Emily and Nathan

How long ago was u and your ex's thing? are we taking like a year or 2 ago? I believe that the 1st one is good for only a few months anyways. As far as I am aware the K 1 visa expires and then I don't see any legalities.

well we filed our 129f march 2012. So almost two years..

And then we did nothing else with it..

We never got a receipt number or anything

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement. I can't tell you how much it means to me.

I really am hoping that this doesn't completely ruin things for us as far as me immigrating.

If you find out anything new.. please let me know.

In the mean time I am going to send addtional letters to USCIS and The Consulate to further express my desire to withdraw from the previous application.

I don't have a receipt number but... I just want to do anything i can do to make sure I did my due dilegence.

Thanks again all of you for being so great.

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Heed the advice of those who are offering useful information and wanting to help. Don't even worry about a certain naysayer. From what it seems, he/she has been trolling a lot of threads and posts a lot of negative and obtuse comments.

I hope you find the information you are looking for. Good luck on your application!

Just ignored that user. Probably is a troll to get attention just like some other new users on VJ. Don't feed the troll. I am wondering if he/she really read your post carefully and still don't understand that or pretending don't get it at all. If he/she accepted when his/her fiance cheated and beat him/her a lot and still wants to go to the US, I am highly suspicious he/she just wanted a green card.

Yes AMEN!!

By any chance did you write a cover letter with your petition to withdraw the previous petition (just so that it's in their file). I wouldn't worry about it. I think you are find Canada is a pretty forgiving place ya know.

Just be ready at interview to explain good your have screen shoyts of conversation.

And for what its worth you are a brave woman to know a problem head on. I am glad you are posting about a happy new beginning instead of the other kind of post "Help I married my boyfriend who is trying to kill me he has PTSD". So good for you. Stay positive and it will all be well.

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement. I can't tell you how much it means to me.

I really am hoping that this doesn't completely ruin things for us as far as me immigrating.

If you find out anything new.. please let me know.

In the mean time I am going to send addtional letters to USCIS and The Consulate to further express my desire to withdraw from the previous application.

I don't have a receipt number but... I just want to do anything i can do to make sure I did my due dilegence.

Thanks again all of you for being so great.

Yes. Poor ex. Did you even read the OP's post?

"After he cheated on me and smashed up my car, and still wouldn't get help.."

I think that's fair grounds to decide not to marry someone.

Having a previous petition could obviously be a red flag, but so long as the relationship evidence is good, it should all work out in the end. Good luck.

Thank you For this.

This guy had same problem with you. Probably you can ask some help from him. And his fiance got approved after his congressman involved.

http://www.visajourney.com/timeline/profile.php?id=148868

Here this thread about that:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/433559-advice-please-about-k1-denial-for-multiple-petitions/

Thank you again so much- this information was super helpful.

Consular officer from US embassy that will going to interview you for K-1 visa. Yes, I am sure if you have good explanation to them about your situation and give them a proof, they can't stop you from obtain your K-1 visa just because your former fiance refused to do so. I wish could find you the thread on VJ that was talking about pending several petitions. I will let you know when I found it.

Thank you so much for your help.

There are some VJers here had same problem with yours. Some of them could passed the interview even though they had several petitions still active. Some others, unfortunately, could not go through.

I know nothing about this but probably is better showing to CO the proof that you already asked your former fiance to cancel active petition but he refused it and you can't do anything or pushed him to do what you've asked for. I hope you still have all papers from your previous I-129F in case you need those. Good luck!

Sorry- what does CO stand for?

Ya- the last time I called USCIS- they said all I could do is submit it and see what happens.

I'm going to screen shot the conversation with my ex from Facebook where I tried to get him to cancel it.

I don't have any information from the last time we submitted because he kept all of that. We never got a receipt number or anything before we broke up.

Hi- had a previous post that it looks like people have stopped replying to and i am not panicking about this whole thing.

I have an ex bf who is in the military, while he was deployed a few years ago, we found out he was going to be transferred to Kentucky when he returned so, in fear of having to break up due to the distance ... I got everything ready for the k1 fiance visa application and we mailed it off as soon as he returned home.

But quickly after, I saw he had severe ptsd and he refused to get treatment. After he cheated on me and smashed up my car, and still wouldn't get help.. I ended the relationship. It was not an amicable break up. He still hates me for ending things.

