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Why would they accept a copy and not a fax?

Her interview is next week and the closer we get, the more I've worried about this. Do you think it will be a problem??

Yep, it'll be a problem!

Taxes were due the 15th of April, all you had to do was make a copy of them, or a copy of the extension if you filed one. I would suggest Fedex-ing a copy to her ASAP.

I don't think I can get it there in time (she's leaving Sunday for Bogota). Can I fax a copy? Or can I even fax it straight to the embassy?

Hello all. I didn't include my 2005 taxes with the affidavit of support (it wasn't yet available when I sent the paperwork to my fiancee). I've got 2002-2004, and I've got my W-2 for 2005 (just not the tax return). I've also got the letter of employment and it's dated 2006.

Her interview is next week and the closer we get, the more I've worried about this. Do you think it will be a problem??

Hey, what's up Colombia Club. Just wanted to let you know that Olga has her interview next week (May 24th) and I'll try to get her to write a review afterwards.

I may be completely wrong about this, but I assumed (I know, I know) that Vermont is faster than the others simply because they probably don't get as many visa petitions as the other service centers. If you look at the states that have to file at Texas and California, for example, it seems to me that there's a good probability that they have a higher immigration rate than other parts of the country.

If this is correct, then a realignment would be in order so that more states would be filing at the Vermont center and less at the others. That would help bring all the centers in line with each other. If I'm completely wrong about that, then feel free to tell me I'm crazy or ignore this post altogether.

Hahahahaaa... how did you do that? Are you stalking me, Lisa?

But there you go again... taking statements out of context and twisting them to support your "argument." And here I was politely trying to remove myself from this thread... That quote was in response to a woman who posted that she was tired of waiting for her man to propose, that she didn't want to wait anymore, and that she was basically pressuring him (or going to) into marriage. With that in mind, go back and read my response again. If anyone disagrees with me, well then I feel sorry for your significant other.

Erm, firstly No I'm not stalking you. I'd tell you how I did it, but I wouldn't want your pride to take a hit so figure it out yourself.

Secondly, no the thread was NOT about waiting for her man to propose. They had filed a K1 already...you know what that means, right???? Means they WERE engaged. She was sick of limbo & wanted concrete plans for their life together. Not quite the same thing of 'pressuring for an engagement'

Oh right, hang on....don't question the man....who does she think she is wanting to know where an engagement is going? some nerve to want to put an end to the indecision...don't pressure the man!!!

Ah, I see that you are right... technically. But going back and reading the post it is obvious to me that she did pressure him into moving forward with the relationship, the K-1, etc. You just have to read between the lines (and they're pretty wide). If you know this girl and know that I'm wrong about that, please feel free to correct me. Or go ahead with the "how DARE you assume you know this or that" counter-attack.

Zed....

I just so happened to have fallen in love with an Englishman, not that I went looking specifically for one.

This is from a website that intorduces foreign men to Colombian women.

"Colombian women posses qualities that many American and other foreign men desire, but that the Colombian man does not appreciate. Many of these qualities have disappeared or are hard to find in the modern cultures of the developed countries (USA, Canada, UK).

Colombian women have a more traditional outlook on marriage. They are devoted to their husbands and family. They are raised to be proud mothers and are home minded. They believe the most important things in the world are their children and the happiness of their family. Colombian women are genuine, loyal, honest, romantic, tender, and yes, they are very passionate women and strive to make their mates happy in every way.

There are beautiful, educated, and sexy women throughout Colombia and many other Latin American countries that really want to meet sincere men to be their husbands, lovers, and best friend."

Someone that compliments you...not COMPETES against you

Ask any man that has been to Colombia............they will tell you the same thing!!

I'm sorry for my 'small pecker' comment however shrouded in thruth the theory may or may not be. That was a low blow on my part. But I am very interested in what you've said here.

I happen to think there's something morally wrong with picking your woman out from a MOB website as if she's a puppy in a window. 'oooh, I hear the 'Colombian' is a good breed! Loyal to a fault, and you won't have to worry about feeling inferior to a woman by assuming your wife will be competing with you'

Seriously tho, I find it VERY telling that one characteristic that was bolded in red was that foreign wives don't COMPETE against husbands. When did American women start doin that? Of course, women have been competing for jobs in the workplace, competing for equal pay, etc But in a domestic situation, I am at a loss as to competing for WHAT exactly...because I thought you believed that you share everything....so how is it competing if your teammate succeeds????

