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I've said it many times and I'll say it again, I disclose my depression to my employers simply because I want to. Everyone has their own level of depression. If I am a danger of having a mental break down, then I want my employers to know about it before I get hired. End of discussion on that matter.

And @ditdot everyone has their experience. I don't know where you live(d) in Fiji, but where I lived it wasn't a happy and dandy place. I know of what I experienced living there for 9 years of my life 10 years ago. Maybe things have changed since then, I don't know.

And we aren't the type of people who want to depend on extended family members for help. They will only help so much, until they get tired of you. We depend on ourselves. We want to be able to provide for ourself, not depend on the government for "foodstamps". It's easy to tell someone things, but it can only be understood if you are the one going through it.

Thank you everyone, but I have been getting a little more productive answers elsewhere.

Thank you again, Boiler, for all the help.

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So he saw his Lawyer after all this happened so the Lawyer has it in hand?

Yes he saw the lawyer after he was forced to sign the papers. But as far as the lawyer handling it, we do not know. The lawyer has not told us what exactly he is gonna do. Whether it be a stay order or go to court tomorrow, we have not been told what we can do. But we are afraid that if something isn't done, he may possibly be on the plane tomorrow evening to Fiji.

Something you need to talk with your lawyer about.Surprised he was not told by his Lawyer not sign anything? Usually it would be the first thing they would tell you.

As I mentioned, he was told if he didn't sign the papers, he will not be able to meet his lawyer. My Dad told them that his lawyer is coming today (which he did thankfully) and to wait a few hours, but they threatened him to sign the papers or be put in jail. And we cannot contact our lawyer to discuss what we can do, because he is not communicative. By the time we get to talk to him directly, it will be too late.

Our main concern now is who can we contact to get a stay order on his deportation? He could be deported in 24 hours.

As I have mentioned on this thread, he has not been in Fiji for 15 years. He has nothing there. He cannot work there because he is 59 and retirement age is 55. My Dad has no clothes or money. They are deporting him to be homeless.

My guess is that he agreed to Deportation.

If he does not understand English how did he know what they were saying?

My Dad does understand English a little bit. What he doesn't understand is how to read in English. He was forced to sign something he didn't fully understand. And yes they made him sign some papers so they can get his passport from the Fiji Embassy here in America to, and put him on a plane right away.

Can someone please tell me who can we contact to stop this. They forced him to sign the paper without talking to his lawyer. His rights were denied.

Thank you everyone for the help. Yes, I have started seeking additional help on immigrate2us.net

I thought I'd update you guys on here that, someone met with my Dad in jail today. They forced my Dad to sign some kind of papers. My Dad told them his lawyer is meeting him today, but they told my Dad, that if he didn't sign the paper he will not meet his lawyer.

Our lawyer is trying to find out what kind of paper was signed. My Dad is not fluent in English, so this was forced on him. Is there something we can do? We are afraid to think about what the paperworks may have been.

So it is the 9th Circuit, not has been tried by the 9th Circuit? If they have said no then that is realistically it.

$4,000 is Lawyer fees is a couple of days work, so a lot to you, but not a lot in the context of this case.

Mum would have sponsored him, been denied because of the crimes and then given the opportunity to file a waiver. As they are now asking about hardships was the waiver filed? Should have veen this was years ago, but wondering what the game plan is.

Sorry this post got covered with all the other mess.

1.) Yeah the 9th circuit is finished. We are hoping to present our case to the Supreme Court.

2.) True. He took the money, so there must be something that can still be done to atleast delay his case.

3.) My Mom could not get a waiver on that sponsor, because it said it was final or something. This is not the same lawyer that we had when my Mom filed to sponsor him. I believe this is our 3rd or 4th lawyer handling this case now.

Is there something that can be filed (while I am under 21 & unmarried) by my Dad to use me as a advantage in the case? Let's just say that he were to be deported (which I am still not ready to accept consciously), will he have a possibility in returning after I turn 21 and file some papers, with the Domestic Violence being on his record and all?

