waka1

That was meant for one of the forum mods.....🧐

Case dismissed, 20 months and 100K...but happy and free

I get the drift ....Thanks

I have been unable to talk about this for nearly 2 years. I'll try be brief and concise, my GC wife launched an all out assault on me after I told her I was finished putting up with her craziness. I had already filed for her Perm Res Card but not yet received it yet. She was never home, insisted she work 2 full time jobs....I came in last in her priorities list. I'm no patsy,  by May of 2017 I was so sick of her BS, I contacted a lawyer and planned to move out of MY house to get away from her instability and threats. I had one rucksack left to toss in the truck cab when I heard her car come roaring down the driveway blocking me from leaving.  She physically prevented me from leaving by grabbing my belt with both hands, I'm smart enough to know not to even bother to physically try to remove her hands as it may cause a red mark, no matter how gentle one is. Scammers are clever and she was tops. She wailed and pleaded and like a dope I relented, hoping things would change.....That dumb mistake cost me a lot...I lost my freedom for 20 months and spent time  prison.

I've found people who habitually lie ofter forget the thread of the lie and the story changes. She went into Probate court and was caught lying about her finances to the tune of 20K. The judge saw right through her and allowed a 25 question 'discovery' motion. In it I found she ripped me off for 3K in Malaysia by concocting a phony story about a lawyer allegedly refused to return her passport. At the time she was in Malaysia on a 12 overstay visitors visa. I found the 'lost' passport with the entry and exit dates...so the passport was not a duplicate.

All I'll say about the criminal charges is that she had good coaching but made a dumb mistake which the police of course missed. She photoshopped an image a that showed 'my abuse' and shown it to the police. The mistake she made was I am familiar with PS and knew 100% it was fake. I had it forensically analyzed and of course it was a fake. 

She got caught in criminal court lying and recanted the abuse. But due to the laws in my state the case was still on. I was loaded for bear on the trial date but before the trial could start she wisely invoked the 5th amendment in order not to incriminate herself. My sister overheard the DA's talking about their "Dispositive" single witness. The Chief Justice of the court smile call her in to tell the court she was taking the 5th and then ordered her out. All charges were dismissed...in total 100K spent defending an unsupported accusation.

I don't have time for hate, so I've put it behind me, but many times I have been asked, if you do nothing someone else won't she rip someone else ? ....of course, yes. Useless suing her but the one thing she would hate the most id to get deported back to where she came from.

A some time ago a moderator on this forum mentioned as informative link to reporting a fraudulent marriages and criminal acts to the USCIS ?

Thanks

      Well in every cloud there's a silver lining. All the trials in the past 2 years has only made me stronger better person. Every step of judicial the way she's got caught lying and has lost face. In the end, losing money is a lot less painful than losing your soul. 

Need info for ongoing C case. My ex liberated a large sum of money from our joint accounts and transferred it to the Philippines. I know the name and address of  previous owner in California, as I paid her a years rental in advance. My ex very much wanted to buy that house and I suspect she pulled something off.

She a pro...lol,  I'll give her that

Thanks,

              Waka1

Most likely you pay all the bills and the money she earns is hers. Whether that's the case or not, you are not happy. Read the original post. It is yours.

In that post you say " I realize my to options are next to zero... ".

That is incorrect. You have two basic options.

#1 continue to be dominated and abused for the rest of your life.

#2 get divorced. On the bright side, she can obviously support herself so there is no need for alimony and no kids together means to

​child support. Of course there would most likely be negative financial repercussions of which you are fully aware.

all experience hath shewn that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government,

WE JUST DID....lol

Priority wise I believe it's 50/50, not sure what her guesstimate is. The family is grown and out of the house, fairly well off by Philippine standards.

Any marriage is hard work, some just harder than others.

It's been two years since my K-1 fiancee touched down on US soil. The first year we were truly happy, I felt very fortunate, our dream come true. The second year like flip of a switch her personality changed and my life became unbearable. I'm not assigning blame, we're all human. But I'm at the end of my rope.

My problems coincided with her working. I'm retired, own my own house, not rich, but comfortable. She's in her mid-40's and well educated. The first year we both agreed on her working a 32 hours a week job, as well as sending $200 a month home to the family. Well 32 hrs soon became 40, then 40 became 48, and now it's 56 hrs. The $200 a week Phils check became $400, the $400 became close to $500. She works a the second shift of a three shift job, so I'm finding myself alone all the time no lunch together, no dinner together, no evening together...nada I asked her to get a 9-5 job, so we could have a life, nothing doing.

Behavior: She expects me to to follow her Spanish/Cebuano culture, but she is stone deaf when it comes to mine. Example: No matter who's fault it is, I'm expected to play 'kissy-kissy' and offer an apology to her until she forgives me. Her mother is very proud of her Spanish blood, but a hard and feared woman. I very much like her family and they like me. For many years my wife told me after the fact, that she has been the family 'enforcer' and brags about reducing her siblings to tears. Her anger is explosive and freaks me out, she admits she has no control over it. Her passive/ aggressive behavior is like an ice-pick, daily chipping at my self esteem. When I bring up my feelings, 'hon please don't say that it hurts me', she flies into a argumentative rage. I may sound like sniveling doormat, but I assure you i'm not my only fear is being backed into a corner and losing control. I've never done that to a woman and never will.

The other day in angry mood she brought up my relationship with my grown daughters that she knows little about, and threw it in my viciously threw it in my face. That pushed me over the edge, I ripped my wedding off and threw it at the wall... I told her she crossed a line that I would never never dream of crossing with her family....I'm done but I still care about her...but since she refuses to discuss anything remotely importantly important, I realize my to options are next to zero...