Competing for what?

I'd like you to confirm or deny the fact that these are the 'values' that you think eludes the American woman. Is this what you mean by 'traditional'?

I"m actually curious for the response of Dr J, pedroh, zed, and Ken from Ken and Inna...actually any other male who also believes in what they're saying. See Ken believes a woman should work to support the family, Dr J doesn't, Yet both feels that is a 'traditional' role, so I'm confused. I'm looking forward to the men who are Pro-Traditional coming up with a list of characteristics that elude the American woman.

Pedroh came up with not dancing with other men...

DrJ brought up abortion early on....a tradtional woman doesn't believe in abortion. Or work for a living...

Yet, Ken brought up the need to have a woman who won't sit on her ### after having a baby because Ken was in a 'transition' period workwise (I"m not even goin there Ken). A woman who will have a little more job stability than God knows how many jobs in how many years. One who would not cheat on him and get tatoos and live in sin with another man.

So as you see, boys, you're not coming across as a united front. So I'd just like a litte more insight as to what you all think constitiutes this rare & elusive 'Traditional Woman'

This lil gem came from Zed elsewhere:

I would like to second that for all you ladies out there. DO NOT pressure your men. That is the worst thing you can do. We men are just trying to do what we feel is right, in our own time and in our own way. If you love us and trust us and believe in us, then know that we will come around eventually. And letting us do it that way will lead to a much better relationship. And if it doesn't happen, then both people are better off in the end than if things had been forced to move forward.

I think this is very telling here. Dont' pressure your man. Don't question him. For the good of the relationship, let him be!!! Take heed, women folk! This is the worst.thing.you.could.do!

I'm not telling you that you don't have the right to choose who you want. You SHOULD marry someone who gels with you and shares your belief system. What I'm pulling apart here is your desire to put American women down at the same time. You like a woman with an accent? You like a woman who is exotic and is from a new & exciting land? THAT'S GREAT....by all means go to it. I'm not even telling you that you don't have the right to be a sexist creepy chopfcuk. That's your business!

But if you're going to pick a woman based on the fact that all or most American women are ######, have weak family values, etc..well that's where I draw the line. That is utter bs and everyone here knows it!

Hahahahaaa... how did you do that? Are you stalking me, Lisa?

But there you go again... taking statements out of context and twisting them to support your "argument." And here I was politely trying to remove myself from this thread... That quote was in response to a woman who posted that she was tired of waiting for her man to propose, that she didn't want to wait anymore, and that she was basically pressuring him (or going to) into marriage. With that in mind, go back and read my response again. If anyone disagrees with me, well then I feel sorry for your significant other.

exactly......that is the NUMBER ONE REASON everyone use that excuse....." you need 2 incomes." NO you dont. You need 2 incomes if you got a SUPER SIZED HOME, 2 MERCEDES, buy BRAND NAME clothes, and 8 maxed out platinum VISA cards..........you can live comfortable on ONE income...my parents do it.....my mother stays at home and takes care of my little brother....and my step-dad make about $35-40k a year....it CAN BE DONE. My question is...WHEN does the family come first???

Are you saying, if a woman wants to work, she shouldn't be allowed to? A man should force his wife to stay home?

How about if the shoe was on the other foot, and your wife had the high end job? Woud you stay home and take care of the house and the kids, or is that work striclty limited to the women folk? Do you hold double standards? Regardless of anything else, how would YOU like to stay home day after day after day? Easy for you to think it's okay for someone to stay home and play "Susie Homemaker", but you don't have to. You can go off to work everyday, get out, see people, interact with people, while the wife sits home and has an intelligent conversation with the 2 yo?!!!

I HATE DOUBLE STANDARDS!!! What's good for the goose is good for the gander. PERIOD!!! Don't ask someone to do something you wouldn't be willing to do yourself. PERIOD!!!

Just so you know... I make PLENTY of money to support my future wife, and children if we are blessed to have them. If she wants to work, that's her perogative, and her money. My feelings are if she wants to work, she can, but only because it gives her something to do, not as a means of supporting our family, which is MY responsibility. In that regard... I am "old fasioned".

