TanguyAndJuliet

When my fiance and I filed in July, I started becoming obsessive over timelines, current events, other posts, the huge discrepancy at the time between CSC and TSC.. We started getting into small arguments about how I was negative. He - the same as your fiance - is more patient than I am and is more optimistic. I worry about things a lot and that can get on his nerves when it becomes constant.. which I completely understand.
Take a step back for a minute though and realize that it's silly to fight when you're FINALLY doing something about the distance! My fiance and I made an agreement to only check our USCIS case status on Saturdays when we spend the weekend on Skype together. Other than if we receive a text message, of course. I come on after work to catch up on the latest news and check my followed threads. I check our timeline adjudication date each day, but ultimately I think I've calmed down. It's taken me about two months to get there though. We're almost 'halfway' to a NOA2 according to the projected USCIS guideline of 5 months.. we can only hope that transfers from TSC to CSC helped us summer filers.
Busy yourself with a new hobby, preparing your documents for the next steps to come so you can react fast once you get that NVC case number, clean the house, get rid of things you don't need, etc..
Keep your head up and remember that if nothing else, you're one step closer to being together than you would have been had you never filed. At least the process has begun.
Good luck!

I really hate to be the mean one here but that is truly not my intention so i hope it wont come across like that. People on this site would go through hell and back a million times to be with each other and some do. I don't think any of them are concerned with small stuff like not being independent and not living in a small or big city and so on. Everyone on this site gives up their entire life, family and friend, pack their belongings into two suite cases and move to be with their love for ever so since you do not have these fillings that is something serious to think about.
I do wish you all the best and the strength to figure it all out.

But you would "suck on a cow udder?"
I would clean the house all day every day, because I am so grateful to be with my husband. All these excuses are things in the back of your mind that are trying to tell you something.

Different areas of the country? Have different costs of living. And the government considers it possible to live on approximately $19,600 - something tells me they're the experts on this one. Is that going to be comfortable? Probably not for most people. Is it possible? Yes. Ask just about any grad student couple ever.
For the record, food costs are apparenlty 20% higher in Philadelphia than the Houston-area. And yet we spend half of what you do on groceries. We also pay less for rent, electricity, don't have to pay heating because it's included in our lower rent, and we don't have car-associated costs. So as a matter of fact, I am perfectly comfortable saying a married couple can live on less than $30,000 a year.
As a matter of fact, if you make over $30,000? You earn more than 53% of Americans.
Forty-five percent of American households earn less than $30,000 combined. (That's approximately 70 million people, FWIW.)
Forty percent of all workers in 2012 earned less than $20,000. Half of all people working earned less than $27,000.
I suspect you will find many people are capable of being married and earning less than $30,000/year.