And we cannot get our $10,000 bond that my Dad had gotten out on 2012.

OP I am sorry for your plight dude, and speaking to U man to man OK

no blame no disrespect....Look this case is almost at the end of the

rope unless by some miracle, so breathe, what will be your next move?

As an only child I think U were never made ready for the world & 19 is

still young, however don't allow a PTSD diagnosis to cripple your life, I have

seen many blind & Down Syndrome ppl held jobs at the supermarket, hardware

etc....You can never help dad even after he leaves if you don't man up.

Son in life (most times) our parents goes B4 us, you have to do for you &

moms future, U have no siblings, start getting serious about taking care of

yourself myou can get therapy, do exercises,get some positives friends,

even do some lawn mowing or snow removal to help mom.

Clearly there are many issues, it did not start with one shove, U are moms

protector (we see this in young buys with some abuse in homes) mom obviously

depended on U like the little man and dad drank, leading to PTSD...I hope you

get help & the asylum will speed up deportation along with felony if they

considered the asylum app frivolous...only stop left is Supreme Ct writ of cert

I wish U some relief soon

Thank you.

Read post #10 as to why was 911 called in the first place.

If people truly consider this a troll, then I guess the Admin can close the thread. But please don't delete it, because there are helpful information (sadly over shadowed by those who do not understand yet comment), because I may need to take a look at them again.

I would like to take this time and thank those who have supported me and actually read my posts, instead of commenting to side with the majority.

Nothing furthur needs to be discussed on this thread. But please post a link to an existing topic about waivers and stories of something that is similar to my situation. All I need is examples to use for my case.

Thank you. Especially you, Boiler.

What paperwork?

City Congess? You mean State?

Hardship letter for what? Another I 601?

Assuming what you have said so far is correct then the next Court up is the Supreme Court.

1.) Fees Agreement Papers, so he can retake the case to court.

2.) Yes I believe City Representatives.

3.) To provide our tax papers, prove my Mom has Gaucoma & Cataract, a letter from a Hospital regarding my PTSD and Depression. and a letter from my therapist. There are more, but I cannot remember top of my head.

4.) Yes.

Then answer the questions with FACTS.

It's hard answering questions, when your busy repeatedly answering the same suggestions, about something off topic. I have shared majority of the information don't know what else is there.

- Dad has been here since 2000 on a visa which expired after he filed for Asylum, which didn't go through.

- Orginal Laywer was slow in getting my Dad to court and properly getting his paperwork done.

- My Mom and I can to America in 2005. We became US Citizens in 2010.

- My Dad was in custody between '08-'12. He Has a Felony which he served 1 year for. Mom tried to sponsor him, was denied.

- He was arrested this Monday & his (current) lawyer told us his case was in the 9th circuit and it's over.

- Lawyer hasn't been communicative. My Dad wants to reopen the case. Lawyer sent someone with paperworks and to take $4,000 to take the case again. Doesn't matter win or lose.

I know that my comment will not be helpful to OP but I just want to try to save other posters' time and effort. Looking through the story provided by OP and multiple discrepancies in his story, this looks to me more and more as trolling. I would recommend closing this thread.

If I was "trolling", then I wouldn't be so mad right now. Don't judge someone simply just to side with the majority. If you have nothing to say about how or what paperworks need to be filed, then please don't comment at all. It is upto you to avoid a thread that you cannot help on, not the Admins or Moderator to simply delete because of your opinion.

Again, if I was trolling, I would troll at a better place with some other excuse. Not on s forum with a legit issue my family is going through. This is nothing to troll about or seek attention for. When I was younger, I would "troll" by talking smack on PS3 with my friend. That was a child "trolling", this is a adult son who is seeking help for his father.

Obama is not going to pardon him. If you want to ge down the Political process you would start with your local representatives.

You said that your Mother had petioned for him and it has been refused.

Is your Lawyer not answering your calls because you have not paid him?

If you want to try and reopen a criminal case then you need a Lawyer to help you. Domestic Violence is not minor.

