Norabloom

Thank you Norabloom. I am thrilled when people that I helped have the case approved, not because it will fulfill my ego, but because I pray for every single person that went through abuse, because I ask God's guidance when handling each case, and of course I want to know when the case is approved, their joy is mine too, but I guess some people just share misery,nothing else .I know that God uses me tremendously when I am doing the cases. I do not praise myself for any approval,I thank the Lord for every single case approved.I do not walk in my life according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.

Hi Sandranj,
I need to say this, you are helping so many people without meeting and seeing them . that shows how big your heart is. I am sorry that some people dont see the unconditional care and willingness to make a diffrence in peoples life for good. I respect you a lot . and admire that you are using your knowledge for the good things. its very kind of you. and your consistency to assist through vj pages speaks alot about you. I know you wont let any person with small minded effect you but still I need to say please disregard and continue to make diffrence and spreading joy and hope . as you are doing . thank you for answering me everytime I am in need . I value your time, knowledge and heart .

Hello ! I read the original post, and of course "norabloom" post. It is really sad that women, and even men have to undergo these kind of feelings after all in the name of love. Love should be the greatest of all feelings. With that said, I hope everyone, including me, could learn lessons from these experiences. But then let me remind everyone that It is not about our failures in love, it is more about on how we stand firm and overcome failures into success. First, let us learn to love and respect more of ourselves to avoid manipulations and deceits. Let us be careful of our hearts by knowing well first the person we are about to fall in love. In short, start with good friendship first... no rush ! By then maybe you will know if it is meant to be or not.
I hope this helps a little. I also hope that the original poster will be able to work out on her immigration status, if not, give it sometime to go back home and start life all over again. Life is unfair sometimes, but I believe it can't be unfair all times. Keep the faith and hope in you....love will come again maybe in God's name. Good luck !

Hello everyone, I am in a difficult situation. I am a GC holder with conditions. The US citizen and I got married back in october within 90 days of my arrival on a K1 visa.
For those who came in the same case will understand that we compromise a lot in order to be with the person we love. I left my friends, family, house and job behind to restart my life with the person I would be together forever.
But living together didnt workout. My partner didnt want to have sex with me, at all. But would have sex with others without a problem. I accepted that for a while, but I was not mean to live like that. We had many arguments about this matter and at some point I gave up.
Financially, I have never had a problem with clothes or food. Initially the only problem we had was the sex. After a couple of months trying to deal with this, I gave up and wanted a time for myself to figure out what would happen with us.
He said he wouldnt give me this time, he would divorce immediately, so I would have to leave the country. It happened before I got the temporary green card.
I loved him, and it was scary to hear how he was reacting. After speaking with his friends, he apologized and said he would say that again.
Moving forward, during an argument, he pushed me really strong, i gave 4 steps back to not fall. I scared me again, I cried and then said he would never touch me that way again or he would never see me again.
Another situation, with the progress of our relationship only going down hill, he would ask me to leave his house - we live in a city that is really expensive to find a place. The average price for a shared room is $1000. have your own room its around $1800 . Knowing that, he would threat me asking me to leave his house exactly because I would not have a place o go.


after this all, I still loved him.. the passion was over, but I still care about him. Until the day he broke up with me. I accepted that, and I was ready to move on with my life. But he is still trying to control my life since I still havent found a place to go. I am looking but the harassment keeps happening. He acts like we are still married and on going relationship, but asks me to sleep in the couch. Buy my own food while he buys his. He goes out without telling what he is going to do or lies about it. But I am required to give 100% of info about what I am going to do if I go out.

Now that we are going to divorce, I want to know what are my options to stay here in the US. I didnt want to make him any trouble. But I cant stay quiet anymore. Ive been holding on for too long. I wanna speak out about it but I am not sure if it is a good reason to apply for VAWA. I would love to have counseling about it. I dont wanna do anything wrong and Dont know whe I should seek for help.

I didnt share anything what was happening with my family in my country because they would feel too worry about me here. And also didnt share with friends because I was ashamed of going thru this here.