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so My wife and I dont have any kid yet. On the children section, I just left it blank.

Was I suppose to write " N/A "?

Yeah, you should leave it blank. That's what is in the instructions. It says if the answer to a question is none, leave it blank.

'Having a little thing on the side' seems to be the cultural norm here. This so called little thing breaks a lot of homes and render many children without either of their parents. It's just a pity that those that do this are also not only encouraged by their friends of similar nature but their families too. It's like ones fight against the world. Also,all responses and personal messages are extremely appreciated. It shows we still av pple with values who are plain to the truth. I av gathered a lot of courage and learnt a lot more from y'all. May the Lord bless ur unions and keep your marriages.

Thank you SA516. U are just a mere stranger,I do not need to explain anything to you considering the way u av just expressed urself. Wish for urself what I'm going through so u'll understand better as experience is the best teacher.

Then I'm at a loss.

Not sure what he expects his family to do in those circumstances, at least in a positive way anyways.

If I may ask, how close are you to his family before all this started?

Close enough. I am very much familiar with them even if they are all other than me.

Gowon,I said he reports me to his family. If this minute we have an argument and the next minute his mum and sisters start beeping my phone,who's handiwork is that? Besides he tells me to my face that he had to call them so they will call me to order. And when anyone from his side calls too,all I hear is 'ur husband said....'. No one married me or arranged me for him. He saw me and insisted on marrying me. He waited 6 long years to make me come of age and almost graduate from the university before he asked my hand in marriage. So,that's y it saddens me to see things turn out this way.

Thanks y'all. For anyone,nothing is worse than a cheating spouse who tarnishes your image in other to protect his or hers. I av gained a whole lot from all your responses. Immigration fraud is never an option and will never be. I wouldn't want to jeopardize the future of those related to me in anyway whatsoever. Whatever the decision is going to be,it will be taken right here.

Virtually everyone in his family knows what's going on. Except for my own side of every story he tells them, becos anytime he reports me,they just act like they are advising me in a scolding manner like I am some child. No one cares abt my side of the story. I'm younger and the wife,so I should understand that there is no man who doesn't av an affair. That's what I hear,and I shouldn't act nosy or jealous so I wouldn't be sent to an early grave. Wish I can give them all a piece of my mind,but as usual,u can't look ur in-laws' in the face to express urself.

Thank you so much,I apprecaite ur responses every1.

I sincerely appreciate you all. I'm trying my best possible to make the best decision because whatever I decide to do will affect my family. I hope u all understand how it is with our culture here. I'm the first of 4 girls. I wouldn't want to put any form of stigma on my sisters. I'll try as much as possible to do what is best,as well as put my happiness into consideration too. He also says things will change when we start living together. If it's going to be so,I should be seeing signs now right? Thank you all and God bless you.

I'm grateful QueenE,thank you. I already did. I'm just trying to get the strength and confidence to talk to his family. They already av 'that impression'. Spoke with one of his cousins and she told me 'when you go over there,don't stress my brother. If u do we all will pray for you to be deported.' No one has told me 'you av ur rights,don't let him walk on u like a slave'. I'm meant to be extremely happy and excited about leaving this country and going to the US but I av such great mixed feelings. A feeling of disappointment that my husband did this @ the last hour,making my relationship awkward with his family and creating friction everywhere. I'm just unhappy and helpless. An elder in my family is already involved,and once again I wish there is something I can do to make him learn that things are not handled the way he handles them. Making me look bad and all. I'm much younger but yet more mature @ times. It's like he is the mummy and family's boy who needs to always invlove his family to settle little talks with his wife!

Thank you Trisha89.

Thank you NigeriaorBust for understanding my plight. I'm just so confused on the decision to make. It would be perfect if there was a way I could teach him to handle matters better. I just hate being looked @ with a different eye from what one really is,it's like I'm the one being punished for what he did or is doing. And it pains me more knowing fully well that I don't deserve this cos he's the first man I av ever being with.

No,I'm the Nigerian beneficiary

Hello every1. Thank God for this website,it really helped me. I'm meant to be traveling in two weeks but I'm so nervous and developing cold feet already. My husband is 13yrs older than me,making all his siblings older than me. But whenever my husband and I av any issues,he calls his mum and sisters to report me. Nigeria is a country where u av to respect ur inlaws and almost worship them. They all av the impression that I'm a jealous wife. My husband cheated on me abt a year ago cos he was cohabitating with a black American woman. It all got messy for him when I found out and called the woman to inform her that he's married. Now he feels like I'm accusing him of infedelity always,whenever I say one thing or the other innocently. Then he calls his family to report me. Same thing happened last week,just few days to join him there. I hate it that my in-laws av a bad impression,and I'm so angry @ my husband. He's the infidel,I'm the one suffering it emotionally and morally. I don't know if going to join him is the best thing cos I don't know what will happpen when we start living 2geda. I never report him to anyone cos I feel that will not protect his honor but he never does the same. It's not my faulty his conscience still pricks him for what he did. Please I need candid advice every1,God bless. Sorry I avnt updated my timeline yet,that's because I don't av correct dates on some stages so I'm working on it.

In the interview letter received,it should be stated there that 'you should get a new police certificate if the one you submitted is more than a year old at the time of the interview'. If not,your police certificate is still valid @ the time of your interview.

That's a rough estimate but it usually falls within that range for most people. Since It's a CR-1 visa,the NVC will contact you for your interview date,not the embassy.

You can do your medicals as soon as you get an email notification from NVC stating your interview date. Medicals are valid for six months and 3 months under certain health circumstances(I stand to be corrected). So if you have your interview date already,you can proceed on your medicals.