angeldaemon13

Good luck, I hope you get transferred today or tomorrow! Just because I'm jealous doesn't mean I can't be happy for everyone else!

Yes I see quite a few transfers for September today, I am wondering if we will hear something by say April, wishful thinking.

Congrats. Hoping for the best soon. Our case was accepted on my wife's birthday and We got transferred on my birthday. lol. I think some link is there birthday to birthday hahah....But I would like to see my wife before her or my next birthday. lol

YES! I'M TRANSFERRED TOO!

It feels like Christmas Eve to me! I'm hoping there's a lot of movement tonight!! I want that spreadsheet looking busy in a few hours!

Bad or hurried decisions? We planned on immigrating nearly a full year before I came back here. We spent the time doing research, watching the trends with the IR/CR visas, tying up loose ends for me and the kids, and disposing of, donating, or shipping our possessions here to the states. This was not a rushed decision in any sense of the term. There was no way that we could have known that the USCIS was going to stop processing I130's at all.
I'm no new comer to immigration headaches. I already went through the Dutch immigration system, where it took me 2 years to get my residency permit. Happily, during that time I could stay in the Netherlands with my husband, and in fact that is exactly how they prefer you immigrate. Unfortunately, witch though I am, I didn't have enough clairvoyance 10 years ago when I got involved with my husband to know that we would wind up in our current situation. I didn't fall in love with my husband because he was a foreigner. I fell in love with him for who he was. We had considered that we'd need to deal with immigration in one of our countries once we decided that we wanted to be together. But immigration issues never were a driving force in our relationship. How foolish of us to think that we'd have a fairly easy freedom of movement, especially reading all of the material the USCIS puts out about immediately available visas for Spouses of US Citizens.
We're not newlyweds. We've been married for 8 years. We've been together for 10. Perhaps your advice would have been better received back then. I hadn't planned on falling in love with an incredibly inconvenient person. But I wouldn't give up a second of our time together just because he was from the Netherlands. I love him even more today than the day I married him, and I'd already given up my career and everything I'd worked years for here by then.
That doesn't mean that waiting is any easier. Or pleasant. It means that half of my heart is living in another country, and I feel that loss every minute of every day that we're apart. People who trivialize it don't impress me with how profound their truths are. They just show an impressive lack of empathy and sympathy for others. Perhaps they feel better or more superior because they're kicking people who are already down. I don't know. I don't particularly care, either. I just think it's obnoxious. Because if you really, truly were that bothered by people complaining about their dealings with immigration, you probably wouldn't come into threads where people were complaining about their dealings with immigration on a regular basis.

I am amazed with the level of support I am seeing on this thread and people sharing their stories. I know this wont do anything to USCIS and their processing times, but knowing that we all are wishing and hoping for each other, makes me get by the day and be more hopeful tomorrow.
On that note, it is really sad how insensitive some people are being, causing more pain and provoking people that are hurt. If you can't say anything to support us then don't say anything.

I think we've all had our fill of tough love! This thread was (by and large) about sharing our exasperation, commiserating, and offering each other support, not grabbing pitchforks and lighting torches.

Lol this is how I picture people behind their computers "stirring the pot" on internet forums

True, you are... but if it adds nothing constructive or serves to just hurt others and cause pain then what is the point of posting it? Let people vent and take their frustrations out here. It's perfectly OK. They should be able to do so without being criticized.

In July me and hubs will be married 12 years. If it is a test for a green card, I think we passed.

Completely agree Hotter Otter. I don't hate the illegals either but why shouldn't we complain about the shabby way we have been treated. But the truth must be told, these people were brought to the front of the line to the detriment of those who wanted to do this the legal way. Of course it's all down to politics. This has been the hardest day for me too, I've spent most of it in tears. Usually I try to keep positive, I don't want to let my family here know that I'm depressed. I always put on a brave face. I'm sick of trying to explain to friends and neighbours why I'm still not with my husband. Hopefully I'll feel more positive tomorrow, we all need to stay strong. This will end soon, please God.