So it's your responsibility to support the family, but it's not her responsibility to care for it? So even though you make PLENTY of money to support a family, it's ok if you put the kids in daycare because she would rather work "because it gives her something to do"?

All I have to say right now is thanks to everyone for the spirited debate. I very much enjoy these types of things and hearing about other people's beliefs and why they believe them. Not only is it interesting, but it helps me to reflect upon my own belief system.

I sincerely hope that everyone here on VJ (not only this thread) finds what they are looking for, that their process (the one we all share) goes smoothly and quickly, and that each of you will have your loved ones in your arms soon (yes Lisa, even you!)

With love and respect, we can all hopefully have the relationships that we deserve.

Well, I would say that over 50% is a lot. And over 50% of marriages in this country fail. I would call divorce a "major breakdown" in the family unit (I'm surprised you even posed a question with such an obvious answer). And while it does take two to tango, if you do a little research you'll find that 70-80% of divorces are initiated by women. I think you'll also find that those numbers are much, much lower in countries that may be viewed as more traditional. And women in those countries work, just like they do in the U.S. In fact, many times the woman is supporting the family (something most Western women would never tolerate), so it's not like the women there can't be independent if they wanted to.

Most guys who promote "traditional" values are also in favor of women getting an education (like Dr. J said) and working if that's what they want to do. But there is still a fundamental difference in the values that women from traditional countries have when compared to Western women. You don't see it because you don't understand it. But it's obvious to those of us who were brought up in "traditional" families. Of course this doesn't apply to you in particular, or your mother/sister/daughter/best friend, so don't get excited. But the trends are there.

To the guy who made a comment about the stereotypical American man who "can't handle American women," the fact is that many American men simply don't WANT to handle American women. That's why, as my man Dr. J pointed out, there is a growing trend of American men seeking relationships with women from other, more traditional, countries. You can turn it into some sort of psychological babble, but it really boils down to what you value in your relationship.

a family is a lot more than just defined by 'man woman kid' and how DARE you question the morality of the family unit of divorced people.

I'm going to get past the initial outrage at your post & probe this further. Firstly, I can't rattle off the top of my head how many divorces are initiated by men/women...but to place blame *even in a passive aggresive manner* to women for initiating vx% is absolutely short sighted and ignorant. So big whoop, in other countries women don't leave as much. Well, in other countries women are seen and treated as second class citizens, female genital mutilation runs rampant, and women don't have as many rights as their male counterparts. So what's that gotta do with the price of coffee?

I can't tell you why marriages fail, but I certainly wouldn't say that a woman divorcing an abusive husband shows more of a breakdown than a woman staying in an abusive marriage somewhere else because it's not the norm to leave. Which one is more of a 'breakdown'? Personal responsibility is a b!tch, eh?

There's also a difference between 'tradtional' and 'subservient' and I think you're confusing the two,

Who questioned the morality of divorced people? You asked how many American families showed some sort of "major breakdown" and I responded by saying divorce is obviously a "major breakdown." The fact that it's so common, it's now socially acceptable, and everyone's used to it doesn't mean that it's anything other than that. Hmmm... much like eroding "traditional" values that no one seems to recognize.

I don't think anyone here would condone an abusive spouse or question one's right to leave an abusive relationship, and I'll agree that some of the numbers are because of this type of thing (where it's more acceptable to leave than in other countries). But I also certainly don't think the places we're talking about (Latin America) are so primitive that women are treated as second-class citizens, have less rights than men, or are subjected to any sort of institutionalized genital mutilation. In fact, if I were latino I would be very offended by that sort of implication. I have been to Latin America no less than 12 times (no, that doesn't make me an authority) and have found the people and culture to be remarkable. And certainly the women are cherished and respected. I also know quite a few people from Latin America who are living in this country and they uphold the same traditions and values. Unfortunately, I think you'll find that their children and/or grandchildren most likely will not.

And finally, I think you will find that it is you (and all those who have been outraged in this thread) who is confusing "traditional" and "subservient."

Firstly, you jumped in an answered a question not posed to you. You answered 'how do you measure the breakdown of the American family unit. You came in with your pseudo figures and placed blame at women's feet for filing the lion's share of divorces.

