CharliesAngel13

Not people are as bad as them but here's the link I posted before, it's a good laugh you might want to see all my friends was laughing after reading it. Some people here are ridiculous. Ain't we all want to get married and be with the person we love? why be bitchy with the answers? lol

I'm happy to meet nice people like you here, we experience such luck also, like all of a sudden my notebook will die and just wont turn on, internet problems..sometimes we have misunderstandings cos of it. Always make screenshots of errors on your part so you can show it to him, it saves time explaining your side on what had happen about the internet problem thing and such

most importantly, always reach out ofr each other, talk things out..understand the situation you are in and extend your patience, most people break up on this stage of waiting cos they are depressed, bored, pissed off, pressure, stressed, sad, lonely with all the wait. So the two of you shouldn't let any negativity get in between you. Good luck and God Bless both of you

Thank u so much nice to meet u too!! And we are a strong couple.. Havent had any trouble getting thru tough times as a unity.. Thats not to say we havent disagreed or havent argued but were best friends first and formost and even wen there is anger or frustration there is still deep love and understanding and loyalty...... Many blessings on your Journey!!! God bless u for having a kind heart!!

my heart is torn here. Torn in the sense, that i feel happiness for your ability to connect with each other, yet sullen at the obstacles i'm facing. The love of my life lives in Cuba, & therefore communications are extremely difficult at best. Skype, Facebook, Whatsapp are all unavailable on the island & there is no WIFI readily available. I call him every other day at 79 cents a minute & it's practically killed my budget. We have attempted to write letters to each other (via snail mail) however neither of us have yet to receive the others mail. Mail between the U.S. & Cuba are notoriously inefficient. Email is also spotty, but we do get to send each other emails once in a while. But i must admit, there are moments within the day, that i feel an inexplicable ethereal connection to him, that defies explanation or logic. So with that, i find some peace...a moment of joy.

So, any words of kindness or advice is greatly appreciated here, because i feel i have exhausted all my options. Perhaps a few Cubanos can relate.

Keep holding on folks. These moments of separation pale in comparison to the deeper connections we are building through the soulful bond we share with that special person. Keep strong.

Wow i truely feel for u!! Just when u think ur situations the worst, sumone out there always has it tougher! But u have a positive attitude and that will take u far!!! Ur strong! Keep ur head up! And if i can help, let me kno! Im always online lol.. I will for sure send prayers your way! And it sounds lime u have a great connection between ur hearts n souls keeping the fire burning!! Its doesnt need to b defined or logica based! I have a connection to my partner as well i can not explain!! Its a bridge God builds between 2 people and only those 2 people may pass.... My man and i close our eyes sometimes symotaniously and just reach our hearts n souls to one another... And unexplainably can feel eachothers warmth and comfort... We can sense desperation from eachothers hearts at random times and feel urges to contact one another.. Its similiar to a mothers intuition.. We just kno wen sumthings wrong... We have actually met in our dreams only to realize after discussing it the next day, that we both had the same dream and same experience, feelings and all on the same night... Now explain that!? Lol nobody can.. Your soulmates is the best suitable explanation... We always just say, no matter the time away, no matter the distance, this is only a moment compared to a lifetime we are goin to share!!! Stay positive... We all need a little care n helping hands! God bless your Journey!

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I love your ideas!!! We recently started doin the movie thing.. However Nigeria rations the peoples power supply so its often interrupted for him by loss of power sometimes were lucky tho!! As for hateful hearted people on here... Tell me about it!! I wanted to delete my profile 3 days into registering a profile!!! Lol admins havent got my request apparently? Lol idk but were all here for the same reason and if sum r bitter things arent goin as planned, all i can say is.. "Look to God"

Like everyone else, Skype and ooVoo are our daily routine. With unlimited internet, we can stay on line all day and all night. Sometimes the technical problems with internet connections become frustrating, but we realize that we are so much better off than 20 years ago with no Internet. I cannot imagine how people coped with the wait before Internet. Our tablets are set up for automatic answer on Skype, so anytime either of us wants to connect with the other, the links will come up even if we are sound asleep. That's great because we are separated by a nine-hour time difference.

Wow 9 hours!! I thought 5 was bad!! I pray ur journey is short and ur life with ur love is long lived!!!

Video chat everyday. That's the only thing we can do for now that we're away from our love ones. He also visit me every 6 months.

Tough times!!! How much longer do we have to wait? Tjats always the question lol geeesh....

You know, you need to stop with the stereotyping. Not all men are the same. Most people on here would say they would never date a Nigerian because they are cheaters and scammers and there's a lot of evidence on here and the rest of the internet to back that up. Percentages are on the "bad" side. I'm happy you think you found a good one, that's all that matters.

My husband is neither a cheater nor a scammer. Everyone says that about their spouse of course until it happens to them. All that matters is what you believe, and I believe my husband would never cheat on me, because of his character, what he's said, and what he's been through. I have yet to meet a person that hates my husband so that bodes well of course.