Hey guys im so sorry to say this but its good to see other people in the same boat... i will not be afraid to say it, i went to the US with a visa when i was 12 yrs old, my mom decided to overstay our visas, and at school i met my husband, we had a baby when we were 15 yrs old, got married when we were 16 yrs old, and came to Brazil when we were 17 yrs old. On my pic right there <----- we are 16 years old and our baby 1 year old... Its been over a year that i havent seen my husband and unless i get my IR1 visa im not going to see him anytime soon, since he left in feb 2013 i was angry ive posted a couple angry topics, until finally i started to calm down i think it was last month i took the day off to tell myself to suck it up, wake up and accept my reality (im not telling any of you to do that im just saying what I had to do) today we are 21 dreaming to see each other by june, if God bless... I dont think we should turn on each other and decide which one has the worst story we dont know what the other one is truly going through, its not easy for any of us... One thing i would like to say, lets not forget once its over lets help other couples, sign petitions, voting, writing emails to senators, congressman, news people anything cuz we sure would have appreciated if someone had done that for us.
And like someone has said, do NOT allow this to tear your marriage apart, you have made a promise that in sickness and in health, in rich or poor youd be there for your partner SO STAY STRONG NOW BECAUSE ONE DAY WE WILL BE THERE FOR OUR PARTNER!!

In July me and hubs will be married 12 years. If it is a test for a green card, I think we passed.

I met my husband online 11 years ago on a completely non-related to immigration site. Tomorrow is our 10 year anniversary of being together. We made life plans based on our situation, which included me moving over there. If we'd have any inkling of the separation that we'd be going through due to the USCIS, we would have made different plans. Our desire to do everything the "right" way has resulted in our current separation. We accepted that we'd need to be separated for several months. Never did we think we'd be still sitting here a year later.
Why all this complaining? Because our immigration issues never took precedence over our relationship. And now, immigration has been the defining factor of our relationship for a year. Because my children cry to me every day that they miss their daddy. Because I actually miss my husband. It's because the USCIS continues to state that they're having delays, but has shown no actual sign of fixing the problem. Because the NVC is unprepared to deal with things like federal holidays or winter in New Hampshire, which happen every year. Their inability to deal with reality or February is once again delaying our process. Are you suggesting that I should be super happy that we may be delayed several more months?
Well, I'm not. Nor am I blaming the DACA filers or illegal aliens. I actually support amnesty and DACA, with the caveat that the entire immigration system should be overhauled to avoid these problems in the future. I believe that people who follow the laws should come first. That doesn't mean that I don't think others shouldn't be serviced, just that they shouldn't be given preference.
And I can, and will complain all I want. If you don't like reading complaints, then stop coming into threads where it's obvious there's going to be a lot of complaining. The other people on this site are some of the few people out there who can commiserate and truly understand what I'm going through.That can be the difference between a good day, and a laying curled up in a dark room crying day.

I met my hubby online, 14 years ago. I was a single mom of twins. He moved from his home in California and we did the process after we got married, 12 years ago. In that time, we had a son and my twins are in their 20's.
We had talked about him returning home, he couldn't take another winter, being shut in for 7 mos. He does not like Canada. He gave it 12 years. We sent in our paperwork and our PD is in December.
Because he has been away for so long, we felt it would be good for him to establish domicile and get things going. My son who is 8 is closer to his dad and in February, I set them free to go home. It is awful waiting, knowing I am only in the first phase. I Skype my boys every night. Yes it is hard, I couldn't let my son choose which parent to wait it out with and I miss him so much. Its been over 3 weeks and yet feels like a lifetime since I hugged him last.
I hope USCIS fixes things. Its the first time we have been separated and although it is part of the process, it shouldn't be like this. My son started school in a new place without me, he has had a lot of firsts without me. Had he have stayed here, his dad would have missed out. The process is unfair.
If I can be a part of change, not for my family but someone else's family, at least it has been somewhat worthwhile. I have been staying at a friend's and it is hard. Her family is not my family and her home is not our home.

