mamaliza

Hi all,

Long story short - I moved to the states in 2014 on K1 visa and got married, lived happily ever after (for two years) until my beloved husband decided that he doesn't want to be with me anymore and that he wants something else in his life. I'm not going to go too deep into details, let me just tell you that I didn't see that coming.

A week before Christmas 2016 he asked me to move out and give him space to think about his life. Seriously, on Christmas. I did as he asked. I attempted to talk to him a few times in the first couple of months, tried to make him go see a couples therapist, but he refused. He also refused to talk to me about what was going to happen next. He never brought up divorce, but as the time passed it became obvious that he had no intentions to work on this marriage. 

Four months after the separation (March 2017) i realized that I needed to start gathering documents for the i-751 filing and I made my husband meet me and to talk through the options. Unfortunately he wasn't very communicative and helpful again, but he did say that he didn't want to hurt me even more so he would sign/file whatever I needed. Not a word about the divorce again.

I went to sick help from an immigration attorney right before filing and was advised to either file together as a couple and attach an additional letter with explanations to why we didn't live together anymore or get divorced and file alone. I chose the the first option - had my husband sign the petition (he didn't even want to read it) attached a few letters from our friends as witnesses and filed my petition on June 30th 2017. 

It's been 9 months since the separation and the relationship with my husband is not getting better. He has started acting very disrespectful towards me, wouldn't even say hello when sees me in public, we don't talk at all. To be honest, I'm not even sure anymore if he will want to go to the interview with me in a year (current timeline for the CA center), and even if he agrees to go to the interview - we are strangers to each other at this point. I don't want to file for divorce because I don't want to hurt my case, but I also find it impossible to keep living like that for another year.

The situation is very messed up.

To answer a few questions in advance:

• I believe i have enough evidence to prove that the 3 years (2 years in marriage) we spent together were real - apartment lease, insurances, gym memberships, taxes, phone bills, dozens of family trips and photos etc. No kids.
• I didn't do anything obvious to cause this separation - I was a faithful, loving and supporting partner to him, always. 
• Does he have another woman? Maybe, I don't know.
• His friends and family never reached out to me. I don't know what he told them, but they all clearly took his side and no-one's really talking to me except for those few people who agreed to write a witness letter for me. 
• I don't want to consider moving back to my Motherland and leaving my immigration case behind. I moved here for  him in the first place and I started building my life here with a person I loved. During the time we were together I managed to build a career here in the US, my work is all my life here now. When he turned his back on me I had to start all over again - got a much better job offer, found my own place to live, bought my own furniture and had to find new friends. I've been through hell and I think I deserve to keep living my life here, at least for now. I cannot be responsible for another person's poor decisions and break my life into pieces again.

Needless to say, how disappointed and hurt I am to find out what people are capable of. I feel like a used toy. This is so messed up, I have no words.

Why didn't you apply for the Advance Parole?

I got my Advance Parole together with the EAD (it's actually on the same card), and I travel outside the U.S. all the time while waiting for my greencard.

Hi everyone.

Just wanted to ask if anyone else has experienced the same problem here recently.

I filed for AOS, EAD, AP (all together in 1 package) in the beginning of January, received all 3 NOA1 on January 7-th. Ever since never heard from USCIS.

By other VJ members timelines I see that people who filed after me already have had their biometrics done.

I called USCIS today (customer service 1-800-***), they told me to wait for another 2 weeks before calling them again and reporting a missing appointment notice. At the same time they said they don't know if my appointment had been scheduled at all.

I need to get my AP and EAD badly.

Thanks in advance for your comments.

And one more thing, you got your NOA2 months ago, please update your timeline. It helps the stats on the website to be more accurate.

That is a clear case of visa fraud and your fiance can be banned for life from the US. Something to think about.

I suggest getting both visas, student and k-1, then your fiance can fly home for the interview and then return here and not worry, but don't get married before the k-1 is approved.

Or get married there and do student visa and cr-1 visa?

If K1 has been filed, he won't be able to get F1 now. He can get into a big trouble even trying to do that. So that's a pretty bad advise.

We have the NOA1 and if we apply for a F1 to get both visas will that be a problem

There are literally zero chances you will get F1 now that K1 is filed and they KNOW of your fiance's intentions to move to the US.

Just finish the K1 process.

Well...what if he is a criminal? Maybe the op is actually being kind in her description of him? We don't really know. Maybe he has been violently abusing her?

None of her words applied to anyone except her husband.

I am sure she her life right now is not exactly wonderful.

My advice is divorce and do what it takes to protect yourself.

If he's a criminal or an abusive husband she should just call the police and let them deal with him. Simultaneously she can start the divorce process. Problem is solved.

But it looks like the OP is emotionally hurt and mad at him and that's her way to pay him back. So she's looking for a way to deport him without any legal reasons.

Sad reality, but some people start marriages with american citizens just to obtain Green Cards. If that's the case, and the OP only discovered that fact after the wedding, I totally understand her. I would probably do the same thing to him.

You also came from a different country where we see problems with Russia ect which causes additional attention resulting in the interrogation.

True. My case was pretty odd, even my US attorney was a bit shocked. It also really depends on the POE

My personal experience is the proof. I was taken to the interview room once and was interrogated for 5 hours and guess what - somehow they DID know everything I had said to passport control guys at my previous visits. What a twist, ha!

So my advise to all of you - do not underestimate Border Security. Btw, Delta does also run quick interviews with every foreign passenger before letting them on a flight to the United States, so the records can be taken even there, who knows.

And one more thing, I have no intentions to scary anyone. It's a public forum and I share my POW and experience here to help other members. If you find my comments irrelevant to the topic - let it be.

and why should we trust you, do you have proof? Why scare someone unnecessarily?

My personal experience is the proof. I was taken to the interview room once and was interrogated for 5 hours and guess what - somehow they DID know everything I had said to passport control guys at my previous visits. What a twist, ha!

So my advise to all of you - do not underestimate Border Security. Btw, Delta does also run quick interviews with every foreign passenger before letting them on a flight to the United States, so the records can be taken even there, who knows.

I am honestly so sorry for what I did. If I say we met online on a forum, will they think that's strange? What may they ask me?

Do they keep exact records of what I have said previously? I'm so scared of being detained. I am going out for Christmas and would hate to be sent back home.

They do keep records of your every word, trust me on this. Do not ever try to lie them, specially if you are not good at it

More over, you can find your I-94 form online if you have the passport number he was entering the US with back then. I'm not sure they ran electronic records 9 years ago though

https://i94.cbp.dhs.gov/I94/request.html;jsessionid=dWc0JfLfcJQfYhpqX6dPBhxXyXQ9Xtbz6HNWkqrrvVXLvQWHwVx2!2005623825

Thank you everyone for your responses. I want to say though, regardless of where anyone lives in Ukraine it is very scary for everyone there. Ukraine is like the size of Texas and Louisiana. At anytime, Russia could

EASILY swallow up the country, nonetheless invade Kyiv. I'm very worried because Putin is a ticKing time bomb. Things could escalate in days not months. "If" Kyiv were to be invaded the airports and the US embassy will more than likely be on high alert or for that matter closed or worse, destroyed. That is my fear. When you're dealing with someone like Putin I believe anyone who has a loved one in Ukraine should be concerned. And may I say this is my own speculation. But as history shows we have every right to be concerned.

Brainwash as it is. I suggest you to watch less of american propaganda.