Dana-Kristen

I dont feel like giving up but giving up on thinking that tomorrow will get an answer. I do not even think that I will get any response this week. Maybe in January 20145302003 ... I do not know and I do not care anymore.. I think I will leave this group as it did not really help me.... the statistics are maybe accurate for some but not me... Bye.

Albeit we speak of stats in this group, it isn't about stats. It's about support.

Good luck!

You're definitely not the only one. I was relatively nice for a long time, now I'm just hunting for blood everytime we call USCIS. It's absolutely sickening that NOBODY can give us a validate answer. It's always "it will be your turn soon", sorry but after 8 months I have no intention to wait any longer, nor should you have the guts to tell me to keep on waiting.

This whole thing is turning me into a monster.

It's so tempting to call USCIS and unleash my fury, but our immi lawyer said to leave it to her and her paralegals. I guess when you call to make an inquiry, they can put a hold on info request for up to a month for a particular case (in order to avoid constant info requests. Well gee, maybe if the staff were productive it wouldn't get to that point). I e-mailed our paralegal today to see if it's worth them putting in a service request for us because Sept. 18th as of March 31st... seems as though by end of may a Sept. 23 file should have been glanced at...

We want to book our honeymoon this week, and I want to be excited about it because it's SO exciting, but my brain keeps reeling back to "you might not even be ABLE to do that once that time rolls around!" It's for end of Nov/early Dec so...I'd HOPE by then I'm living in the US...but at this rate it seems too surreal of an idea to accept.

I know how you feel, especially as you just left Raleigh, when I said goodbye to Rich in early January we both thought it was a matter of a couple months. We were sure I would have moved by May 1st. Every day is a let down and it's really hard to find the strength to think positively.

Rather than the bank holiday, it's the flooding that makes me feel like we aren't getting anywhere near being approved.

Hang in there lady, we'll get there!

Thanks, Mew!

Ugh, the flooding. I keep forgetting about that, too. Hopefully that blows over quickly (for many reasons).

Also, am I the only one who is freaking out over the amount of October, November and DECEMBER files being approved right now? This morning, the "last 15 files approved" are all Oct/Nov/Dec files! (Save for, like, one Sept.) The things I would do in order to have a word with the adjucator whose desk my file fell upon, and his clearly oblivious supervisor.

Is it normal that I feel like giving up after 8 months waiting ???

I've never felt like giving up on the process to be with my loved one, but giving up on positive thinking? Yep, I'm there. Well past that point, actually. Today marks 245 days in TSC purgatory. Even a month ago when I was feeling pessimistic, I didn't think I'd actually see 250 days. Now, I'm planning on seeing 300 because it feels like I just can't have nice things! Hopes and dreams dangled in front of my face, but not within reach. That seems to be the theme here. After Pfredrikson (sp?) was approved a few weeks ago I was feeling really positive because his file date is two days after mine. Now, I'm back to feeling nauseated, forgotten about and just overwhelmed with the possibility of not having a Visa in my hand by my October 23 wedding date.

And today is an American holiday, so I feel like this short week of theirs might be a write off.

I'm definitely in for a Facebook invite when it's up and running.

Good luck for tonight to all still waiting. Hopefully they were productive today since Monday is a holiday - really hoping the rest of us finally see approvals. Grooaaannnn.

Hey ho, is there some people here from september waiting for NO2. Am I the only one ???

Yep. NOA1 of Sept 23 here. Still waiting.

Just dropping in to say congrats to all who have been approved!

I've been visiting my fiance this week and am here until Sunday. We were hoping to have something to celebrate but it's hard to even

believe it's possible anymore - 240 days today. Oi!

Good luck with the next steps - hope it goes quickly for you all! Xo

GUYS IM HAVING A HEART ATTACK OMFG I CANT EVEN I CANT DEAL OMFFGGGGGG I GOT APPROVED!!!!!!!!!!!

OMG CONGRATS!!! <3

You guys told your work? How long before would you have to put in your notice?

I never even applied for mine until after I was back in my country and realized how seriously long this might take. My job is all thats keeping me sane and healthy right now.

I am not planning on quitting until I have my visa in hand. Noone outside my family and closest friends knows I am even engaged, or that my partner is in a different country. It makes me feel like lying, but they are not allowed to ask and I have no obligation to tell them.

I have seen people talk about this issue before so I was wondering.

Hopefully it will turn out alright for you guys! Also, I hope none of us are stuck at TSC much longer... fingers crossed!

Edit: I just saw your post Mewbear! I also work with kids so I would def prefer to leave before the new school year starts so I dont run off on them after a few weeks. I totally get how you feel, I am sure a lot of us do.

My job knew, as soon as I got engaged in July, that I'd be going through the process. I wasn't going to lie to them. I figured if I was honest, and assured them that they'd receive plenty of notice, things would be okay. So, I am assuming that my boss just wants to follow up. And hey, rightfully so.