We filed two years ago- he's american .. I'm Canadian..

He moved right after- he never got the NOA1.. his mail was never forwarded to Kentucky when he moved.

So we have no receipt number nothing.

Right after I emailed the USCIS 2-3 times asking to have it cancelled- I got no response.

March of this year I started dating an amazing guy.. I'm super happy. We decided to start this process for us to get married.

So this obviously came back into my mind.

I called USCIS - they told me my ex has to cancel it.

I ask my ex.. he says he will but he is deployed and in love with me.

I ask him again- He says he doesn't care to help me at all.. and will not help me..

I'm getting some answers saying that as long as I am honest in the interview stage I will be fine- others say my new application will automatically be declined.

We just got our NOA1..

I'm so nervous that it is all going to be for nothing.

my ex will not help me.. I've tried multiple ways.

I'm so upset. Please help.

PS- My message to my ex "Please Call them Peter and do whatever you need to have it cancelled, I'm begging you."

His Response "The US does not negotiate with Terrorists."

Like this is the type of person I'm dealing with.

I could just scream.

Venture over to the Philippines forum and you'll see couple of topics on this.

What happens is that petition makes it fine through USCIS with approval but consular people give you 221g for having the second petition still in the system - they won't approve and issue visa until this has been dealt with.

Can't you have someone go talk to the ex-fiance with a prepared letter that he just needs signed and mailed to USCIS? It's literally couple of sentences: I, name, DOB, petitioner of the I-129f petition XXXnumber, hereby request cancellation of this petition. Signed, dated, sent. It would go to the same service center you send I-129f petition to and that's listed on your NOA1 notice.

I don't know what 211g means? Is that a form?

I called USCIS again today.. because I'm still worried sick about this.

They said to call the US Consulate in my area and ask them.

They don't answer questions by phone.. so I emailed them.

I messaged my ex again like I said- so hopefully he follows through..

It is just awful that I myself can't cancel it- yet if it isn't cancelled, I'm found responsible for it not being cancelled and suffer the consequences.

Sigh- another reason to regret dating my ex.

re-

Ok- So you this had me FREAKING out.. To say the very least.

I called USCIS.. Even though I know they won't tell me anything about my previous application.

I messaged me ex AGAIN- asking him to cancel the old app.. and since he changing his mind daily about having me blocked or not on facebook- I'm not sure it will go through.

USCIS- Said that it shouldn't have a big impact.

They said the only thing I can do is put through the new application - which we already did earlier this month- and see what happens.

He said I was right- there is absolutely nothing I can do.

He said if I received a NOA1- which I did.. that chances are it should be fine.

Hopefully.. this is true.. I'm just going to pray..

I feel like.. It can't automatically be cancelled... I can't be the only person in the history of the world that has had a bad breakup where their ex wants to do everything and anything to make things difficult for them.

I understand if he broke up with me - that he would call right away and cancel it.. but since I broke up with him.. he wants to be all bitter about it.

I'm not sure that I mentioned it- but he moved right after filing the K1.. and never even received the receipt.. or NOA1..

I'm really praying that I get a chance to explain myself to the powers that be..

This is such a crappy situation.

Hi-

So here is the gist- almost 2 years ago.. I was seeing someone in the US military ( I am Canadian ).. He got transferred to a different state so we decided the only way for us to really stay together was to file for the fiance visa.. It was a stupid decision. It would have never worked out.. He was pretty aweful to me. Anyways.. when he got back from deployment, he had severe PTSD and refused to get treatment.. So I ended the relationship.

I have since written multiple letters and called the USCIS.. asking to cancel that petition. But they won't even talk to me about it since I'm not the petitioner.

I have asked my ex to call.. but he was until recently .. deployed.. and can't stay on hold for hour hold time that it usually is.. And now that he has returned.. He won't even speak to me.. and I doubt has done anything.

The reason why this matters is I am in an amazing, happy relationship now.. and we have just submitted our I-129F package..

I'm worried that it will have some kind of impact..

I don't think it will because.. really it is his responsibility to cancel it.. legally I can't do anything is what they tell me when I call.

So- ya... Just wanted to see if anyone had any insite on this...

And secondly.. just curious.. if I change employers in the time that is takes to have this application go through- as the beneficiary do I have to.. and how do I update my emplioyment info? Would my fiance- the petitioner have to call? etc.

Thanks.

Em