VSRoberts

What about paying a college/university student to help learn conversational english? I did that for a bit when I was in college, I was paid with free lunch and at times dinner lol.

I'm sorry that you're both going through this. It sounds like he is at a point where he is resistant to listening to suggestions on how to repair the relationship, we obviously don't know any of your past disagreements, there may have been things that were bothering him that he suppressed and chose this particular situation as his only outlet. Based on my experience, not everyone is good at articulating their emotions and prioritizing their explanations in a rational way, rightly or wrongly, he felt hurt, so he chose the easiest way to express it and possibly thinking (or simply reacting) to hurt you so you will know what it feels like. For example, here's a scenario, his sister has been making unpleasant remarks about you, he did not want to pass along her comments and simply defended you, on one hand, he is feeling negative about all these comments, on the other, you did not show your appreciation for his protectiveness (because he never told you), now with this situation, he suddenly feels that all he has done has been for nothing and lashed out.
Perhaps what you can do right now is allow him a little time to cool off (I don't mean not speaking to each other, but rather, not focus on this issue and bring it out all the time) and think about what he has said and what he would like to do, and then find an opportunity to have an open conversation, rather than put counseling as the first option, which he seems not to be open to, let the conversation continue and ask him what he thinks would bring you back to where you both want to be in the relationship. Try not to jump to solutions, but rather figure out why he is saying what he is saying and whether you fundamentally agree with his point of view. If you don't, then ask him about how he thinks such actions/words would make you feel, if he still cares deeply for you, hopefully, he will start to see things from your point of view as well.
The sister-in-law appears to be a significant influence in his life, so I think it's important that when you have your conversations, try not to bring her into it, it is a discussion about your husband's and your feelings and opinions, not what she has told him.
One last thought, I have friends who are very considerate, and they will go out of their way to make sure they do not inconvenience anyone, however, for people who doesn't understand their motives, this type of action may be interpreted as being bossy, contrary, not listening, etc. my point is, it's important not the assume that your communication is received and understood in the exact way you intended, it's better to spell it out and make sure.
Best of luck

tip would be to relax, take a deep breath and practice answering sample questions.. Consuls were really nice, there's nothing really to be worried about.
review the documents you have submitted as they just ask questions that's on the paperwork you guys submitted.
goodluck!
oh and please remind her to not forget the DS260 confirmation page and 2x2 picture.. (the picture wasn't asked but the ushers would mention to prepare some 2x2 pictures for some reason) this is so she wouldnt be talked into paying a crazy amount of money outside the embassy (she will be in line before the embassy opens) the ones I was with in line forgot their confirmation page and were talked into paying php 400 for just one piece of paper.. and for the picture, one lady was charged around php3000 for pictures and a piece of that confirmation page...

Once you receive your appointment from NVC you can schedule a appointment in ustraveldocs if you want a earlier one. NVC gave me June 23rd and I went ahead and scheduled for June 4th. This was done by another member without any problems. Just make sure your file is there before your appointment if you do make a earlier appointment.

My husband didn't get his irs transcript online and so he got me his 1040/1099 form.. The embassy accepted that one from me when I was interviewed last week.