We did paid $4,000 to someone who came from the lawyer's office (yesterday) to get some paperwork signed. But what we have been told is, to write a letter to our city congress and to write a Hardship letter. My Dad wants to go to a higher court.

I never said I want sympathy nor did I ask for it. One person simply commented on my PTSD, and now it has become the main topic for everyone else commenting. Trust me if I could ignore or block someone so I dont have read their post (therefor ending this discussion) I would.

I never said I had a consistent job. I said I WAS working with my Dad while he was out, but now I am working elsewhere, where I cannot expect to be needed and have a permanent job. And that a better paying job with benefits are out of the question. Do not put words in my mouth.

And it's my personality that I am truthful. If someone (a health supervisor etc...) were to come to a place and ask the employer about their employees background, then I rather be honest and prepared. Or to have my next employer call them about me and learn that I wasn't completely honest. You do your way of things, I do mine my way.

YET AGAIN WE ARE TALKING ABOUT ME AND NOT MY DAD!!! I could careless how you came here or when. Your case is not the same as ours or the next person. EVERYONE of us has to deal with the system and lawyers that aren't working with you when you need them. That is the only thing could possibly be common amonst us all.

I'm sorry, but if your just gonna repeat what others have said (get a job, get therapy, I have PTSD as well etc...) then please don't bother. But it's the Internet, you may continue dragging the dead horse.

I 212 relates to his deportation so sounds like you have given up trying to stop it and want to see if you can bring him back.

The bigger issue will be the I 601, addressing the criminal histiry that is getting him deported.

No we have not given up and never will. As I previously mentioned, we are trying to write a letter to our city congress and the President of United States, but we do not know how to start our letter. Any suggestions of links would be appreciated. We don't care if it "may" not work, because people are always forgiven. Even big of a crime as murdering someone, your death sentence can be pardoned to life in prison. So we know there is a slight chance my Dad will be pardoned, and he can continue living with us while filing for legal paperwork. Even that 1% is a big hope for us.

The I212 & I601 was simply a assumption of what we may need to do. Now I know that I212 is after he is deported, but I'm still looking at what we can do while he is still in custody. I know there has to be a form that my Mom and I, my Dad, and our lawyer has to file, but as said many times, our lawyer is not answering our calls.

And my Dad served his time for the Domestic Violence. We even went to court to tell the judge that it was a misunderstanding and my Dad never raised his hands on my Mom or me, ever. There was no evidence of bruising or anything. All that happend was my Dad slipped and accidently pulled on my Mom's hair. But instead of us doing the talking, the lawyer was doing his thing and my Dad ended up being gone for 1 year for DV & 3 for Immigration. That is just the only thing my Dad has on his record. Something so minor can be resolved, once we get a proper chance to present ourself in front of the judge. And if all fails, my Dad is more then willing to take a Polygraph Test.

Thank you Eric & Idalia, you seem to understand how I feel.

I just had to leave on a last (for now) note:

My Mom and I are US Citizens. The first thing that my Mom did was try to sponsor my Dad while he was in jail. It didn't work out.

For those who are saying get a job. I do have a job. I just don't have a permanent job, where I can expect to be needed tomorrow or the next day, or the day after so forth, or a job where I get full benefits and can file taxes and stuff. I have completely been honest about my PTSD and Depression, and I never got any calls back regarding my applications. I've even applied to McDonald's. I don't even get paid the minimum $9 wage in California. I get $7 an hour. I do not see the need to hide my "personal demons" from my employer(s), because I don't want it to effect me in future. All in all, I am currently making $336+ a week. Working 6 days a week, sometimes here, sometimes there, but that is what people are willing to pay me. Sure if I could not tell my employers about my Depression, then maybe I would get much more and benefits and a better job then cleaning other people's messes.

