Sorry to derail the conversation but this is beyond ridiculous. Do you know the percentages of valid marriages that fail in the first 2 years? If someone sacrificed and uprooted their entire life to move here and be with his partner, that person should not be punished because that person later becomes an ####### or it doesn't work out. I am so invested in the US now that should my wife and i have problems that eventually ends in a divorce, i would have to leave the massive investment and contribution that i have made and walk away. How fair is that?
People will always find a way to abuse the system but from the stats, it looks like it's a very very small percentage. The majority shouldn't have to suffer. I'm not a fan of the 1 year extension but 3 years is more than enough to verify legitimacy of a marriage and i suspect this is why they're in no hurry to speed it up or change it.
I've had my extension letter for a year and I've had no problems working or travelling. It looks like the O.P's situation is not very common.