You questioned it when you laid blame on women. Now what that's gotta do with what the 'breakdown' of a family is, is anyone's guess. Is the breakdown the divorce, or is the breakdown what LED to the divorce? A divorce is not necessarily a breakdown in a 'family unit' and for you to try to place blame at women's feet for 80% of divorces is laughable. Who are you to judge why a marriage doesn't work out? Who are you to know what goes on?

Meanwhile, I don't even think that percent is accurate anyways, but that's besides the point because it's not even relevant anyways.

A single woman has no less 'traditional family values' than a married one based on her marital status. You cannot judge someone like that. What is a 'traditional American family' then? Would a widowed mother not be considered any less of a 'real' family than one with a husband? hrmmm???? A family can be quite traditional even if in a home with one parent, and for you to suggest otherwise is ridiculous.

the fact is that many American men simply don't WANT to handle American women.

That was YOUR quote, no one else's....and if you wanna play that off like anything other than pure cowardice for not wanting to 'handle' an American woman (as if we are one size fits all) tells me that you're less of an man than you think you are. Women are not 'handled' like cattle...and there are American ones that believe in staying home tending the children, and there are others who would rather excel in a career than motherhood. That's fine. It's called empowerment and the power to choose. There are traditional American women. They are abounding. But if you're looking for a woman in an area that doesn't GIVE women that choice, well then I'd say that makes you a coward because you want a woman who DOESN'T KNOW she has the choice, one who was raised to fit some cookie-cutter stepford mom.

It seems you looked outside your country because you're afraid of an empowered woman, and for that reason, I pity you more than you could know. And an empowered woman is not just the one who chooses a career....it's the one who CHOOSES to be a stay at home mom. She's home tending the children and taking care of the husband because of choice, not because of archaic conditioning.

Well I'm sorry for answering a question that wasn't posed to me. I thought that since it was posted on this message board that it was fair game for everyone. I didn't know the rules.

"Is the breakdown the divorce, or is the breakdown what LED to the divorce?" I think you're missing the point here... it's the same thing! It doesn't matter why the divorce happened (with some reasons being completely justified, as we've said). It doesn't matter if it's the symptom or the disease, it just means that here in the U.S. we have suffered a breakdown of the family.

The use of the word "handling" wasn't mine, but I went with it. And it was not originally used as in to handle cattle but as not being able to take something. So let's not twist the words around to make it sound like something it's not. I see you've done that several times already in this thread.

And again, you're not paying attention, just flying off the handle (no, not like handling cattle). That must be your "empowered" American woman mind (and attitude) again. We've all said that we are for women making their own decisions (work, school, whatever). It's not about choosing to stay at home or choosing to go to work. It's about values and attitudes.

So if my fiancee (or Dr. J's, who will also be going to school) CHOOSES to stay at home (although she wants to work) then she'll be doing so because of some "archaic conditioning"? Why don't you go ahead and insult an entire group of women? I already told you that women there work and help support their families. Maybe it's just that they don't fit YOUR cookie-cutter idea of what a woman should be. There goes your "empowered" mind (and attitude) again...

Yes, there are traditional American women. But looking for a non-American women does not make me or anyone else a coward. It means that we'd prefer to look somewhere where 80% of the women share the same sets of beliefs, rather than somewhere where 20% of them do.

So there's not an American woman around with family values?

Come on, ladies, don't sweat it so much. You really just have to laugh at them. I find it hysterical. The internet truly does give people balls of steel. No way they'd walk into their corner pub and say this (although I'm sure they claim they would).

No one is really THAT dumb.

I'll tell it to your face in a heartbeat and have many times (not yours, of course). I'm sure the rest of these guys would too.

Well, I would say that over 50% is a lot. And over 50% of marriages in this country fail. I would call divorce a "major breakdown" in the family unit (I'm surprised you even posed a question with such an obvious answer). And while it does take two to tango, if you do a little research you'll find that 70-80% of divorces are initiated by women. I think you'll also find that those numbers are much, much lower in countries that may be viewed as more traditional. And women in those countries work, just like they do in the U.S. In fact, many times the woman is supporting the family (something most Western women would never tolerate), so it's not like the women there can't be independent if they wanted to.

