chaves88

I sent thru USPS post mail and is not a certified service. The telerep told me to use the address written in my NOA1

thank you..

Hypnos, do you also have a guide for VAWA application?

i talked to a customer service and they said i have to send a letter to the USCIS, that is what i did but i havent heard anything from them. My case status didnt change too

Finally, i decided to leave my abusive husband. I filed police report and requested for a restraining order against him. I also sent a letter to USCIS to change my mailing address attached therewith is my statement to the police for reference why i changed my address. My delimna is that i still haven't got my 2 years conditional green card and EAC. I have no idea what to do now. I can't work without my EAC, i have no SSN too and money. My friend just let me stay in there house right now. Please help me. What should i do now talking about my immigration status and filing for a divorce?

re: greencard - check online status with CRIS.

i already checked my status.no update.

Well, he slapped me again and i told him that the next time he will lay his hands on me i will leave. I did... I waited for the 4th time before i got the courage to leave him with nothing. Yes,i am..i just dont know what will happen to my status, if they are sending me home, or i can stay here legally.

Hugs..Chavez... Hope you're okay...

Hello sunshine and other vj members.. I left my husband last January 15, i travelled by bus which was donated by the church when i was at the police station to report him. Currently i am at my friend's house but i do not know if i still get my 2 years conditional green card .. I dont know what to do.

Hello again Vj, I just want to ask couple of questions regarding my schedule for biometrics next week. After receiving my Notice of Action 797C saying they received our application. We called last week because I still have not receive the 2nd letter that the USCIS sent, they say they sent it December 26. Is it necessary to have that 2nd letter with me during my biometrics or the first letter i got from them would be fine?What are the things I need to bring or points to remember?

You guys are right. That is exactly what I told to my husband when he asked me why I am silent. I told him the way I handle arguments is that i am silent when I am too upset and calm myself then talk when I am ready. But he is not, especially when he is stress or I did something wrong or misunderstood what he said or didn't do what he expected me to do. Everything! He will just scream, yell, say bad words and insulting words, and ended up sending me home. Guess what? He blames everything to me too. I have seen, meet and knew a lot of people who argue in a calm way, not even hearing insults, attempt or hurt physically the partner..that's why I don't understand why he is like that. Anyway, I am just saying..until now i am still trying to work out with him.

Yeah, you are right. That is also one of our problem because it's either him or me misinterpret or misunderstood what has been said. So far he is doing good but I am still cautious you know. Thank you :-)

Good for you qathymendoza.. we are trying to work things out together. Thank you so much and God bless you both.

Follow their advice. Leave and go to a shelter. I am also having bad experience with my husband but right now I am giving him a chance.. I will leave too if things come into a worse situation.

He told me that we will live in the truck for few years, like 3 years maybe and I answered him "I don't know about that, we shall see since I have no idea if I would like to live in the truck or not" during my first few months I thought it was just normal and I am just adjusting the new lifestyle. Later on I realized that I am hating it. So we come up with a solution that while I am in the truck I will transfer my degree, get a job then will buy or rent a house depending on how much money we got, he will continue driving and try be home every week and when he retire he will get his own truck and do local job to be home everyday. Few weeks after we talked about that he said again he won't do it because he knows what the future will be and that is I will be divorcing him as soon as I get a job, the next day he talked to me and took back those words again. You know the feeling you thought you made a compromise to each other in a day, next day it will change,and it did not just happen once.

Thank you for the info, hope you dont mind if i ask more :-). I heard that EAD and advance parole is in one card now. Does this mean I get an advance parole too even if I didn't filed for it? How long do I have to wait for my interview after my biometrics?

Hmm as far as I remember I didn't filed advance parole. Maybe that's why I only got 2 letters.

I finally got a letter from USCIS, it says I-797C Notice of action. It tells that they received my application for AOS. I just got confuse because there are 2 separate I-797C but the details are the same except for one thing.. the last number of my receipt number is different. The last number of my receipt number on the other letter is 1 and the second letter was 2.

Before we received the letter we called USCIS, they say i am scheduled for a biometrics January 14, 2015.Can you also tell me what to expect during the biometrics? What to bring? Thanks in advance.

Paul and Jessica..True, he just wants me to be his wife but I can't just be a wife. He knows that. Besides, is it too much to ask if you could also have a job? live in a house rather than in a truck? Is it too much to ask that you also wanted to be with other people, talk to them, make friends with them, and be a part of the community? Does marriage means depriving ones desire to self progress and social interaction?

Yes, right now I gave him a chance. Our marriage a chance to work out like what I really would love to have. Not just to get away from shame but because I don't want a failed marriage. I didn't took this stage of my life to fail but if worse situation comes like if he will hurt me again. That is the time that I'll have to do something. Go to a shelter.

Thank you Raven and other Vj..

Thank you for all the advices VJ members..after all the things has been said here, I finally made a decision. I am not going back to Philippines. Instead, I will prove to him that he was wrong about his thinking "wife will divorce him when she gets a job, that I only after for citizenship".. I will prove that I am not that kind of woman that he married to. After all he is still my husband.. BUT! If a worse scenario will occur.. I,myself, will leave without any hesitation and file for VAWA.

I will.. that is what my friend told me to do too..thank you so much for your time with me. It is highly appreciated.

I will save the phone number Sandra. Thank you..

Thank you so much for taking your time reading and responding in my post. Whatever step I make, I'll make sure to let you know. It made me feel better to have some people to talk to.

I told him from the very beginning. I can deal with the screaming and yelling but never lay his hands on me. Even my drunk father never laid hands on us, so don't dare and expect I'll fight back. So I also did hurt him physically not just to defend myself but also to give him a message that I will fight no matter what. After the last time he laid his hands on me so far it didn't happened again. But I don't really think it won't happen again, it is just a matter of when and how. I am thinking about filing for VAWA but I don't have enough courage to do that. Two things in my mind, first.. just go back, why stay when what he thinks of me is just to get a citizenship..on the other hand, my mind says, I deserve to be here too. I already sacrificed the opportunity to extend my stay in Europe to be with him and stay in America. But I don't know, one thing is for sure.. I told him already that I will just go back home.

I feel bad for myself too but I guess I just have to make a decision. Am I being coward if I will just go back home? Or I have to be brave enough to fight for this marriage? I mean, in spite of hearing this words from him "he knows that the future will be leaving him or divorce him when I get a job and that I shouldn't expect that he would spend his money to get what I want which is transferring my degree, get a job and stay in a house..away from him since he will be still driving until he reach retirement age.