Honugirl

Definitely file concurrently (at the same time, in the same package). The guide just mentioned should help step you through it. Before you jump in filling out forms, go through the checklist and see what documents you need to send for. Some people don't have a birth certificate handy, for example...
Good luck!

There is an element of injustice in the grand scheme of things, but AOS makes perfect sense to me.
When you marry or commit to a person, that means you want to be with that person. Isn't that the point of being in a relationship?
You're together - that should be allowed (and it is in most cases)
I don't understand what it means to be on the other side of the world and to say to the USCIS "Let me in your country so I can be with my spouse or fiance"
That doesn't make any sense to me.
Why aren't you already with your spouse? Because something in the small print said "go home after 90 days"?
Or because somebody in a forum told you it was too risky to stay and marry?
If you fall in love and decide to marry and want to stay with that person -- that is actually allowed.That is how relationships are supposed to work. Thankfully the US immigration system still caters for this wonderful phenomena that humans call..."being with your loved one"
But yea, get married, OP, and file everything that needs to be filed.

Pipe dreams....hmm .I'm never going to understand why people are so judgmental sometimes. Specially if you don't even know the people you are judging.
If we would be spontaneous we would got married last summer...

Hi DoriM
Here is the guide that you should follow to adjust your status: http://www.visajourney.com/content/i130guide2
About traveling domestically, in the past they didn't look at whether you overstay or not. However, when my husband was visiting me last time, we took a flight from Phoenix to NY. When we were going through airport security, they asked us for our boarding passes and ID. My husband showed his passport. The agent flipped to his visa and was staring at it for a long time. My husband wasn't out of status but it goes to show that they will look at your visa. So, for now, stay in California, get married, and adjust your status. Once you have your green card (it will probably take 3 or 4 months), then you will be free to go wherever you'd like worry free.
Hope that helps! Good luck!

I am sorry to hear your situation.I know that feeling.
Love is blind,and could drive us crazy.
I really want you to make it with him and get happy.
That's why I want you to do the right thing.
Unfortunatelly, VWP overstay after 90 days is considered as "illegal immigrant".
Everybody advised you to get married immediately,but VWP is not the right for marriage purpose.It's only limited to tourism and short term business trip.
My point is that marriage with VWP and apply for AOS itself is red flag as well as overstay.Even if your AOS is accepted,you'll have to go through so many issues at interviews.
Anyways,all I want to say is to go talk to immigration lawyer before you make a move.
Any small things you do/are going to do could be fatal mistakes.There are bunch of immigration lawyer that offers initial counseling for a few hundreds $.
I wish your best!!

I would not fly if I was in your situation. I'd get married right away and start with the Adjustment of Status process. And until all this is fixed, I wouldn't even think about moving to Hawaii. I myself have lived in Hawaii for 10 years and will be returning there this year with my spouse. I can tell you from first-hand experience that you need to make a LOT of money to be able to afford living there. Many people work multiple jobs or live with their extended family. Here I found a forum where you can ask questions about living in Hawaii: www.to-hawaii.com/forums/Forum-Living-in-Hawaii
Or here is some more useful information: www.to-hawaii.com/moving-to-hawaii.php
Wish you good luck!

You'd probably be okay flying to Hawaii domestically, but again, why chance another day out of status? If you are 100% sure you're going to get married, I'd advise to go ahead, move it forward, and adjust status ASAP.
I wish you both the best of luck! I had some family live in Hawaii for a couple years and they made it sound like paradise! (though, as has been pointed out, an expensive paradise). Keep us informed on what happens!

TSA are a very low level of security - kinda like rent-a-cops. Is Reno an international airport with a CBP contingent ? I'd be much more nervous at the bigger airports in CA and HI where an over zealous TSA supervisor has CBP resources close by. Could potentially cause a huge headache. I wouldn't risk it.

Well in that case, when you get here, send me a msg, we'll go out for a coffee or something, neighbor

Hope all goes well with you!!!

You can marry file and adjust.

Confusion about civil and criminal law, she can of course be deported and there are plenty of examples on here of cases where that has happened.
But there are tens of millions of people in a similar situation, the chances are low.
Chances of being picked up flying internally are also very low, but it happens.
Safest option is to get married and file, as soon as you have filed you are under the colour of law and are essentially good.
Depends on your risk tolerance.

I say it again!!! If you are an immediate family of US citizen and overstay your I-94, you are allowed by law to adjust status while you remain in the USA. This law of being illegal doesn't really applied to immediate relative because they can adjust their status. Overstaying your visa Is not illegal if the permited stay on the I-94 exceed the visa expiration date. I say again, it's not illegal

Hi DoriM, to answer your question. Yes you can fly anywhere within the USA and TSA at the airport won't give you any problems. TSA are not immigration so they don't look at your status they just look at your valid passport page to see if you are the person listed on the boarding pass. Since you mentioned that you are in California, even tho you are in northern Cali, in the bay, Keep in mind that at some US airports at various cities close to the Mexican border, DHS/CBP has set up immigration check point before the TSA Checkpoint and if you would encounter one of those then you would be in trouble. It was a poor decision from you to overstay but at this point you need to move forward and go through the right procedure to adjust your status. The entire green card AOS process could take as little as 3-5 months to as much as 3-5 years or more depending on how smoothly your interview(s) goes and what kind of documents you send with you AOS package and bring to the interview. I suggest you get a lawyer to help you file and to make sure everything is done properly.
You should not have a problem flying from San Fran, San Jose or Oak to Honolulu
Good luck

Marry there a file for AOS so you are covered as immediate family and file there so you have some status... Give yourselves that piece of mind. Don't pay attention to the haters, remember most of the country just went through a terribly cold winter and the thought of living in Hawaii brings out some jealousy.

Pipe dreams....hmm .I'm never going to understand why people are so judgmental sometimes. Specially if you don't even know the people you are judging.
If we would be spontaneous we would got married last summer...