Purpled23

I joined this site to get advice from people that were going thru the same thing. Good or bad, I did want to hear it all. But, some of you have been trash talking others and have been rude and hateful. You can take that ####### somewhere else. Even if you had a bad experience, I am sorry to hear that. If you left a reply, then leave it at that and move on. You can say all you want about MENA men but it won't change my mind about my man. I am sick of hearing you degrade him. You don't know him, you know nothing about him so who are you to pass judgement based on your bad experience?

Honestly, it still amazes me after all these years visa journey is still the same. I remember six years ago, women came here including my wife and was given the same advice as it is today. There are so many age difference success stories that are forgotten about but yet we MENA younger men are only out for a Greencard. Amazing just amazing people.

I wish moderators would open a topic for successful stories of younger men married to older women so we don't have to always defend ourselves and have a place to go and tell our successful stories too.

That is what I would like to see too. All I have heard is how older woman , younger men will never make it together. Not ever relationship is the same, not ever man is the same. It doesn't matter if you are MENA or American or from any other culture, there are men who lie, cheat to benefit themselves. I believe in our relationship. There is no doubt in my mind that he really loves me and no one here or anywhere else will ever change my feelings about that. All I asked for was advice, was hope that we have a chance to be together, that we wouldn't be denied based on our age. It wasn't intended for anyone to discriminate or say untrue things about MENA men. So my apologies to whoever took offense to mean or rude replies.

Is there some reason you can not migrate to Algeria?

Yes, there are two reasons......My children..... They do have a relationship with their father and I would never take them away from him and I would NEVER give them up for anyone.

AP wouldn't have stopped your husband from doing what he did, AP is security checks, not sociopaths checks. You had huge red flags before your husband received his visa and you chose to ignore them.

To the OP, I will say again, you plan to meet your fiance only for a week and then file. A week simply isn't enough time to get to know a person, no matter how much time you spend online, real life is totally different. You need to spend not only a lot of time with him, but also with his family and friends to get to see the entire picture. Marriage is a lot of work, no matter the age difference or the difference in culture. I was married to my first husband for 20 years, we are the same age and from similar backgrounds and beliefs, it ended in a very bitter divorce. I knew the moment I married him it was a mistake, yet I chose to stay and work on the marriage, and then I stayed for the children. My now husband has been here for a year, it has been great, but it has also been hard at times, the waiting for him to get a job was excruciating and he was getting depressed. He is working now, loves his job, and he is loving it here now, but he misses his family and friends. Hopefully in the Spring we will be able to go to Jordan for a visit, he is dying to go and so am I. I need a vacation.

I know that a week is not long enough time to spend with him. I am not trying to rush into anything. We both just needed to know that it is possible for us to be together or if we needed to end it now before either of us get hurt. We are going to visit with each other more than just once. I have met his mom on Skype and she is very accepting to us. She has said that she wants her son to be happy and if I do that for him then she is ok with it. I was marred for 15 years before so I know what marriage is about. That is why I have to be sure this is what I want and he needs to be sure as well since he is younger. He wants to be with me and I want to be with him. Thanks for you advice, it is appreciated. I hope you have a great vacation.

We would like to say thank you to all of your positive feedback. It means so much to us to hear about your success stories and we hope one day we can do the same for another couple. You have given us hope that there is a chance for us. So thank you, thank you, thank you!

Are you also of Algerian heritage?

Any children involved?

No, I am not of Algerian heritage. I do have 2 children from previous marriage.

So, I am moving my story and questions here because I need some advice from anyone that can relate. I am a 40 year old American woman who is in love with a 22 year old Algerian man. We met online and have been talking for awhile now. We Skype every night, send messages thru email every day and even call or text each other when we can. I am planning a trip to visit him in Algeria this April for a week. We both know that it is love we feel for each other and we want to be together. We are not trying to rush trying to get a visa to be together because we don't want to mess anything up. We want to prove that we are serious about each other and that we are in a real relationship. We have read different stories both good and bad. What we are wanting to know is which is the best way to go about getting the visa? Is the K1 fiancé visa the best or the spouse visa? I would like to know what the chances of older woman/younger man getting approved for visa? All I have seen on here is older man/younger woman getting approved and I guess I need to know that there are some happy endings for us older women who fall in love with younger men. The one I love, I couldn't imagine not having him in my life. He is amazing and such a wonderful person. There is no doubt in my mind when it comes to him. It is real love and I cant wait to be with him. Thank you for any and all advice.

Thank you for all your advice. I am planning on going to visit him in April. I have heard a few things. Is it hard for American woman to get a visa into Algeria? I have heard this is difficult to do. Also, I have heard that it is harder for older woman and younger Algerian man to get approved. Is this true? What we have is real. We love each other and want to be together. I have no doubts with him. He is honest, caring, an amazing person. I want to know how hard of a fight its going to be for us to be together. We are ready for it and we are not going to give up.

I am not sure if I am in the right area to discuss this topic but I am new to this site and in need of advice. I am 40 yr old woman in love with a 22 yr old Algerian man. We met online and have been talking for awhile now. Despite what anyone would think, we actually have a lot in common. He is an amazing person and I love everything about him. We want to be together but I am not sure how we even start that process. Any suggestions? Thanks.