Daniel n Somphos

Thank you! Yes it sure does! Though we aren't done yet!

I know these two that just got engaged. there is almost 20 years age difference... the man has 3 kids and oldest is 18. The woman he engaged to is only 22. How likely are they to get approved?

Hello VJ'ers, just wanted to give a big thanks to this website and a few members that helped me along the way in this somewhat frustrating process. We all came a long way and fought hard to have the life we deserve together with our loved ones. My gratitude for you all and the existence of this website can only be expressed through this post.

For those of you that have yet to have an interview or to those of you that had not been approved. Please keep your head up and fear nothing. You will make it sooner or later because love does not tire and does not give up. Love those dear to you and support them the best you can no matter the difficulties that may arise, work through it all together and remember to be supportive of each other. Believe me I know how tough it can be. Stress levels can and have skyrocketed for the bigger half of you but all in good time will that weight be lifted from your shoulders and nothing feels better than to hear the words from a consular saying they will be approving of the visa. It feels as if the whole worlds weight was lifted from your shoulders. That and then look on your loves face alone are all worth the efforts.

There is always hope and success for those that love fully and don't give up due to circumstance. Your love will shine through like a blinding light to these consular officers one day and you will have your dreams and wishes to be together recognized.

God Bless you ALL!

Thank you world for the happiest feeling in my life.

It's a bit unfair. I'm in a similar boat, about to have our second interview. I will have made 5 trips total, each staying 2 weeks because that's the max my employer will allow me to take of in and length of time. I'm important to the company in a few ways, though i dont get paid like I am... The thing about our "meeting" was that a cousin introduced us as mentor and pupil in late 2010 because she needed help with her english at her university. We grew to like each other a lot, then I BROKE THE NEWS TO HER AUNT AND UNCLE THAT WE WERE IN LOVE AND WANTED TO GET MARRIED, they had no idea we were even introduced by their daughter... I was also surprised that they didnt know or that their daughter that introduced ut never gave them any information about us knowing one another, I love her family as if it was my own, we take really good care of each other and have spent the majority of our time alone together these past 2 trips, the first two were engagement and spend time with her family + interview on second trip, 3rd and 4th trip was just to spend time with her because we really needed the face to face and an actual vacation together, and Honestly... if It wasnt for her on Christmas eve night... I would have died from alcohol poisoning or something else... one of my drinks tasted funny and i dont think i have ever ever ever felt so horrible in my life, she stayed by my side for 6 hours with a waterbottle and helping me purge whatever had made me so sick out from my system... then on the 26th the day before i left i was so sick i couldnt eat anything, even the smell of food was sickening... had travellers "you know what" but thanks to the azithromycin and "bangalah" local medicine where I knew what it was, had it done here before in the states when i was really sick and it helped... so i went to the store and bought some "monkey medicine" (bangalah) but i didnt have a good coin to use... so she used the edge of the container... wasnt as painful as the coining... but it still made me wiggle like a work in somewhat tickles and pain ... i just cant stop laughing when she did that for me because its like one of those pains that just.... i dont know.... sort of tickles your funny bone until it feels like razors are cutting you, but in the end it feels great, like a super icy-hot on steroids. Next day i could eat... i could drink water... i was better for my flight back on the 27th at 11am... so i was fine the entire trip up until I was at Koh Rong... on new years eve... we spend Christmas day travelling back to Phnom Penh eating snacks to keep something from making us too hungry. I have so much evidence, but even before i had a lot and that did not help. I have many Hotel/guesthouse receipts, i just wish they listed "how many people" stayed in the room. 1 does but the rest dont... and i had to remind them of our check in dates because they "forgot" when I took her whole family to Siem Reap for our "2nd anniversary" from when we got engaged in 2013. We revisited everywhere we went then and more... i took my fiancee and I to a massage place for us to have a romantic night and relax together, little did I know it really hurt her to see another woman massage me while she was there in the same room getting the same massage.... now it's "You can have massage from man" from now on.... lol. I apologized and promised no more massages, the funny thing is... i never had a professional passage in my life, ever. So i thought it would be a good idea to have the experience with my fiancee, because she too, never had the experience. She is a real angel. Che might even be pregnant thats why I am very concerned... I dont want the birth to be without me, I really pray to God we don't get denied again. We weren't hoping for a baby just yet either, it sort of ... just happened. I'm really worried now because of your case being so similar to mine. My heart would truly break if she were denied a life without me and for her to be pregnant there without me, etc. We chose to be together WAY before her aunt and uncle ever knew and helped me relay the proposal to her mother that only knew one word in english, "no". I broke the news to my fiancee's aunt and uncle and other cousin and her husband which is a close friend of mine, that literally had no idea. the thing is ... they will most likely be suspicious because her cousin introduced us, and her aunt and uncle helped me with bringing the proposal to the table to my soon to be mother and father in law. her parents knew we were talking and all but never knew what we wanted with each other until I like the man does in the relationship... broke the ice with the parents in Cambodia and the aunt/uncle stateside.