Your right, i should have used the term "some" and of course there r cheaters in all cultures n races... Didnt really intend to stereotype... I was actually just speaking about our cultural statistics... Numbers of American men cheating are greater then the muslim and islamic cultures.. I studied cultural diversity in great depth in college and since graduating in 2010.. Numbers have actually increased... That is the leading cause of divorce in the US! However that number comes from cheating women lol go figure huh? Anyways, i didnt mean to impliment "all" American men...sorry about that.

I see we all feel the same pain of separation. My wife is in Brazil with the two girls. How do you keep connected for us is talking on video Skype and text. I do not speak Portuguese and she does not speak English. We use a Translator this has help our understanding of each other and I think made us closer. The bad part not being able to hold and feel each other. The little things we did together and being together at night. We Skype every day and tell each other about our days and how much we miss and love each other. I will travel every six to seven months to Brazil. We even have made plans if the visa are not given. We have committed to each other to be together as all have you. It is hard when you know it all up to a stranger the US Government. They have to power over you both to be together or apart. The really hard part is not know when it will end. The best thing for me is to keep a positive attitude and also be the squeaky wheel. When the dead lines passes call inquire and never stop. I wish you all a short wait and happy life together.

Wow a language barrier can not b easy!!! I agree, not knowing wen the approval is coming is the most dufficult part.. Really its very ridiculous. Even welfare benefits has an expected date of approval or denial!! We have also made plans if the visa is not approved (knock on wood) i will b goin there for us t get married and begin a life there until we file a new visa for spouse and wait it out with him... I pray it doesnt come to that n i am always so sad to read about denials.. Ours shuld not b denied as we have an attorney, but heck, ya never kno so we made a back up plan n vowed giving up will never b considered!! Good luck on your journey!! God Bless u

We talk all the time about whatever using Vonage for $25 per month, set up in her country, We can call each other at any moment for free.

Usually, 90% of the time, we fall asleep with video chat on and wake up the next day and say good morning! How weird is that? Coping is hard....

Us too! Sleeping with Skype on is the best option we have!

That would eat up my data usage for my wi fi.. Lol but i bet thats nice... My man cant fall asleep without a phone call telling me goodnite homestly i culdnt sleep well without it either... And coping is sooo hard!! Its nice to share ways of doin it tho!! Gunna ck on Vontage 2maro!!

Because for many of us like me and the OP they can't get a visitor visa to come to us. It's very rare for countries outside of the ones in the ESTA's and VWP to get a Visitor Visa.

Sure there are like 9 countries in the world a Nigerian can go without a Visa but hey if I was rich I wouldn't even have these immigration issues would I.

Yeah they can go to the UK like there just takin a trip to the mall but cant come here unless they r married or intend to marry.. Craziness!! Well except for rare cases of course and extreme ties to Nigeria.. But thats not our case...

Cope hehe me cope. See my profile? Yesterday I got my 4th heart 4000 post. LOL I live here on VJ. This is my escape learning and helping.

To think before I came here me and my man thought oh you get visitor visa come here we get married and live happily ever after. We didn't even know there was a spousal visa,an adjustment of status. OMG.

But at least I got to live 6 1/2months with my husband in Nigeria. And yes I will be there for interview by God's grace.

Thanks for the shout out.

One thing I can say. Through the good and bad I have gotten on her (most of us have had our hands and feelings slapped a few times) this is still a community of people who get what we are feeling. I could post on my wall on facebook all my thoughts of this process and except for a few friends who are going through this no one would get it. So for that I love it here. Just like a family we laugh, we cry, we yell we cuss. But most of all we are so happy when we see approved and POE and Visa.....my bad

I was in Nigeria a month... I contemplated staying during this process but my tourist visa only allowed 30 dats from entry.. I was a little confused considering it doesnt expire for 6... And ur right, nobody on fb has a clue what USCIS even is lol its good to b here.. Im still learning how to use the forum yet... Im a fb junkie n this site isnt as easy to navigate lol but im figuring it out!! Hope i wont b here long by God graces!!

Thank you all for replies, both my kids are USC and we have joint assets and all kind of prove, I wasn't sure if the divorce he want to file can take weeks or months to be final, not familiar. At this point I am not scared to be deported if that will be the case but I wouldn't want him to remain with kids since he knows nothing about raising, only a provider and also issues with women can affect my kids. Hope for the best, will keep you posted. Also my kids don't have passport, I didn't apply.

What state do u live in? (edited to remove TOS violation) I hate cheaters!!! Thats y i hate American men!! Lol my fiance (beneficiary) is Nigerian!! Much better morals of character for marrige anyways lol and when genuine!! All in all, better breed of men!! American men tend to b masoginists!!

As of yet we haven't. This is how our routine has been since October

October - Visited Canada

November - She came here

December - Visted Canada

January - Visited Canada

March - She came here

May - She's coming here.

So far we haven't had trouble, but I still worry.