And whoever said "I work 40 hours a week" well, my Mom works 40 hours a week, and makes $360 a week, $18,720 a year MINUS the expenses. She is a CNA, her weekends are spent doing paperworks at home and now chasing after our lawyer. She has to wipe people's butt that cannot wipe themselves. My Sunday's are spent looking for someone who is willing to pay me atleast $5 to clean their yard. If not, then I spend my Sunday researching about better career; Police Officer, Therapist for Children, CNA, managing a Poultry Farm etc.... So you see I don't just sit here and talk about how difficult life is, I know and am living through the difficulties. Comparing your situation with mine, or my mother's, or mine with yours, does not matter at all. Each indivitual have different needs and struggles in life. Sure lets say everyone one of us who commented on this thread have PTSD and depression, but that doesn't mean my (or yours) is comparable.

Now if I may be excused, I am reading success stories on here about i212 & i601. Talking about what I do or should do as a living is not why I joined or created this thread. This has easily went off topic. I'll repeat myself ones again, I'm here to find out what are the possible paperworks need to be filled out from what I've shared so far, which I think (unoffically) would be i212 & i601.

I have mentioned that my Dad came here on a visa to attend his brother's funeral. His life was threatend, so he seeked a lawyer to filed for an Asylum, but the lawyer did not help my Dad on time. His visa had already expired by the time the lawyer took actions. Thus his court battles begin. He has not been here illegally and hiding. He has seeked legal help since day 1. It's the system that is slow and took their time to getting his case where it is today, 15 years later.

How can you say someone has been here illegally, when they have always been truthful about their immigration status and have seeked legal help. Fiji is not a place where you can cross the border and here you are in America. Fiji is 19 hours away. You certainly cannot visit someone there every year. Maybe every other year for 1 week.

And as I've said, this is not about me. All I did was share how my Mom and I depend on my Dad. You truly think I haven't gotten therapy? Where do you think my teenager years or the 4 years my Dad was in jail went? I not only have PTSD, but Depression as well. And thank you everyone for sharing all your struggles with PTSD as well, but I cannot understand your situation or what you feel/think every minute of the day. All I know is how this has affected my parents and me. I did not come here to seek help for my PTSD, it was simply a short informative part of the story. Again, I was diagnosed with PTSD AND DEPRESSION when my Dad was in jail. Him being away was the reason for my condition. When my Dad was released, I was on the road to recovery, now we are back in the same situation we were. If a therapy session didn't work for me back then, why would it work now?

And I have had thought about joining the Army, but why would I join the Army, when I want to be able to be with both of my parents and see them everyday? Sure there are benefits of joining the Army, but what's the point in me trying to keep my family together, only to have 3 of us scattered around the world? Again, I am trying to keep my family together. I was more happy making $360+ a week with my Dad, rather then finding a better paying job that would require being away from home days/weeks at a time; firefighter, truck driver etc...

And why I keep saying "I'll share full details when I talk with my Mom", is because I need to talk to her and get more information out. But yet people kept responding and asking small questions, which I did have answers for, so I answered. But from the answers I've gotten, it doesn't really matter if I talk to my Mom or not right?

Anyways, I have gotten whatever information people could help with, instead of making this thread mainly about my situation or how we can forget a family member as if he was simply a pet we owned. Maybe you people don't understand our culture. Sure you may relate to PTSD, but not our culture, being married to someone for 42+ years, or being more attached to that parent then the other and being extremely Depressed etc... I will no longer post on here, until it's furthur needed. My time is more valuable to me to look at success story's by others who have been in our situation.

Again, I am not trying to be disrespectful, but you wouldn't be able to control yourself either if you were me. My heart tells me justice will be served to my family, I'm not gonna take people's answers seriously on the Internet, or my mind. We didn't come this far to just pack up and move back.

Thank you for the help and information for those who helped try to figure out my Dad's case. I appreciate it.

I have mentioned that my Dad came here on a visa to attend his brother's funeral. His life was threatend, so he seeked a lawyer to filed for an Asylum, but the lawyer did not help my Dad on time. His visa had already expired by the time the lawyer took actions. Thus his court battles begin. He has not been here illegally and hiding. He has seeked legal help since day 1. It's the system that is slow and took their time to getting his case where it is today, 15 years later.