Her father was sort of "not all for it" until he met me... and made me drink with him to see how I was, then he was all smiles every time we ever met... he treats me like his son and her mother truly is the most hospitable person I have ever met. Though the decision for the engagement was left up to her mother, she took some time to talk to Somphos to see if this was what she really wanted (this took a while as we were over speakerphone, when I heard her talking my heart was racing and then i herd her say "ja... ja!" my happiness level spiked, then her mom got back on the phone and accepted the proposal after her daughter also said that this was what we were sure that we wanted. there was even a formal visit to my mother, to see if this was ok with my mother because their family also wanted to make sure my mother was ok with me flying there for the purpose of solidifying (basically making it known to both sides of our families) our relationship and taking the next big step to get engaged, we had tons of face-to-face over skype plenty of times to where we didnt care whether we met first or not before the engagement... though her family did give us a second chance to reaffirm our choice by having us meet before the engagement to sit and talk by ourselves, it was perfect... we were nothing but smiles and even though there WAS a slight language barrier, we knew what our hearts were saying to each other. we looked to our pastor (from my city here in the USA) and everyone that traveled to Cambodia for this engagement and some mission work for the church. and gladly said yes we would love to go forward with this. They really wanted to see how we interacted with each other and I'm sure they really wanted to make sure we got along because they never observed us talking together before... we got engaged, it was my first visit but this was my and my fiancee's decision... we want to be together and share our lives, simple as that. We are loyal to an extreme, speak every day for hours...EVERY DAY. before i go to work and after i get off, its perfect timing. before i had this job, i would stay up entire nights and lose sleep just to talk to her. so you can imagine and I can imagine how heartbreaking these situations are when we're denied the opportunity to even TRY on a k-1 visa which is what it was meant for in the first place... we have a chance... if we dont get along and get married within the 90 day limit... then she goes back. But i really doubt this because we are GREAT together even in tough times. We always try to make up to each other whenever there is a misunderstanding. This is really tough, even if i knew how tough it was in the beginning, i would still go through all this trouble just to be together... i mean... whats love, if you give up on it because our Govt. had some bad cases and has caused immigration to tighten up? The thing is, I wont ever give up on her... no matter how much it takes... she is the woman I love. Above all, she is the person that chose to spend her life with me as well. Though she has a hard time reading some english, I have gotten her to the point that she can communicate pretty well in Spoken english. Some words she is unfamiliar with but thats fine, all in god time she can learn everything from an actual school here, which was my plan... to put her back in school once she is here, help her get a job, etc. I support her 110% only because I love her that much. I have big plans for her... she is a country girl. doesn't really know what she wants to do here, because she simply hasn't had the funds to do much. but when she gets here,... oh man will she have a blast... will ride her first rollercoaster... eat her first slice of a real California style pizza.... many firsts will be shared together. because thats what i want to do, share my life and experiences with her. as she also wants the same. anyways I really am crossing my fingers.... toes.... and everything I can and praying every day for a blessing to be together. I really hope we have some luck this time around.

I've gotten multiples of the same letters from the same govt. body .... just different post codes that sent them and diferent post dates, i suppose they were making sure i was getting the letters... lol

"If you already have a date that you can't attend, I would certainly consider emailing the embassy to get a new date that works for you. If you can't attend the interview, make sure your fiance has LOTS of proof of your on-going relationship, much more than you submitted with your application."

Best of luck to you both.

What if i submitted everything front-loaded, 5.7lbs worth of the Engagement ceremony with legal docs, 3 trips worth of evidence +4th planned anniversary trip, and 5 years of chat logs, wall posts...(i know these dont matter much)? how can i submit more than 2 years of physical evidence when the time between now and the interview could be less than 4 months from now?

