meandmom

If you're trying to deport him, your best bet is to annul the marriage (on the basis that it was entered into under fraudulent pretenses and not a real marriage). You should also immediately report his physical abuse to the police, if he ever tries to hurt you.
However, the charges and proof will have to be serious and bona fide. Talk to a lawyer and tell them the facts, and the lawyer will advise you whether you have a case for annulment, or not.
However, even if it's only emotional abuse you're dealing with, it's enough for you to walk away. If not annulment, then divorce. Do it fast, and move on. He'll be able to stay, but he won't get a chance to torture you again.

Depends on when the visa gets issued. During my interview, we were told to wait 5- 10 working days. My interview was Monday morning and when I got home the status says issued already. I picked up my passport and visa package on Wednesday so only 2 business days in my case.
Good luck!

It looks like the IO suspected that you entered into a marriage only with the purpose of gaining an immigration benefit. Given that your wife is 20 years older, the IO questioned whether yours was a marriage of convenience as opposed to a bona fide marriage. Hence the questions about you having sex, why you married, and how you met.
If you have a true real marriage you should have nothing to fear. It make take time, but it will be possible to prove so to the IO. You can submit "a request to reconsider" to the consulate, attaching all additional proof of your relationship and sworn affidavits from friends and family, from your priest, as well as from your wife and you. Just be persistent, and you will get your visa. Don't worry, and don't be afraid.
(But if your marriage is indeed a matter of convenience and you married for a visa, than it's better not to continue, because the consulates are highly trained in spotting fakes vs. real ones. It's bad enough to get a visa refusal, it's much worse to get a permanent ban for immigration fraud.)

At this stage there is an accusation of fraud by the CO, and a visa denial due to suspected fraud. That's as formal as it gets. The CO found what s/he thinks is fraud, now the OP and her husband will be given a chance to refute this finding.
If that accusation is not refuted, the permanent bar will be in place. Even now, if the OP tries to get a different type of visa (while the case is pending for the next year), she will be denied due to suspected fraud.
That's why now is the proper time to speak of misrepresentation and permanent bar, instead of advising the OP to "just wait until her children can file for her". By then it will be too late. She has to act now and refute the accusation. If she does nothing, game over.

Not really. Having a child who is a US citizen will not help a parent to immigrate to the US, if said parent is permanently barred from the US.
The OP was denied a visa because the CO accused her of immigration fraud. Right? The CO said the denial is because the marriage is fake and just a means of coming to the US. That's immigration fraud.
Those who are deemed to have committed immigration fraud are permanently barred from the entry to the US. Therefore, if and when someone else petitions for the OP, she'll have to file for a waiver of inadmissibility.
Unfortunately, there's no waiver of inadmissibility available for parents of US citizens. Therefore, even if the child files for his mother, the petition will be denied.
Now, the only way for the OP to overcome the permanent bar is to convince the CO that she did not lie and did not participate in any immigration fraud. If she manages to do that, then she'll get her visa and join her husband. Everybody already laid out very nicely, what is needed for that (detailed timelines, legitimate proof, and a logical explanation of their story). If she doesn't manage to do that, then I'm afraid she'll never get any kind of visa to the US, ever.

Many people try to fraudulently abuse and circumvent the immigration system. Getting married is the one simplest way to get a US visa. How much is a US visa worth to someone unscrupulous who really wants to come here? More than the cost of airfare and lawyers.
There're plenty of fake marriages where people marry in order to get a visa. Some outright pay for the "convenience", others find someone "help them" through friends and relatives, yet others find Americans to marry and then lie to them about "love".
It is the job of the CO to try and weed out the fake illegal ones from the real marriages. It's not just the American spouse that has to prove that her intentions are genuine, it's the foreign spouse too.
Proving that the relationship is real is not as simple as proclaiming to the CO their love for one another and providing some pictures and affidavits. The fakes one do the same, they also take plenty of pictures and try to provide as much "proof" as possible.
It's too bad that the real couples sometimes get caught in the net of suspicions, and have to go above and beyond to prove that their relationship is genuine. It's the fault of all the fake ones, not of the COs.