How can you say someone has been here illegally, when they have always been truthful about their immigration status and have seeked legal help. Fiji is not a place where you can cross the border and here you are in America. Fiji is 19 hours away. You certainly cannot visit someone there every year. Maybe every other year for 1 week.

And as I've said, this is not about me. All I did was share how my Mom and I depend on my Dad. You truly think I haven't gotten therapy? Where do you think my teenager years or the 4 years my Dad was in jail went? I not only have PTSD, but Depression as well. And thank you everyone for sharing all your struggles with PTSD as well, but I cannot understand your situation or what you feel/think every minute of the day. All I know is how this has affected my parents and me. I did not come here to seek help for my PTSD, it was simply a short informative part of the story. Again, I was diagnosed with PTSD AND DEPRESSION when my Dad was in jail. Him being away was the reason for my condition. When my Dad was released, I was on the road to recovery, now we are back in the same situation we were. If a therapy session didn't work for me back then, why would it work now?

And I have had thought about joining the Army, but why would I join the Army, when I want to be able to be with both of my parents and see them everyday? Sure there are benefits of joining the Army, but what's the point in me trying to keep my family together, only to have 3 of us scattered around the world? Again, I am trying to keep my family together.

And why I keep saying "I'll share full details when I tslk

Knowing the things I know now, it's been 16 years next week and I would enjoy another tour through high school. I don't really understand your situation compared to high school though.

I was trying to make a point by saying, you cannot simply go back to a place and have the success as you originally had. In other words, if my Dad were to be deported to Fiji, he wouldn't have a place to live. He wouldn't have a job, and he wouldn't have a means to provide for himself in a "new" environment. It's been 15 years. What can he possibly have there, while his wife and son is here in America?

Even wild animals aren't wild after being in captivity for so long. Sure, you can release them back to the wild, but what is the guarantee of its survival and success of reintroduction into the environment they have long forgotten?

I'm sorry but you keep repeating the same excuses. I understand that your mom has health problems. But how exactly would your dad living with you help your situation? How could he get a job supporting your sick mom, you and himself? He is not young either and he is a felon.

I keep repeating myself, because apparently it's necessary to do so for certain individuals. I'll repeat myself again, we NEED FINANCIAL & PHYSICAL SUPPORT, he has had a job. Not a permanent one, but he is good with cars. He helps those who need help here and there. That is how my Dad provides for us. He has not been wasting time by doing nothing. On a last note I will like to say, he has enough of strength to survive in America at his age. Not start his life again in a environment he has nothing, and where he has not been in for 15 years. Can you imagine going through High School again after so many years?

And this is my final response to you, since you've stated I am repeating myself, therefor I'll save you the hassle. Thank you, but I have people who are helping me with links and information, instead of asking the same question again and again. Not trying to be disrespectful, but it's not as easy sitting here reading someone basically telling you to forget about your own elderly father, or simply move to Fiji and be homeless with him. In my culture we don't give up on helping our family in need.

Thank you.

Part of a hardship filing is not only how is if bad for you not to have him here but ho you can't go live with him in Fiji. You mother is from there originally so it may be harder for her to show that but what about you? Are they reason why life there would be impossible

Well we have made a life of our own here in America. We don't have anything in Fiji. If we were to go to Fiji, we would be homeless basically. My parents won't be able to get a job because of their age, the retirment age is 55 in Fiji. Environment is also a problem. It's not so glamorous as it is on T.V. Commercials. Houses are regularly a target of being over flooded when it rains. And from my experience when I was 8-9, an individual threatened to kill my Mom and I, and even came as close as to my front porch. We called the police, but it took them 1 hour to arrive, and they turned the other cheek when they were bribed to not arrest that individual.

Someone advised us to send an appeal to the President of United States, and another one to our city Congress. How would I go about that? I could PM you may current city.

