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  1. I received an email today saying that I did not sign part 5 of the i186a. I know that I did because I was actually very meticulous about that part when I mailed in the documents. 

    Regardless to avoid argument because I know I won't win. I am sending it a second time with my signature. What I would Lil to know about how long they usually take to review missing documents? 

  2. You both played the game where his family led his fellow villagers to believe they were witnessing a wedding. Embassy staffers made discrete inquiries, and a villager must've recalled the wedding that your in-laws had announced for their peace of mind.

    Btw, not trying to be nosy, but what reputation do you claim they were protecting?

    Maybe I'm not explaining myself correctly. We didn't do a public Hindu ritual. I just wore the red dress. And we had a partty me wearing that. When they asked the parents about the ceremony they would say it was already taken care of.

    Family is from rural village. Doesn't look good man leaving home to chase after a woman let alone of he isn't married. Either way bit me in the behind. I'm thinking to go back to marry alone and then again when baby is a few months older

  3. See the underlined!

    You dug your own grave with that.. Visa approval is based on truth and honesty. That false pretense is what came back to bite you.

    In Ghana, people have been denied just because nosy neighbors have told field investigators that the applicant was married even though he wasn't actually married but folks just say "my wife, my husband" as a playful thing.

    Probably, someone told them you are married. You can't undo a lie after it has been accepted as the truth.

    Going to tell, the embassy or USCIS that you lied about been married to your village won't change a thing. Lies are have serious consequences. Some people have got banned for lying.

    Get married legally....

    With immigration process, you could be deemed too married for fiance visa but not married enough for spousal visa.

    So, make sure you are married enough for spousal visa.

    good luck to you!

    We were true and honest with the embassy. We aren't married and didn't comoekte any marriage ceremony. Its not about truth and honesty its about who can play the game the best. That's truth.

  4. You condemn others here for feeling superior and call them trolls, yet consider your fiance\future hubby's birthplace 'substandard'? Way to go..

    Your gonna say its not? Its fact doesn't mean I'm never going but you have to do it in the best way as to not risk the babies health. My home country substandard to what exactly is wrong with stating fact?

    Second fact is you just read the post and felt the need to be sarcastic and arrogant not condemning just calling you out on it.

  5. Is your daughter also his daughter? If so, why would you not want to bring her to India. This gives you so many chances for his family to interact with their granddaughter/grandniece/niece. My wife is planning a trip back to China, and will be bringing our son with her, I can in no way contemplate forbidding her family from having their chance to see him.

    Children are born every day in India, and they survive extremely well. Heck, many of the best doctors in the US studied in India.

    Yes it is his daughter, and no I'm not forbiding the family from seeing their grandchild. The plan was just to wait until she was at least 1 yrs old to give her a chance to build up her immune system. And if he is with me it would have also been easier for us to fly back together. I'm a first time mom so the travel and all alone with the baby scare . Me.

    I just flew to the UK with my then 4-month old. Granted, I had my husband with me, but the flight was pretty easy. We got a bulkhead row and they gave us an infant bassinet that attached to the wall. The baby slept in there and we all had a good time.

    I wouldn't want to fly 18+ hours with layovers, but something shorter like to a flight to Europe is definitely doable.

    Good luck.

    Same I'm thinking

  6. That rationale will not make sense to the OP. It's too rational. I guarantee she will be back on to repeat how there's no proof of marriage (other than the wedding attire, picture in said wedding attire, ceremony, and his family believing that they are married, there is none).

    I'm with the OP, I don't see how they could've denied them.

    Wow so you just troll threads to criticize instead of offer some suggestion? Nice because when there is so much tension and stress in this process no one makes a mistake, even when they go over the process a thousand times over making sure they dont. You must feel real good about yourself that your status is all set and you can just go make fun of the people going thru the rough time that you just went thru.

    Oh let me feed into your criticism no there isn't a legally binding marriage certificate.

    You had a wedding ceremony and allowed your inlaws to tell people you are married. https://travel.state.gov/content/visas/en/fees/reciprocity-by-country/IN.html This page says that Hindu marriages do not have to be submitted to the appropriate authority; rather registering your marriage is optional. So it could be that you are married according to religious law (I think you are) and that is enough to deny a fiance visa. It doesn't matter that you didn't sign paperwork.

    And to reiterate something said above, you do not have to get married in India. You can fly to a third country and get a civil marriage if that is easier for you. Cyprus is popular and it's sort of midway.

    I know it sucks. Best of luck to you.

    This may be an option actually, then I can bring the baby on a flight that's not 18+ hours. I will definitely be looking into this idea. Thanks!