Sorry to burden you happy VJ'er's with my difficulties, but I thought maybe someone might gain some insight.

Thanks All...

My deepest sympathy to the peace loving people of Pakistan, both Christian' and Muslim.... Fortitude

Hank what's with the cryptic smiley

"East is East and West is West, never the twain shall meet"....I'm not sure who the author of quote that was, but I can tell you the dumb kano wasn't listening to what his filipina had been hinting at all along...

Like Cervantes's pudding head hero Don Quixote, this kano thought charging at windmills would win his fair Lady heart...

The solution simple, but to the unenlightened, counter-intuitive... "Honey, this is the Asian way"...listen and believe it

I can't wait to be 'scolded' some more'...

It's my understanding that it can also cause a chain effect of the petitioner thinking that the world is owed to them.

Judge Judy ?

No story, it's not bedtime...

Warning: the receipt of a Green Card could could cause personality changes, it's not in your head stupid

Just saying...

Hey Rob,

Filed AOS last Oct????!!! Sounds like your file got lost and is now found, sadly the medical expired this past summer. You know the rule with this visa process... he who has the gold makes the rules. And in this case the gold is the GC.

Find a civil surgeon and get a new medical is my suggestion. Just like when dealing with USEM.. give them what they ask for.

Well a $185 trip to the civil surgeon and 2 passport sized photo's did the trick. A five week turnaround and K-1 PR status approved. Thanks to all on VJ for the support ! Don't have to think about visa's for another 21 months

Cheers and fortitude,

Rob and Sue

Hey Rob,

Filed AOS last Oct????!!! Sounds like your file got lost and is now found, sadly the medical expired this past summer. You know the rule with this visa process... he who has the gold makes the rules. And in this case the gold is the GC.

Find a civil surgeon and get a new medical is my suggestion. Just like when dealing with USEM.. give them what they ask for.

lol...just like the lost sheep. Well back to the mine the to mint some AU...

Thanks

I'm really not understanding what the USCIS wants. My wife handed over all her medical documentation done at a US hospital, St Lukes, in Manila, two days of exams and tests. At POE 9/14 she handed over her sealed envelope that includes all her medical information, has it disappeared ? She has medical insurance through my work since 10/14. Is a visit to a civil surgeon going to be another 2 day $$$ affair ? We live in the Boston area anyone care to point me to a trustworthy civil surgeon...?

Thanks

"The results of your medical exam have not been submitted or have exceeded the one year validity period and are (sic) now expired....you must submit the results of a new medical exam....civil surgeon complete Form 693...." blah blah

I'm not believing this.... we submitted all out paperwork last October '14'. We have everything but our PGC

Anyone one receive a letter like this ?

Just received a letter of PIW 4 days after it it was received. The waiver letter stated that they were backlogged and we should expect a 6 month delay due to case backlog; 'don't bother to call us for the next 180 days'. So it looks like September 2015, very smooth sailing after Sept 2014 POE.

Rob & Sue

Great, thanks for the reply

Rob

Anyone reading this, please understand I'm in a state of shock (and Peace ): so I hope I'm coming thru clear. If you can decipher my time line we're between EAD/AP approval and green card. I checked online with State and they received our paper work 2/27/15.

It appears I have been diagnosed with an 'agent orange' related cancer; in two weeks I meet with my oncology team in Boston. I've heard about 'emergency expediting' Green Card petitions, but I'm in a fog as to how I should proceed...?

The second issue is getting my wife a drivers license, She filed and was issued a SS card in her maiden name. We went to the DMV with all our documentation to get her a driving learners permit and was told all the documentation was in order except her SS card. She was told to go to the SS and apply for a card in her married name. She applied 2/14 and was told call back in a few days, then 'keep checking'...nothing yet. Getting her drivers license is critical, as I might be spending a lot of time at the hospital and she would be home alone without a means of transportation. Sorry for combining questions but the clock is ticking...

Thanks,

Rob

August 29th, I paid for my fiancé's Manila to Boston flight through a local travel agent in the US. My fiancé simply printed out her ticket went to the airport in MNL paid her exit fee's with no problem...

She did tell me that the CFO office in the terminal was closed that evening she flew, fortunately we anticipated this might happen, so I had her fly to Cebu to pick-up her CFO exit stamp the week before. Since she did her CFO before her USEM interview, she had the option to get her CFO stamp at the airport....very lucky to dodge that bullet

Prison/gang culture= domination, control, violence

From Wikipedia...

In 2008, FBI gang investigator Jennifer Simon stated that 1-2% of the U.S. military belongs to gangs, which is 50-100 times the rate in the general population.^[1] According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation's 2011 National Gang Threat Assessment, the NGIC has identified members of more than 53 gangs who have served in the United States military, including Bloods, Crips, Latin Kings,MS-13, Sureños, the Aryan Brotherhood, Barrio Azteca, Bandidos, Hells Angels, and Gangster Disciples.^[2]

U.S. gangs have sometimes encouraged their members to join the military in order to learn urban warfare techniques, which they could then teach other gang members when they returned from service.^{[citation needed]}

I read your story to my husband and we were laughing about it for a good 20 minutes. Thanks!

- atta girl. how long did it take her to check your phone?

She doesn't peek and tell...

Besides all evidence, that I might of had a few women in my past life, were 'deep sixed'. I'm sure there's something I missed...Well I expect I'll be reminded of any transgressions in due time...