Multiple reasons, being that we were introduced 3 years prior as pen pals by a family member, I was unemployed for most of that time, but we wished to be together by the year 2012 coming to a close because our feelings peaked and we could only talk about 1 thing, which was to see each other. so # 1 was that we got engaged as soon as i had $ to do so... (first visit, even if its what we had wanted for a whole year after building a relationship for 3 years...) I asked her family to help me, so did my mom make a special request due to her illness not being able to attend with us. So #2 was her USA family being involved even though they have known me since I was 9 years old which can be proven easily as I have pics with them as a child. So it's only assumptions based on "suspicion due to the rare circumstances." They also made a flat out lie saying we were both interviewed and my answers didn't match hers that being #3... when they didnt ask me anything, just told me to sit while they interviewed her. said we didnt "demonstrate" that we could speak "in a common language" another dumb reason when they never asked us to stand together or asked us to answer any questions together. we have a full years worth of chat logs showing we communicate.... it was just a whole mess so #4 was also this whole assumed GAP in language barrier when she is pretty good at communicating to me, especially whens he is an angry tiger....... lol. Tey like to say "among other factors" but never tell you what those "factors" are because they are most likely not even a "fact" :/ just baseless assumptions. We were done dirty, like a lot of legitimate couples

Hello all VJ'ers I'm going to Refile for my fiancee and I was hoping to get some input here as i am reapplying for my fiancee after we were denied, I'm sure I have what I need in order to address the issues.

Now, should I include peperwork from the first petiton like Petition and money order receipt, NOA1, NOA2, embassy receipt, appointment letters, copy of first ds-160 confirmation page, even the Embassy # slip when they call your # to the window. Also the denial slip. should I include all of this?

I was looking up how to withdraw it. But could not find much information on withdrawing after a denial. My boss isnt the nicest person. I had to try hard to get him to write the letter stating my annual pay. And right now he is closing "the books" and he is not is such a good mood. If i ask for a raise he may fire me. Where i am from it is very hard amd competitive to find a great job that pays well. So i might have to try working for tesla.... i have contacted the senators and congress. Also for how we were treated as we approached the window... he was not nice the minute we stood there. But after the denial they did say we can refile... i did not understand this. I am so confused because he denied us in such a bad way... its impossible to fight. But told us to reapply anyways? I think we got a bad CO. so i filed a complaint with the bureau of consular affairs

I was looking up how to withdraw it. But could not find much information on withdrawing after a denial. My boss isnt the nicest person. I had to try hard to get him to write the letter stating my annual pay. And right now he is closing "the books" and he is not is such a good mood. If i ask for a raise he may fire me. Where i am from it is very hard amd competitive to find a great job that pays well. So i might have to try working for tesla.... i have contacted the senators and congress. Also for how we were treated as we approached the window... he was not nice the minute we stood there. But after the denial they did say we can refile... i did not understand this. I am so confused because he denied us in such a bad way... its impossible to fight. But told us to reapply anyways? I think we got a bad CO. so i filed a complaint with the bureau of consular affairs

Sorry about that, I am just lost in this struggle... I really don't know how to obtain the actual reason for her denial while i was also there in person... why the denial form was handed directly to me, with a spoken false accusal. I'm really worried about all of this. as finding a "better" job is almost impossible at this time. Unless i get a raise within the next year, ... once i get a raise, hopefully it's enough to get married but until then the k1 denial needs to be addressed before we ever refile for anything. and finding out the consulars exact notes and reasons why he thought we werent genuine are proving to be extremely hard to get from any agency. has anyone had success with this?

Bump^ I'd like more information. As I am Back almost one month after attending my fiancee's interview and also being called a sham and actually stating that its being returned on grounds of fraud or misrep. without ANY explanation whatsoever. How soon after the denial at the embassy should I fight this.? and what are my chances of bringing my fiancee home to marry, if at all possible? We're completely devastated and most of the questions revolved around her U.S. Citizen family of which lives in the same city as i was born. if it wasn't for them we would have not fallen in love, they stood in at the engagement in Battambang for my deceased and ill mother after getting permission in person. They were only around to support in the cultural differences and to help me with native alphabet issues. I'm floored as to what to do next and not knowing what the actual reason for denial is really hurting me as i know time is of the essence.... can i expect to NEVER be able to bring and marry my fiancee in the United States?

