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Binx and Pauly

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    Binx and Pauly got a reaction from Jacque67 in Violent 2 Year GC holder mother & Divorce   
    I shall add my two cents.
    Try and place yourself in her shoes. In a foreign country, probably the only person from her country in the immediate area? Adjusting is often harder for some than for others. Does she have friends in the area? Take into consideration, a woman values interacting with others way more than men do, and especially from a country like Egypt, where community plays a big role. Going from a place where you knew everyone to where you sit at home alone all day is very very difficult. Trust me, i know.
    If she has post partum, then get her some help. Think of it this way, she has no support system, no family, no friends to help her out, and only you to rely on, it is difficult.
    I am not justifying her violence.
    And do not abandon your child. He/she is an innocent little being in all this.
    In every situation, the truth of the matter is, nothing is cut and dry. No one on this forum can tell you this is what is wrong with her, nor what to do, because none of us are in your situation, and even if one of us had the same situation, we are all different individuals, and do not react to things in the exact same manner.
    All I can say is look at when this started, when it got worse, sometimes these are defining moments that are overlooked. eg, when her mom left etc.
    Seek a psychologist, and marriage counselor, and after you have done all this, and nothing works, then part ways, but I'd advise you to remain in the child's life.
    Talk to your wife, you might discover concerns, worries and fears you never knew she had.
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    Binx and Pauly got a reaction from believe in Violent 2 Year GC holder mother & Divorce   
    I shall add my two cents.
    Try and place yourself in her shoes. In a foreign country, probably the only person from her country in the immediate area? Adjusting is often harder for some than for others. Does she have friends in the area? Take into consideration, a woman values interacting with others way more than men do, and especially from a country like Egypt, where community plays a big role. Going from a place where you knew everyone to where you sit at home alone all day is very very difficult. Trust me, i know.
    If she has post partum, then get her some help. Think of it this way, she has no support system, no family, no friends to help her out, and only you to rely on, it is difficult.
    I am not justifying her violence.
    And do not abandon your child. He/she is an innocent little being in all this.
    In every situation, the truth of the matter is, nothing is cut and dry. No one on this forum can tell you this is what is wrong with her, nor what to do, because none of us are in your situation, and even if one of us had the same situation, we are all different individuals, and do not react to things in the exact same manner.
    All I can say is look at when this started, when it got worse, sometimes these are defining moments that are overlooked. eg, when her mom left etc.
    Seek a psychologist, and marriage counselor, and after you have done all this, and nothing works, then part ways, but I'd advise you to remain in the child's life.
    Talk to your wife, you might discover concerns, worries and fears you never knew she had.
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