iwasscammed

At least you lived and learned. Everyone makes mistakes, the point is to get up and keep going.

exactly, and I have!

You remember how you felt with all the attention poured on you. So many here fall under the spell of those professions of love. They have not sat in a eatery in Nigeria watching a young man with 5 or more cell phones answering each phone with the same words. Getting here is a family business. I sometimes can't understand the depth of the spell that these people cast on their stepping stone to the US.

YESS!! I thought I was going to Nigeria to meet the love of my life. And shortly before I was to leave, I got a very detailed email from his older brother (name removed) listing all the things I should bring when I come. If he was doing me any favors, he should've asked me to bring snacks, Imodium, iron supplements, bug repellent and toilet paper (apparently nobody in the house uses any!) But instead he told me to take along my birth certificate, passport photos, bank statements, proof of employment, etc. lol...I just feel so foolish looking back at it all........sheesh.

As a victim of visa fraud, I have to say that the responsibility has to somewhat lie on the victim to be more vigilant and not so blinded by what they think is love. If you take all your hard earned money and spend all of it to go to Nigeria to meet your intended fiance....bring gifts for every family member....use your own money to support yourself while you're there (food, petrol, etc) while living under the most horrible conditions you've ever been in, in your entire life....and then the day of your flight to go home ur 'fiance' counts your money to see what you have left....hands you back 20 bucks to go home with..... then makes a list of each household member (13 I believe was the count) and then writes how much should get distributed to each of them.....then leaves the room to go play santa claus and hand out all your money around the house....and THEN if that's not bad enough...he comes back in the room and tells you...oh, and my sister in-law wants to know if she can have you gold earrings!!!!!! ...........WTH.....you should definitely at that point RUN and never look back instead of going home and then filing all the papers to bring the person to the US!!!! This site talks a lot about red flags and that could not have been a bigger red flag waving bright RED in the Nigerian sky!! So when I went back and successfully filed for him to come over, I shouldn't have been surprised that he was gone in less than 6 months!!! Definitely a hard lesson learned.