the bill. I don't know why I'm even trying to help, like I said this isn't the type of relationship I wanted. This situation sounds like he didn't get what he was looking for, and she didn't get what she was looking for. People should have sorted these things out before they got to this point.

All these people commenting about OP paying her "fair share" need to remember what it's like for new immigrants in this country. And yes, I consider 9 months pretty new.

There are countless posts on here about qualified workers who take months, sometimes over a year of job hunting here just to end up getting a job bagging groceries for minimum wage. Is it really "fair" to expect people in this position, many whom are still adjusting to a whole new way of life to be in a place where they can afford to pay the same amount of bills as someone who has been here much longer and is well-established?

We don't know how much Op's husband makes. If she is only making $90 a week and he is feasibly making at least $20,000+ a year (assuming he didn't use a co-sponsor for the I-864) is it really "fair" to expect Op to pony up half the rent, pay for her own health insurance/medicine, etc?

While I don't know if I would call his actions "abuse", I can very well see why Op would not be happy in this marriage and I can understand her desire to leave.

I'm sorry I must have missed the part where this was about her paying 50% of thr bills, I know that I never said that.

i only make 300$ a week , i pay for my transportation because I don't drive 125 $ a week plus he makes more then i make , o asked for joining account so we can start saving together for the future he said no everyone save on his own bank account I tried most of thought that i want someone to pay all and do everything no i don't of you said fair its need to be fair i don't mind paying but not everything , and he makes more than i make

That's why I said a percentage of your income to put towards the bills. Neither one of you should have to contribute everything you make unless your bills are more than what you made and that's a totally different issue. What I found works best in the past is start with a percentage say 75% of each of your income. If you notice that the bank account is growing and you can lower it and if you notice that it keeps going down you can raise that percentage. Eventually you will find a number that works where you know what to contribute and then you know what is yours. Oftentimes you can actually have your payroll direct deposited to multiple accounts based on this percentage. That way the money going into your account is yours and the money that goes into the family account you know has gone to bills. Being that it's a marriage you should both have access to that bill paying account. It might sound like a cold way to do it but in the end it relieves the stress from both of you and what's left over you can have fun with. I had also told you if you are looking for somebody to just take care of you there are guys out there that will do that. You will always have to bring something to the relationship some guys will not expect you to bring Financial Adams to the relationship. It really comes down to where you want to go from here if you want your marriage to work then there things you can do towards that. If he really isn't what you want life is too short to be miserable find a situation that makes you happy.

So most of you agreed that I have to pay half of the rent and full amount of gass bill and electricity amd cabel and he should only pay for his car and helf of the rent is this fair thank you is this because im not USC im the foriener i have to pay for everything thank you all

I really don't recall anybody saying that. but it's not uncommon for two people to work together to pay the bills in a household. The amount of money should be relative to how much you make, of course the person who makes more should pay more it's working together as a team to have a life together. I am of course assuming that you want a life with this person, if you don't then get out and find somebody that will offer you what you're looking for. If you decide to leave the marriage make sure you find somebody that is what you're looking for and you're what they are looking.

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Oh, that's good to hear that both have mailed the PCs but the Doha part is not working as you would like it to. Doesn't your fiancee have any friends in Doha who could help her get the tracking number for her! Hope she's not drowning herself with the long island iced tea though??

I hope you will get them soon.

No friends there, the agency she got the job through is closed, and the family she worked for has moved out of the country.

Oh, Im sorry things didnt go according to your plan. I know how disappointing this waiting is sometimes and my fiance just taught me to do something good to other vjers out here by encouraging and helping them with their inquiries. It works, helps ease my disappointment and impatience?

About your fiancee's PC, have they issued her yet?

Both countries at this post say they have mailed them finally, Singapore on the 13th and Singapore gave us a tracking number last night. Doha says it was mailed on the 8th. Every days I have sent an email asking for a tracking number and every day I get no response from Doha. We are mailing as high as the minister of the interior but still no one from bottom to top will respond. We have no clue how long registered mail takes to get from either city to Manila so we wait ... and I guess Bhel ordered three long Island ice teas from Queen Dory yesterday lol

Pain is subjective and each of our waits hurts us individually all we can to is validate eachother pain and try to be supportive, I just had to tell the woman of my dreams I have to reschedule her flight home for the second time. She should have flown home with me 8/30, when she couldn't we set the flight for 9/28 and now I have to set it out to 10/12 and hope. You wait will seem like forever, just like ours, but at least you know there are others out here going through the same pain and we can take care of eachother.

I am sorry...hope you get out of AP soon. Which countries are you requesting police clearance from?

Doha and Singapore

25 days for us, waiting for police clearances from countries that don't like to give them up

They gave the passport back because they are not issuing the visa yet. There is no standard time for AP and resolution in 60 days. No one can tell you how long it will take. It varies greatly. It can be weeks, months, or years. The consulate will never give you a timeline either.

