Erica & L

Some of the very ignorant, uneducated posts in this thread really grind my gears, such as "I'm all about gay rights, but you are either a man or a woman."
...No, that's not how it works. Gay rights, gender identity, and sexuality are all very different things. Gay rights isn't an umbrella term for everything else going on in the LGBT community.
Many people identify as gender neutral, gender fluid, or no gender at all and therefore prefer the gender neutral pronouns.
It's not about making it easier for everyone else to understand, it's about allowing people to feel more comfortable in their own skin. If it confuses you, or bothers you, then don't worry about it?
Like, someone could identify as a pineapple and it still wouldn't be anyone else's business except for theirs and NOBODY has the entitlement to dictate what gender THEY think you are, it only matters how they choose to identify, if they choose to at all. Period. Hopefully more of the world catches up to this notion.

No need, just go to your inbox. I already did the honors, you're welcome. I had to resort to some pretty awkward picture angles.

JUST KIDDING, MODERATORS~~

Late to the party here and somebody might have already said this but...
Depression can be caused by a lot of things and a lot of times we can somehow let our depression act as a blanket for all the other things we are going through, and then sometimes it's just the opposite. You may be depressed due to the circumstances of your relationship and your marriage, or that could just be another addition and the reason you are handling the stress the way you are is because you're already clinically depressed and may have been for a while. It's a chemical in balance and a lot of the time one incident and one difficult circumstance isn't going to trigger depression, it's a multitude of things.
In my opinion, if you generally feel like your relationship is causing a rift in your mental stability, and you are almost numb feeling to the thought of being in the relationship, to the point where you want to talk to other women etc, you should end it. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to her. You can't stay in a relationship because you're afraid to hurt their feelings or afraid of how they will react, that's not a substantial means for carrying on a relationship, and to me, that doesn't even seem like it would be a relationship anymore. You can focus on yourself, maybe talk to a therapist, explore your medical options, and then once you are okay, then you can explore the idea of sharing your life with someone again. Depression is a really REALLY selfish illness and it's out of your control, you can get so consumed with your own thoughts and feelings that even if you wanted to, you can't relate to other people. It's like an imaginary wall. Same with anxiety, it feels like it can hurt you, and ultimately hurt the people around you, and it's out of your hands.
I am speaking from experience (not the same situation exactly) but I know what it feels like when you cannot even trust your own choices and you have a million different decisions in your head but the depression makes you want to choose the easy way out. It gets better, you just need to make the first step, and sometimes it's healthier to be single in doing so, especially if your partner really isn't in the position to guide you through this.
Best of luck to you.

Late to the party here and somebody might have already said this but...
Depression can be caused by a lot of things and a lot of times we can somehow let our depression act as a blanket for all the other things we are going through, and then sometimes it's just the opposite. You may be depressed due to the circumstances of your relationship and your marriage, or that could just be another addition and the reason you are handling the stress the way you are is because you're already clinically depressed and may have been for a while. It's a chemical in balance and a lot of the time one incident and one difficult circumstance isn't going to trigger depression, it's a multitude of things.
In my opinion, if you generally feel like your relationship is causing a rift in your mental stability, and you are almost numb feeling to the thought of being in the relationship, to the point where you want to talk to other women etc, you should end it. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to her. You can't stay in a relationship because you're afraid to hurt their feelings or afraid of how they will react, that's not a substantial means for carrying on a relationship, and to me, that doesn't even seem like it would be a relationship anymore. You can focus on yourself, maybe talk to a therapist, explore your medical options, and then once you are okay, then you can explore the idea of sharing your life with someone again. Depression is a really REALLY selfish illness and it's out of your control, you can get so consumed with your own thoughts and feelings that even if you wanted to, you can't relate to other people. It's like an imaginary wall. Same with anxiety, it feels like it can hurt you, and ultimately hurt the people around you, and it's out of your hands.
I am speaking from experience (not the same situation exactly) but I know what it feels like when you cannot even trust your own choices and you have a million different decisions in your head but the depression makes you want to choose the easy way out. It gets better, you just need to make the first step, and sometimes it's healthier to be single in doing so, especially if your partner really isn't in the position to guide you through this.
Best of luck to you.

Ugh, I didn't even think about that, for some reason I was thinking that every time you print off a form from the USCIS each form has a unique barcode and therefore if I printed off another page, I'd have unique barcodes for each of the pages and they might not process.
And yes, my FIL is being somewhat of a douche, and thank you guys for the help, my brain is so scattered I can't think properly!!
Hope everyone is having a good long weekend (if you're in the US) and thanks again!

My whole thing is, if she was trying to commit fraud, and is fully aware of the consequences of doing so, why is she verbally announcing this to you on several occasions, even if you are her roommate? Not to mention whoever else she might just casually be telling without thinking about it.
Though it's not right in my eyes, a lot of people that come to the US illegally or are trying to prove a fraudulent relationship are very cautious and private and paranoid about their status (for good reason), and if she valued being around any of her family members at all, she wouldn't be running her mouth with the risk that she could be separated from them. That is her fault and guilt if she gets deported, not yours if you report her.
We all have so much going on with our own cases though, I would report her, but don't get too wrapped up on what she is doing that is wrong and stay focused on getting your case approved!