Unfortunately work creates more frustration and insanity for me. It's a toxic environment, so I am looking forward to putting in my notice. Most people in my position would probably just up and quit, but I'm not wired that way. I guess that is both good and bad. haha. Blah.

I'm glad you and Mewbear have a good working environment to keep you going.

Thank you so much! I go back and forth between feeling like it's not the fault of the people we talk to on the phone, and being mad to the entire world. I'm not upset that it takes 2 months for some people to get approved, I am upset it takes 8 months for us to get someone to LOOK at our file. Rich snapped the other day saying it was garbage we were "living a single life" when we're trying to get bond for life. We're being kept apart because people can't do their job properly. I get there is differences between files, but COME ON! finish all September before moving on to another month! I know my words can be hurtful, and I'm sorry if they come across as insensitive, but I'm in a high point of frustration. All the cases I've been following were approved in April, the last one being May 1st. The fact that NOBODY can tell us anything is just awful. As the beneficiary, my life is a mess. Work is about to let me go because I can't tell them when I'll leave and I can't blame them, I don't know what to tell to people around me, I don't know what to do with my bank accounts/insurances/paperworks etc.

I feel like I'm being totally deprived of moving on with my life, and it's just awful.

I said that before, I feel like getting our NOA2 will make me happier than getting my visa.

I'm sorry for the whole whiny post, this process is seriously taking the best out of me, and I don't know how to deal with it anymore. That being said, I'm always pleased to see my fellow people getting approved, and I hope we will all on to the next step very soon <3

Thinking of you!!

Can you actually get let go from your job for that reason? My boss wants to meet this week regarding my pending departure, too. I feel like it's not a good reason for dismissal, though.

Either way, it'd be shocking if everyone wasn't done soon.

I hope you're right! That's what I'm thinking. The optimist and pessimist have left the building; I've found the strength to be a realist.

Today, anyway.

Well, I'm Sept. 23. I can only force myself to think that I will be approved any day now.

Jesus tap-dancing Christ I hope. I'm headed to Raleigh next week to spend a week with the fiancé, in our future home, and it would be wonderful to have an approval to celebrate together.

Got the text at 8:31pm CST last night. Can't even believe it. 8 months after it was received, FINALLY APPROVED. There was screaming and crying.

Thank you guys for your constant support and encouragement and wisdom in dealing with this mess.

I'm gonna get married y'all!!!

Praise to the Almighty, He has heard our prayers!

And He will hear yours. Praying that your approvals come this week, my friends. Keep the faith.

Oh wow, good! I'm so happy for you. Congrats

Ethline was referring to his actual Visa - interview was today

Hopefully you will still hear something this evening when USCIS approvals go out later today

Ahh gotchya!

Wow, congrats on being done with this treacherous haul, Ethline! I can't wait to feel that feel.

Thanks Kaisara - hopefully the majority of us Sept filers get some good news this week!

Hi my fellow September filers just wanted to thank you guys for all the support. Visa approved today. I am still praying for the rest of you guys still waiting.

Ah, I thought approvals only came through after 8:30pm?

Meh well. I've basically stopped checking anyway.

Congrats!

At least you acknowledge her hardship and I'm sure she's beyond grateful for it. The uncertain of not knowing what to say to work, family, when to prepare, dealing with administration papers etc etc is a huge load of stress on top of the rest.

Can you please ask your fiancée her recipe to keep cool? Cause a lot of us could use it!

I decided to completely stop watching anything regarding CSC. Last time I read a timeline from a couple who got their NOA2 in a MONTH. A MONTH!! I can't capslock hard enough to show how much I felt about it ahahahh

Good for them, but I'm not gonna lie, it made me utterly jealous and made me hate the system even more.

Yeah, any time I read (accidentally, because I certainly try my best to avoid it) a CSC approval, I feel like I need a paper bag to breath into.

I'm typically a very cool and collected person, but the past few weeks have been an ongoing anxiety attack.

I agree with this. I'm the petitioner and although there are times when I rage about this whole process, I can't help but to think how much worse it is for my fiancée (beneficiary). Her whole life has been basically put on hold for X amount of time. In the meantime, I can continue with my life/career waiting for her to come over. While she has to stop everything, change her plans, and count the days till her life can "continue" again.

I've been fortunate and blessed in that she hasn't really shown any anger/frustration about this whole long process so far. Granted, it's only been about 3 months since I got my NOA1. I can only imagine what the Sept/Oct petitioners are going through.

It's really unfortunate, unfair, ridiculous with the processing times of CSC vs TSC.

I'm happy that the CSC don't have to go through this miserable process like we do. But sometimes I think to myself, for CSC petitioners this is just a brief process. For TSC petitioners, this is a journey.

It was refreshing to read this. Having your life on "hold" is all kinds of awful (especially at 32 years old - eesh). Sometimes I feel like my fiancé doesn't realize it, because he is in your position where he gets to continue on living his life, advancing in his career, doesn't have to close bank accounts or sell his vehicle, etc. And often times when I get all anxious about the process like now) he seems so calm and positive and says everything is going to work out. Or he just apologizes that I'm taking it this hard. I feel like he doesn't at all feel what I'm feeling (not that I wish it upon anyone) but I feel alone, you know?