No wonder when i attended my fiancee's interview we were flat out denied and were told they didnt believe our relationship was genuine... because of these silly engagement application and agreement forms... WTH?!?!?!?! this is so wrong... we thought we were doing everything the right and legal way. this is just bs....I WAS THERE for our interview and our petition and application for rthe interview were perfect all except those silly papers and the translations i payed for... WOW

It doesn't have anything "cited" other than that the files are confidential and that they wont give me any information.

221(g) Under INA 222(f)

Bureau of citizenship and immigration services (CIS) of the Department of Homeland Security (DHS)

I cannot marry her in Cambodia because i dont make the 2500 dollar a month requirement. k1 is all i can apply for i would have to wait till i get a raise or better job. We did get engaged the first time i visited... that was the plan we wanted because of my work situation would only allow me that little bit of time off and i only started the job mid 2013. But we known each other since 2010. But never met. Just video chat as her mentor then. It was a tough time never being able to meet. Onceni had the money to fly.. i said why not get engage. So i ask her family to stand in for my sick mother because she couldnt fly. My fiancee and i agreed to engage long ago. But i needed to wait for my job first. So i can pay all the fees and for he engagement ceremony. Plus already bough the wedding rings with engraved names. Why would they turn down all that? Someone that put all he can into making us be together finally.

Hello, I just attended my fiancee's interview on the 24th of November and just recently arrived back from Cambodia the 29th.

I attended the interview with my Fiancee but they did not let em stand with her for her interview. She doesn't speak english

very well but can type it well enough for us to communicate and if things werent easy to understand we would use an app for

translation on our phones, We have been in contact since 2010 but don't have the skype logs to prove it and never knew in those

previous years we would need them. But we do have about 2 years chat logs from fb, the photo's from our legal engagement

and tour together (wish of mine) I had known her aunt and uncle in the USA since I was 9 years old and I've always kept in touch

with their kids because they were my mentors in Elementary for 3 years until i moved on to middle school, we still kept in contact to

this day and have been great friends over the years. One of her cousins introduced me as her mentor for school online through skype

This is where I started to fall head over heels for her. I told her secretly that if I had any chance to marry her that I would because

the way we communicated so easily even with a language barrier made me blush and well... no woman has ever made me feel this way.

in early 2013 we both fell completely for each other, I told her aunt and uncle over dinner one night that I'd like to marry their niece and

of course surprised and confused, they asked me which one? When they said her name i said YES HER! and I was in need of their help

because my mother is ill and cannot travel with me to Cambodia for the engagement ceremony. So i asked permission from my mother,

she gave me permission after i had told her this was surely what I had wanted with my fiancee's aunt and uncle present. Also for them

to stand in as my parents because my father is deceased and my mom is too sick to travel. Everything went uneventful(no complications at all)

petition was accepted, visa interview scheduled, i flew over to attend... and were flat out called a fraud. I have read this cannot be overcome

and I really don't know what to do to prove our relationship is true. I was told they believe i was marrying her only for her to live in the USA to

live with her family here which is absolutely false. If it didn't work out in marriage for some reason, she would go back to her home country.

but, we weren't even given the chance to find out why they thought this or this "evidence" they were speaking of that pointed to their conclusion

The lack of transparency of exactly why they thought this, is very frustrating and seeing as no matter what we do we can keep getting denied.

Has anyone else had this experience? and was it solved? what should I do? I'm at a loss and feel as if i may never be able to marry my fiancee here

and live together building a family and just living happily for which we have planned. I'm truly at a loss and I don't know what to do. any advice?

Good luck!!!!!! I was hoping you can help me with the steps on how to make paymen for the interview. Also... fee increased because she wanted to wait last minute............ its very frustrating when she doesnt listen that things need to be prepared prior... ugh *facepalm*

my fiance's interview is in one month and I am wondering how I pay the interview fee . I cannot seem to find any information or instructions step by step on how to do the process of paying the fee at the bank. How do i make a profile and get to the k1 visa fee form? It doesnt give me k1 option

I'm hoping to do the same. If she gets her Visa the following friday after the interview then i will buy a ticket that day for her... doesnt matter the cost. if she has to wait a week, that's fine, but it will suck i cant fly with her. it's ok but would make me a bit sad i didnt get to hold her hand on the plane since its also her first experience on one and might be a little scary. whatever happens im sure we will work it all out.

did you send packet-3 from the states? Would I have to do my fiancee's ds-160? or would she have to do it? Her english isn't that great... but i love her no less