  7. Let's see.. You submitted photographs wearing wedding dress and jewelry. His family considers you married. You just had a baby; Indians generally consider a baby out of wedlock as taboo. Embassy staff contacted his family, village, etc who basically confirmed you two got married.

    Why the surprise he was denied a fiance visa?

    Because we have documents that state he is legally single, no they did not contact his family his parents signed affidavits that say we are not legally married. And no we participated in some customs but did not follow thru with all the rituals that bind us as married.

  8. You really have no choice at this point but to go back to India, legally marry and file for a spousal visa. This situation occurs often. In the CO's eyes, you are too married for a K-1, not married enough for CR-1 (yet).

    You will not be able to change the CO's mind. I'm really sorry you have to go through this, but the sooner you accept the only solution (marry and file for CR-1), the sooner you can be together.

    I'm starting to see that. I'm trying to figure how fast I can sign marry and come back. I can't take my newborn. :( thank you
  9. Did you apply for the visa BEFORE your divorce was final? If so you were denied based on the fact that you have to be free and clear to marry the day you sent the petition in.

    If it was final-

    A letter from a parish priest about your intention to marry here in the states means nothing to USCIS or the consulate and will not change their decision. Just think for a minute and be logical. How would that priest know you did not marry in your fiance's home country? Answer: He doesn't. A scanned copy of your passport is not proof that you didn't marry. It just proves when you left the country. What does your baby's picture do to prove you're not married? The pictures you sent in traditional engagement/ marriage attire led then to believe you're married. There are literally hundreds of threads on this site from people just like you who were denied for the very same reason, and it is advised to never do anything that resembles a wedding party. It doesn't matter that there is no so called proof that you're married, there is also no proof you didn't. A court documents verifying he is single won't do any good as people get married all the time and never register their marriages.The burden of proof is on you, not them. And I agree, it's hard to prove you're not married. India is a high fraud country and you are paying for those who have gone before you and lied. Your only choice at this point is to go back and marry him and start over with an I-130 for a CR-1, they do not care that you just had a baby and that it will be difficult to travel back. Please don't shoot the messenger as I am only telling you what's true. Please keep us updated.

    Thank you I appreciate your clarification, we are in limbo now will keep updating as I go along if it doesn't help me maybe it will help the next couple. I will submit as much as I can regardless I can't leave just yet to go marry him so its something to do when there is nothing we can do.

  10. Just a thought if spousal visas require a marriage certificate shouldn't the existence of one determine if a person is married or not? We obtained court documents similar to Phillipines CENOMAR stating that he is single and legally free to marry to prove that no certificate exists and we are not married. We also obtained notarized letters from his parents testifying that we aren't. They accept notarized letters to verify other types of evidence why not this?

  11. I am sorry this happened. I hate to say it, but your only option will be to marry and file for a spouse visa. Unfortunately you had a ceremony that the consulate interpreted as a wedding. Its happened to many people on this site. I know you don't consider yourself married and that this ceremony was important to your fiance's culture, but it ultimately cost you the visa. You fell into the situation where you appear to be too married for a K1, but not married enough for a CR1. I am sorry this isn't what you want to here, but I don't think there's any other option to get you fiancé here. Again, I am sorry.

    In any other case I would have already flown back, I have a one month old now, and can't really take her to a substandard foreign country and can't leave her behind just yet. So we are stuck in limbo, not married but they don't believe us and can't go and marry him. Any suggestions :/ I got in contact with congressman I'm hoping it helps :'(

  12. Did you apply for the visa BEFORE your divorce was final? If so you were denied based on the fact that you have to be free and clear to marry the day you sent the petition in.

    If it was final-

    A letter from a parish priest about your intention to marry here in the states means nothing to USCIS or the consulate and will not change their decision. Just think for a minute and be logical. How would that priest know you did not marry in your fiance's home country? Answer: He doesn't. A scanned copy of your passport is not proof that you didn't marry. It just proves when you left the country. What does your baby's picture do to prove you're not married? The pictures you sent in traditional engagement/ marriage attire led then to believe you're married. There are literally hundreds of threads on this site from people just like you who were denied for the very same reason, and it is advised to never do anything that resembles a wedding party. It doesn't matter that there is no so called proof that you're married, there is also no proof you didn't. The burden of proof is on you, not them.