I met my hubby online, 14 years ago. I was a single mom of twins. He moved from his home in California and we did the process after we got married, 12 years ago. In that time, we had a son and my twins are in their 20's.
We had talked about him returning home, he couldn't take another winter, being shut in for 7 mos. He does not like Canada. He gave it 12 years. We sent in our paperwork and our PD is in December.
Because he has been away for so long, we felt it would be good for him to establish domicile and get things going. My son who is 8 is closer to his dad and in February, I set them free to go home. It is awful waiting, knowing I am only in the first phase. I Skype my boys every night. Yes it is hard, I couldn't let my son choose which parent to wait it out with and I miss him so much. Its been over 3 weeks and yet feels like a lifetime since I hugged him last.
I hope USCIS fixes things. Its the first time we have been separated and although it is part of the process, it shouldn't be like this. My son started school in a new place without me, he has had a lot of firsts without me. Had he have stayed here, his dad would have missed out. The process is unfair.
If I can be a part of change, not for my family but someone else's family, at least it has been somewhat worthwhile. I have been staying at a friend's and it is hard. Her family is not my family and her home is not our home.

No No No No.
No other country in the world does this.
You are talking about teenagers who are passport holders of a vast range of any number of other countries.
They are not homeless or hopeless - they have a home.
They have an address - its on the address line of the passport of the country where they came from.
They visit their cousins on several trips all the time.
Just like I do.
Or just like everybody else.
I dont get why americans must empathize with someone who doesnt have a claim to being American.
Not being born here. Not having a parent or a grandparent who is American.
How else do you define citizenship ?
Jus solis, jus sanguinis...
jus obama ?
Republicans always get beaten up by media because they demonize those who won't supposedly vote for them.
Because they limit electoral rights that were hard fought.
You know what else is hard fought - the value of a passport of the greatest country on this planet.
Don't let Arianna huffington decide what hands it should end up in.

It's frustrating being on here sometimes and I often need to take little breaks away from VJ but I feel like I've got to know a lot of our fellow CR1 filers over the last 6 months or so and having a place to vent with people who actually understand and empathise really helps on the dark days when the visa in hand seems really far away. So thanks to all of the mostly awesome people in this thread and those who are so happy to listen and support others.
I don't know what I'll take out of this period of my life but at the very least it will be an increased appreciation of my spouse and a desire like the one Kaylara has spoken of to fight for the change in the system so that others shouldn't go through the same. I don't hate DACA filers, indeed if you are the offspring of illegal parents then you had no choice over your place of birth or lack of status. What I hate is the way that we were shunted to the back of the line without a word of explanation or apology. I would love one day to know that the system is being fixed to ensure that this kind of thing is no longer the norm.

Um I don't like moaning about illegals or getting political but you should know your facts because the precise reason we have all waited so long is that illegals "took our place" at USCIS. For some reason known only to USCIS and Obama they sat on our files and ignored them while prioritising DACA filers. Yes we did all make a choice to have a relationship with someone from another country and we are all paying a decent sum of money to have our petitions worked on. Other countries work on this a lot faster and with the amount of money we pay for the service we have every right to be frustrated at waiting over a year to be with our families.
If you don't have anything positive or constructive to contribute then please leave the thread to those of us that do.

Sukie, I feel the same way. We aren't just stats, we shouldn't have to compete but we are. Each of us has a story and if we can show who and how this affects us and our families, maybe stronger than all petitions put together.
The question is how?
I used to think no one cares about our plight but I researched and a lot of news articles out there have been getting word out in 2013 about illegals being more of an issue than US immediate families.
What about a fly sheet with people's stories rather than stats to representatives and Congress?

Woooow!!! I cant imagine kids cant see their daddy and mommy together just because of some papers i feel sorry for u guys! And if i could i would give u my "sit" to do quickly ur papers... God give u strength for this and wish to everyone luck!!!

"If I knew then what I know now....." we would have just filed a K-1 and he'd be here now. Or he could have just stayed and adjusted status, but that wasn't realistic as he had a job to return to and most of his possessions!
I too hear ALL the time "I don't know how you do it" to which I think they've never been in love and that's sad. The one question I loathe is "how is married life". My response would get the ##### on this thread so I won't type it!
Sometimes this site burns me out, but you're all here and you all understand better than anyone!

I feel the same way man. Not an arranged marriage, I chose this, but still the government has completely changed I feel about my marriage. In 3 years of knowing my wife I have spent less than 6 months face-2-face with her. I never imagined anything could cause this much psychological torment.

yeah Nebraska is all over the place!! I don't get it either... let's hope they hurry up and get to our pettitions soon enough...