Why did you get married? Family pressure or romantic love?
If your marriage is sincerely based on romantic love, you both can make it work.
We all have our marital challenges as little as like/dislike for tooth-picking which can gradually lead to
divorce. Your case is better because you are both Chinese irrespective of the location you where born.
Both of you need to sit down and be sincere with yourselves. Ask yourselves deep questions in turns and give
answers to the various questions. Have you taken the time to examine yourself about how good you have been
to her,not necessarily the amount of money you had spent on her,do you allow her to air her views as your wife?
Yes you are the husband but you still need to show her love and respect. The truth is No counselor can help you make your home,
they can only advise you on what steps to take,they are not gonna take the steps for you. Its a decision both of you need to make.
Are you Judgmental,Do you listen to her? Think of what you would do to her that would make her crave for your presence.
NO FAMILY WITHOUT ITS CHALLENGE,we all manage it. No two individuals born by same parent and raised in the same environment that
are the same. We are all unique being and so we need to tolerate and understand ourselves more especially our wife.
They dont think the way men do, neither do they learn fast. They need to be taken one step at a time for a change to take place,and when they do change
then you would know that you have done a good job. Adults are not easy to re-mould,please understand this. If your present method of leading
her in your marital life is not working,retreat and use a different method. Remember, no man has ever travelled this road before and arrived at a destination
without hurdles,so we all are learning to be a better spouse as the day goes by. If you love her,you will accept her and work things out together BUT if the situation is life threatening, please RUN. All the best
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