Guys this is not about me. Please don't make it about me. I have seeked therapy, who do you think diagnosed me with PTSD and Depression? We don't believe in taking medications for everything. Medications don't solve the problem or pain, it surpresses it. And as for the comment about my Mom can continue to survive without my Dad, since she did for 4 years. Well it's easy for you to say. But how much do you make exactly per year? An average person makes $30k+ a year, not $18,720. I would like you to subtract all the bills and expenses from $18,720 and please let me know how much do you actually have end of the year. Are you a 58 year old women who has had numerous health problems (cataract, glaucoma, kidney & gallbladder stones etc...), because if your not, then you may not understand what we are, and have been going through for years. Sorry I'm not trying to be rude, but in a situation like this anyone could flip. Perhaps, others situations are much worse then ours, but one must truly live through a situation to understand it.

Again, I aplologize.

Ok, but why can't you get a job and support your mom and yourself? I mean I understand that you love your dad and you want him to be with you but you and your mom don't literally need him to survive.

How cannot my Mom survive without the love of her life, whom she has known since they were teenagers? They have been married for 42+ years. They are all they've depended on. My Mom makes $18,720 a year as a CNA. She cannot pay the bills, the rent, and buy food without the support of my Dad. My Mom has cataract and glaucoma in her eyes. She needs to get the sergery, but she needs my Dad's emotional and financial support. I can go on, but I am basically repeated myself from post #6.

I myself am emotionally attached more with my Dad. I was diagnosed with PTSD and Depression when he went to jail. And now I have to relieve through that nightmare again. No one wants to be separated from their loved one. Just like how one will have a difficult time living with 1 arm and 1 leg, that is how I feel my life would be without my father. Yes I am a 19 year old adult, who is daddy's little boy

And I can get a job, but do you really think I will be permanently hired after finding about by PTSD?

4 years served is a lot more sentenced.

And the first thing his Lawyer would do as soon as your Mother became a USC would be to file an I 130. What other basis does he have for avoiding deportation?

So not sure what is going on.

I'm sorry, I got my information wrong. He served 1 year for Domestic Violence, and 3 years in ICE Custody. My Mom did file for I 130, but it was denied. The only thing we have been told could save him now is, if we prove that we will suffer through hardship without him. I have given a brief information on how we have and will suffer on post #6

There has to be a lot more to your story. If your father's arrest was a "misunderstanding" and it wasn't domestic violence then why didn't your mother defend him?

From what I understand, your dad has been in the US illegally for 15 years and he was 4 years in jail for domestic violence. He abused the immigration system and he was in jail. Letting a person like him stay would be a slap in the face to all the legal immigrants who came here following the immigration law to the letter. You are an adult. You can get a job and support your mom.

As I have said previously, I will go into furthur detail about my Dad's case once I can have a chat with my Mom. I cannot simply speak on a matter without details and expect to get help. Another reason I am avoiding sharing details at the moment is because, I don't want details to be repeated or scattered amonst different posts, which is already starting to happen. And do you really expect someone to hire who has PTSD and depression on their file? I do not have a permanent job. I was working with my father here and there, but now he is in jail.

My Dad had came here Legally on a visa, to attend his brother's funeral. But before his visa expired, he has consulted a lawyer to file for Asylum. My Dad's life was threatened in Fiji. Sadly, before the lawyer could take any actions or give my Dad the proper information, my Dad's visa expired. My Mom tried to file for a Asylum for him recently as when, but it was denied. He has not abused anything. If anything, it's his previous lawyer who wasn't informative to my Dad. My Dad has NOT been here hiding from the law. He has been fighting for justice ever since his visa expired 15 years ago. What happend between then and now, was simply our own personal issues and misunderstanding. My Mom and I weren't as fluent in English as we are today, back when my Dad was arrested. We have learned to deal with that misunderstanding. We cannot control how long the system takes to give justice to individuals and their family members. All we can do is pray and wait.

I've joined this site barely today, but one thing I would recomend is removing the time limit for Editing Posts. I've made some posts that I wanted to add more information on, but the editing option was no longer available, even while I was in the process of editing.

Instead of having a set time limit, could there be like how many times you can edit your post in a week? Or simply just increasing the time limit could help us slow typers.

Ofher then that, this site is wonderful and really nice people on here.

Thank you.