Im jealous!! Lol wish i could see my partner every month or even every other month! Heck id settle for every 3!! Lol

11days!!! Thank God!! Hail Mary!! Praise Jesus!! Whhhoo hooo!! So happy for u!! Congrats!! Id start knockin down doors at USCIS after 18 months of being without my man!! Lol God bless u both & may he be with u at the interview!!! Thats exciting!! So related to the post; how did u copr for 18 grueling months?

Trust me most of us dealing with the country didn't know that the US would deny a person to visit. Like what.

I was living with my husband in Nigeria after we got married ion 2011. We had no clue than I read about this Affidavit of Support and was like "babe I have to go back to the states and find a job" That was 18 months ago I last saw my husband.

It's damn hard trust me. But thank God interview is in 11 days.

Awww... I will b excited to hear u all reunited!!!

Can u say zanax?!?! Lol anxiety should b a side affect warning on the application listed in bold!!! Lmao... But wat doesnt kill us will indeed make us stronger!! Keep up the positive thinking!! All will progress in due time

I would like to visit my fiance again, but its too expensive to travel.. especially with our baby.. plus we have to save for our flights to U.S. after i get the visa. Flights are so expensive right now.

Whatsapp chatting, Facebook chatting, Skyle video....and it's not enough ?

But at least it's something.

I'm just SO ANXIOUS for the day when we can live together.

I'm a VERY IMPATIENT person so this is going to be hard but I love him soooo much.

This is just gonna make us stronger.

We also Skype few times daily. He wakes me with video calls when it's time to get the kids off to school. It's the closest thing to actually waking up beside each other. It's so very hard when your loved one is so far away. We also have been visiting each other every 6 months or so. As alot of you know, visiting another country also get very expensive.

Time zones.. ugh. Time zones are so hard also when one is sleeping and the other is awake, but I guess it gives us time to do our daily thing without disturbing the other.

Each day we wake, is another day closer to hopefully being together forever

My advice to everyone.. Don't lose sight of the longer picture. All good things come to those who wait

They sure do!! And patience is a virtue!! However after reading some of the processing times ppl have encountered on their journey im starting to wonder if my patience will b over extended!! I dont have a long rope!! Lol

I took the extreme path and relocated to be near to my wife . The only things I have to do more when filing for my wife's visa are the domicile package and finding a joint sponsor. But the experience is worth it. My wife also appreciates what I have done for her very much .

Appreciation is a great reward!! Its nice to see couples on here able to b 2gether thru this process.. We arent all so lucky

Whatsapp chatting, Facebook chatting, Skyle video....and it's not enough ?

But at least it's something.

I'm just SO ANXIOUS for the day when we can live together.

I'm a VERY IMPATIENT person so this is going to be hard but I love him soooo much.

This is just gonna make us stronger.

Me too!! The waiting is killing me lol thats y every little thing helps to the extreme!! I hate waiting even for toast!! Lol

I would like to visit my fiance again, but its too expensive to travel.. especially with our baby.. plus we have to save for our flights to U.S. after i get the visa. Flights are so expensive right now.

No kidding!!! $1,200-3,400!!! Insane really!!

6,500 miles across the ocean... Lol thats my reason anyway!! And my fiace can not get visitor visa's as he is Nigerian and not allowed in... I however go to see him but wen i go i stay awhile cuz it costs sooooooo much to travel there... If i were rich, i would go at least every other month.. As i have 3 minor children to attend to also n cant just leave them behind...

Maybe I don't understand because I haven't filed for the K-1 just yet, but why doesn't anyone here seem to visit their loved one's while applying?

Sounds alot like us... All day everyday on chat or txting and random phone calls everyday..... We also pray 2gether each nite... Another thing we do ( out friends tease us but love it just the same) is no matter what were doin, we speak as if were doin it 2gether! Lol for instance may say "baby were out of milk!" And he says " ok love, lets go and im driving!" Lol it really helps to take away the "alone" feeling. We attended a Keith Sweat concert together just a few months ago via skype... I had him on skype the entire time n we had so much fun!!! We play games together this wY as well.. We played Monoply a few weeks ago with the kids... We also share every little detail about our days... It helps to feel close.. Ohh and we have 1 piece of clothing of eachothers.. We sleep with it... Its not the real thing but it beats nothing at all... Sumtimes tho, i cant help but feel like im living in an imaginary world waiting to reach reality.. Its still a hard process but everything helps... Being best friends is wat ive found to b the most beneficial coping mechanism thus far! But that will benefit us for life im loving all these stories!! Differences as well as similarities! Plus talking about our loved ones; another great way to cope.......

Yes wat exactly is AP ?

Ok so im just curious to kno how everyone here has managed to get by and to cope with the long waiting process of the K-1/K-3 visa? Waiting for our loved ones to be reunified is a hard task... If u wanna share how u and ur fiance/spouse cope, ur experiences with the long wait people may benefit from our stories! And it will bring a little positivity to a negative time.. hope to see alot of sharing!!