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    Can/Am Custody Issues

    in Canada

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    My eldest is 10. I'm really not sure about the age, I'm finding all sorts of contradictory information. Im pretty sure the international part will cause its fair share of problems as well. A friend of mine suggested I look into a guardian ad litem, but it looks like they have to be ordered by the court first. My youngest doesn't have the amount of issues my eldest does. He and I were together only breifly after she was born, so she doesnt have the same experience as her sister. Either way, stuff has been coming out at a rather rapid pace lately where I need to be able to protect my daughters.

    Can/Am Custody Issues

    in Canada

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    I was wondering if anyone has gone through this before. I don't have orders from a judge, because we worked out custody issues before the divorce case was even heard. There is a separation agreement, which I was assured multiple times was binding, where he agrees to me having sole custody. It also agrees to some visitation.

    He hasn't had any kind of contact with the children since January. No phone calls, no birthday presents, nothing. He couldn't even keep his CS on track. My eldest has been in therapy since shortly after we arrived. My ex recently asked to see the kids at xmas. I've been struggling for years to get that man to have anything to do with his children. He has consistently seen them once or twice a year, with no phone calls in between for a long time. I know he will see them for 2 or 3 days, and then they will hear absolutely nothing from him for at the very least 6 months. My eldest in particular is struggling with issues in regards to her father. She has no desire to be left alone with him, and is very uncertain of even wanting to see him at all. Her therapist feels that seeing him will set her progress back alot, that I shouldn't be allowing him to "hit and run" parent. I do agree that she has a lot of healing to do before she will be ready to see him again. I know he is with someone new, and always feels the need to proove, at least for the first few months anyway that he is a wonderful daddy to the new lady to impress her, and any effort he makes now will vanish without a trace and my girls will be left confused, hurt, missing him, with a whole host of new issues.

    I told him a few days ago that I didn't feel xmas was a particularily good time, that my eldest has a lot of healing to do and she isn't ready to see him yet. He responded that he is going to get a lawyer when he gets to his new posting to enforce visitation and get some things changed in the custody agreement. If he agreed to sole custody in a separation agreement, do I have a leg to stand on here? A professional believes that him seeing her will cause her significant damage. Do I have a right to refuse visitation in that case? Is there a certain age where kids will actually have a say in whether or not they see the other parent? Has anyone here ever had Can/Am custody issues? I'm very stressed, and worried for my eldest. She genuinely doesn't want to see him, and is in fact scared of him.

    Via Train to Montreal

    in Canada

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    I took the train to Montreal and back in the same day, from Kingston. It wasn't too bad aside for a long delay on the ride there. Wasn't overly happy about the cost of it. But it is relatively close to the consulate.

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