Next week my employer wants to meet to discuss my pending departure and my timeline - so that adds more pressure. I mean, I've got nothin' until I at least have an NOA2 and can make a better guess.

But, what can we even do? Our hands are tied.

I agree wholeheartedly about the difference between CSC and TSC. Ugh.

Thanks for the comment.

I don't have the "energy" to post anymore, but I keep watching this forum and I'm supportive to all of you. Rich finally snapped last night and it was the most heartbreaking thing. He is ready to call on Monday and rage till we get answers. He always has been so positive and helpful, I feel incredibly guilty that I put him in that position. He keeps repeating that he loves me and he would do it a thousand time if necessary, but I just can't shake that feeling that he wouldn't have to go through all of this if he wasn't with a foreigner.

We will get through it, and it will make us closer than ever, but I don't think we'll ever forget how strenuous this process is. Keep swimmin' guys.

"but I just can't shake that feeling that he wouldn't have to go through all of this if he wasn't with a foreigner."

I can't tell you how much this resonates with me. However, they could say the same for us. And, I'm sure every man in here could reassure us that they ~wouldn't do it for someone they weren't completely and absolutely in love with. So, there's that. But I hear you. I've been trying to think of a way to distract myself from constantly checking (now I deleted my app, so that's good), thinking about it and, most of all, worrying about it. I'm going to try super hard to enjoy what "little" time I have left here in Canada and spend more time with friends/family and less time in my room with Netflix checking my USCIS app in a fit of desperation and depression.

I feel like I have turned into the worst kind of human.

We were there a couple of months back. We watched more or less our entire month being approved, with our filing date being the 2nd, and we just sat, going nuts, with no idea why. And we'll never know what happened.

I should probably declare myself a walking miracle, considering the number of nights of escaping strangulation by my cell phone cable and avoiding electric shock considering all the tears that probably ran into the charging device. We won't even talk about the pillow cases, good for nothing more than the trash now, having been stained beyond help with a blend of mascara, snot n tears.

We survived. I won't say unscathed, but we did live to tell our tale. Of course whether anyone would believe it is another matter, entirely!

I mis-read that as "My life is being used to level someone's wobbly desk." Well yeah, that too.

How many days were you approved in? When I was at 209 days I thought, "Bah, 220 seems crazy, it's coming!" Here I am at 225.

Thanks for the encouraging words, though.

And haha, yes - using my life to level someone's wobbly desk seems pretty legit too!

We still have 3 working days and really hope you and all of us get approval this week. Fingers crossed.

Thanks! Hoping the same for all of us, too. I can't see it happening for me. I already feel like the rare worst-case scenario. If we hadn't planned a wedding for October I'd be a lot less nervous. I've got a timeline. Our fault, I realize this now. It seemed like a safe choice at the time. Sigh..

I deleted the USCIS app on my phone last night.

Once 9pm rolled around, I was obsessing over clicking it and I am constantly setting myself up for disappointment.

I don't know how to continue on through this without going absolutely bonkers. I feel well past the point of "I should be getting my approval soon!" because, judging by the October and even November files I see being approved, I (and a few others in here) should have been approved by now.

My file is clearly being used to level someone's wobbly desk.

I'm the Pittsburgher... finance is from Montreal

Our plan is to do the court house wedding, then plan a reception for October. What area of Pittsburgh is he from?

Ah, gotchya! He's from Wexford. Where are you from? Are you a big Steelers fan? I'm always amazed by the awesome support. It reminds me of Montreal in that sense - with their Habs (and I'm actually a die-hard Habs fan, haha).

Montreal is an awesome city!

Maybe I'm just being overly paranoid, but after looking at the people who have a longer wait... it seems like Canada is high up on the list, which doesn't make any sense to me

If I look at my similar timelines, it pulls Canadian Aug - Nov filers from TSC and, honestly, most of them have been approved already - averaging at 200-ish days. Talk about feeling dejected.

Your fiancé is in the Pittsburgh area? Mine is from there. He lives in Raleigh, NC now but his family is still there and we are getting married in PA in October! (Hopefully, at this rate... who knows).

Lovely area, though.

_{At this point, I'm convinced that they have either a) lost my file or b) my case worker is some lazy slow-moving dink who is counting the days to his/her retirement and too busy refilling their coffee in the break room and playing Candy Crush on their phone. I can't wrap my head around a valid reason of why it would take my actual background check this long when me, my parents, fiancé, and his parents all have very boring backgrounds. Like, seriously - we are all fun and great people but as far as our backgrounds go? SNORE. Like, come on.}

_{I'm truly at a loss.}

Crossing fingers and praying for y'alls approvals to roll in this week!

Thank you! Hope you're enjoy Daddy time