It will depend on the consulate's procedures as to what happens when the case is ready for approval(if it will be approved). A new medical and interview could be asked for.

~ Moved from K-1 Process to Waivers and Administrative Processes - topic is about being in AP ~

Bhel got her passport back also, our processing will resume once we get a police clearance out of spingapore. Until then we are in AP.

Good morning everyone, I and Bhel are here is our room at the Lotus Garden getting ready for our interview at 9 am wish us luck as we do the same for all of you.

Anybody got any ideas on how to get a police report out of Doha Qatar without actually going there? Any help would be appreciated we are trying not to get a 221-g

From what i understand after the interview its generally ready at 2GO Mall of Asia 3-8 days after interview, average 5 days.

We just finished printing the last of my fiances documents and chat logs at the Internet cafe, the ones i didnt have time to print before mailing her package last weekend, minutes before the Internet cafe closed, just in time for her embassy interview tomorrow morning 7:30am!

Shes in her hotel room across from the embassy studying all the documents while I test her with random questions, were so nervous because we expected she would have her documents a few days early but there was a 3 day delay on her package delivery because first it was held in customs for import tax (for paper?), then another 2 days delay because I mailed to 2GO Mall of Asia (being a FedEx partner!) as they were supposed to allow pickup but they refused the delivery! So the FedEx driver instead took it to the 2GO Durian location next to the airport terminal 4, she she had to go there to pick it up the next day.

Good luck to the both of you, I'll be flying in on the 20th to be with Bhel at her appointment on the 22nd for her interview. Right this moment I was finishing up her medical.

I'm eagerly awaiting to hear what the turnaround time is from interview to visa on hand from the MOA. I was told the best time to book was on a Monday and Visa's would be there on a Friday at the Mall of Asia. Does anyone know??

I am right there with you, I am hoping it is quick, some in the March group have said 8 days.

I originally was intending to fly there as well, but we are in peak season and I begin a management position on Monday so I reasonably can't do that now. But went through checking so many visa's on hand being delivered to Mall of Asia and if you had an interview on Monday, they were available for pickup on Friday. Some even came in on a Thursday.

Too bad you couldn't be there it would have been nice to celebrate afterwards, I like the idea of meeting some of the other people from the site.

Interview is set for August 22nd at 8:15AM. The visa's is expected to be delivered at the Mall of Asia on Friday, August 26th. I did my homework on this and its the norm expected delivery time if you are using 2Go at the Mall of Asia.

I was monitoring flight prices and when I was looking a couple months ago, flights were about $850 for two for a one-way. Then recently i saw flights jump to $1400-$1600 which I wasn't too happy about. But I also knew to check prices a couple times a day because there is one day out of the week they drastically drop.

Yesterday, I booked a flight on EVA Airways (one way) for Sunday the 28th to depart Manila at 12:40PM. It's a 19 hour (one stop) flight stopping with a 4 hour layover in Taipei. My girls will arrive at San Francisco International on the 28th at 4:30PM.

You will get your best deal booking 21 days minimum in advance. I'm not telling everyone that is what they should do, but if you're confident your significant other will pass the interview process and have their visa in hand on time, be smart and book ahead. Yes, I'm aware there could be a hiccup, but I have to have faith.... Good luck to everyone!

Our interview is on the 22nd also, at 9 a.m. I'm looking at flying back the following tuesday afternoon I went through to tuesday just to be sure that her visa would be done because we want to fly back together. Now that you say the 26th I wish I would have taken the chance and booked then.

Yes for the medical you can print a screenshot of the CEAC NVC READY status, my fiance just did that yesterday. For the interview you will need either a scanned copy of the NVC hard copy letter or the email from NVC with your case number and beneficiary name.

Yes the email from NVC with the case number and beneficiary name printed is acceptable alternative the the NVC hard copy letter. see reply to mabeatz27 above.

I we never got an email or letter from the NVC. I got my case number by calling them.any suggestions?

Some good news this morning myself and Bhel received our case number from the NVC. We've had our case approved (NOA2) on the 18th which makes it just under two weeks for those waiting. The case was received by NVC this morning and we already have the case number.

I have a question... Can we pay the visa fee at bpi even if our status is still in TRANSIT? Just a thought plus I saw someone posted the same on the facebook page for K-1's but I can no longer see that post. Maybe someone can answer here. TIA.

Once you have the case number from the NVC you can book the interview and medical. I am told you need to be careful though to leave time for the package to actually get the the embassy before you do.

Long is it taking for everyone from when the USCIS mails out the information to the NVC to when the NVC actually received it?

Just popping in to let everybody know that my RFE was in regards to a previous marriage. I've been married twice and included the divorce from the most recent marriage but not from the one prior to that and they wanted a copy of the one prior to that. I sent a request down to Florida with payment and an overnight envelope included and I'm expecting the associated paperwork back tomorrow and then I'll shoot it off to USCIS. I'm also including a couple of other things in the package and a letter explaining why that I've seen other people have trouble with like the terms of service from the site we met on.