    1. No I waited till divorce decree was in hand.

    2 everything I sent in came in as proof that there was no possible way I could have legally married him because I was not w. Him at the time, for example the passport. Yes logical thinking I left the country before my divorce decree was finalized meaning I could not have legally marrie .3 my case has a multiple affidavits from people in my church and how they have followed my situation and even know me and my fiance and our plans. Including that I was waiting to marry

    4. We are collecting as much proof as we can, even proof that we have a daughter. It can't hurt.

    From what I understand is that these forums are meant to help not to be criticized by people who troll those forums to feel superior , and even after hours and hours and hours of reading, no I never saw those forums otherwise maybe the outcome would have been different. That's why I'm here because there was information I was lacking and I'm doing what I can to amend that

  13. To be sure if your case is in AP or has been returned to USCIS have the senator request the diplomatic pouch number and determine the

    exact location of your case. They said they will return it to NVC so I am 99.9 % sure it is being returned to USCIS. Ceac should soon state case returned

    but it's often not updated. Get your senator/congressman on it a.s.a.p to make your complaint and request another interview

    or forget it, marry and re file.

    How do you know they just let it expire? And how do you know they don't allow you to extend that expiration date? Just curious?

  14. My situation is described in the email I sent to DOS of India below. Any help is greatly appreciated as too what to do next :(

    Hello,

    To whom it may concern, I am writing this email to inquire about the decision made in regards to my fiance's K1 visa application which took place today September 29th 2016 at 8:30 AM. After attending the interview he received a 221(g) notice that stated he was ineligible. The officer stated that he was not eligible for a fiance visa because she believes that we are married. The fact is that we are NOT married. She told him that he need to reapply under a spousal visa and that after applying we could have the case expedited. I currently cannot return to India as I have recently delivered a baby girl September 6 2016.

    We both clearly state and stand by our truth that we are NOT married. There is no legal documentation in existence stating that we are. We did not sign any paperwork or obtain any type of marriage certificate stating that we are married. Therefore we cannot apply for a marriage visa because we do not have any type marriage certificate nor does one exist that solemnifies us as married. Our intention was for my Fiance to enter the US and then we could in fact marry in the US as presented by evidence that we had submitted.

    The decision was made based on photographs that we ourselves submitted in which I am wearing the dress and jewelry typically used in a Hindu wedding. My intention in participating in cultural wear and traditions was to share in my fiance's culture as well as to allow his parents to participate in our engagement and future wedding. We allowed his family to say that we were a "married" couple for their own peace of mind and to protect the reputation in their small village in Himachel Pradesh, but we are not married. The officer told my fiance that she had proof and verified that we were married and refused to tell us which evidence she had. I understand and respect the system fully, but as I stated we are not married and there is no legal documentation that states otherwise.

    Having said, according to the Hindu marriage act that would consider us as "married" we would have to meet the following requirements;

    *Neither party has a spouse living at the time of marriage. -I currently was in the process of waiting for my divorce decree in order to apply for my fiance so legally I could not marry, and therefore chose not too, Instead we applied for the K1 Fiance Visa.

    *We would have had to have been living together for a period of six months. -As proven by my passport I have not spent more than four months during my visit with my Fiance.

    * The marriage act is between two Hindu participants. I was born a Christian and do not fall under Hindu religious law. My Fiance himself has also converted to Catholicism and also recognizes the Catholic religious ceremony as a binding marriage ceremony which we planned to have upon his arrival to the US as proven by an official document from my parish priest

    I have included the following below;

    1. A scan of the 221(g) notice letter he received during his interview.

    2. A scan of the letter I received from my parish priest stating our intent to marry in a Catholic ceremony in accordance to our Religion.

    3. A copy of my passport to verify that I was in the country less than 6 months following the celebration.

    4. a scanned copy of our divorce decree stating that the date it officially went thru was after my last trip to India.

    5. Photo of baby including date of birth.

    After waiting 7 long months, this decision has left us completely heart broken. I spent the majority of my pregnancy alone and my fiance missed the delivery of his first daughter. Our hope was that this month we would soon be able to hold her and we could be reunited as a family. I cannot leave my daughter who is only about 20 days old to go sign a marriage certificate , we cannot apply for a marriage visa because we have no evidence of married because none exists, and we cannot reapply for another fiance visa because we have already been marked as not being engaged.

    I am hoping that this error can be corrected and it can be clarified that we did in fact apply for the proper visa. I hope that we will not be forced to fully reapply and wait another 7 months before our family can come together. Please help me take the next steps so that my fiance can soon join me and our daughter. If there is any option or expedite available for us please let us know so that we can move forward and I can bring him home as quickly as possible.

    Thank you very much for your consideration. We are very grateful for your time in reviewing our case. I am willing and capable of providing any other statements or proof needed to verify that we are NOT married and did apply for the proper visa category.

    ********

    Since then we have collected 2 affidavits from oare ts stating that we are not married

    And 2 court documents that verify that he is currently single and eligible to marry. There is no legal marriage certificate on file.

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