Most guys who promote "traditional" values are also in favor of women getting an education (like Dr. J said) and working if that's what they want to do. But there is still a fundamental difference in the values that women from traditional countries have when compared to Western women. You don't see it because you don't understand it. But it's obvious to those of us who were brought up in "traditional" families. Of course this doesn't apply to you in particular, or your mother/sister/daughter/best friend, so don't get excited. But the trends are there.

To the guy who made a comment about the stereotypical American man who "can't handle American women," the fact is that many American men simply don't WANT to handle American women. That's why, as my man Dr. J pointed out, there is a growing trend of American men seeking relationships with women from other, more traditional, countries. You can turn it into some sort of psychological babble, but it really boils down to what you value in your relationship.

a family is a lot more than just defined by 'man woman kid' and how DARE you question the morality of the family unit of divorced people.

I'm going to get past the initial outrage at your post & probe this further. Firstly, I can't rattle off the top of my head how many divorces are initiated by men/women...but to place blame *even in a passive aggresive manner* to women for initiating vx% is absolutely short sighted and ignorant. So big whoop, in other countries women don't leave as much. Well, in other countries women are seen and treated as second class citizens, female genital mutilation runs rampant, and women don't have as many rights as their male counterparts. So what's that gotta do with the price of coffee?

I can't tell you why marriages fail, but I certainly wouldn't say that a woman divorcing an abusive husband shows more of a breakdown than a woman staying in an abusive marriage somewhere else because it's not the norm to leave. Which one is more of a 'breakdown'? Personal responsibility is a b!tch, eh?

There's also a difference between 'tradtional' and 'subservient' and I think you're confusing the two,

Who questioned the morality of divorced people? You asked how many American families showed some sort of "major breakdown" and I responded by saying divorce is obviously a "major breakdown." The fact that it's so common, it's now socially acceptable, and everyone's used to it doesn't mean that it's anything other than that. Hmmm... much like eroding "traditional" values that no one seems to recognize.

I don't think anyone here would condone an abusive spouse or question one's right to leave an abusive relationship, and I'll agree that some of the numbers are because of this type of thing (where it's more acceptable to leave than in other countries). But I also certainly don't think the places we're talking about (Latin America) are so primitive that women are treated as second-class citizens, have less rights than men, or are subjected to any sort of institutionalized genital mutilation. In fact, if I were latino I would be very offended by that sort of implication. I have been to Latin America no less than 12 times (no, that doesn't make me an authority) and have found the people and culture to be remarkable. And certainly the women are cherished and respected. I also know quite a few people from Latin America who are living in this country and they uphold the same traditions and values. Unfortunately, I think you'll find that their children and/or grandchildren most likely will not.

And finally, I think you will find that it is you (and all those who have been outraged in this thread) who is confusing "traditional" and "subservient."

For the record here, Dr. J and others, I was a stay at home mom for 6 years.

I did all the cookin', cleanin', drivin', scrubbin', managin', nursin', sexin', you name it I did it. That's what I WANTED. I wanted to stay home and take care of my young son.

My ex put me back to work to help pay for a car he bought that he felt I should pay for since I was the one primarily using it.

Don't give me that ####### about Western Women and traditional values. It's a two-fecking-way street.

hmm......so YOUR husband put YOU to work so that YOU could pay for a car that HE bought that HE felt YOU should pay for??? What a real man.......Why he buy the car if he could not afford it.....oh well.....that is you guys business....you are definately getting the two way street in THAT marriage...PAY FOR YOUR OWN ####### AND I'LL PAY FOR MINE........that is ONENESS........

Yes that is oneness. And that is ONE reason why he is now my EX husband living alone.

Do you see the point, Dr. J? I was one of the ones - a western woman with traditional values - who did my part and did not get back the respect for it.

As I said before - it's a two-way street.

Your posts hit a nerve with me and I'm so pissed that you don't get the point. Not all of us working women are out there because we are trying to fund a big life style. My EX husband provided me with plenty, even though he expected me to pay for things I never asked him to buy me in the first place. Financially I would have been better off to have stayed put.

But I got tired of going one-way down a two-way street. It's about respect. I hope to heaven that you plan on respecting your partner. You're not respecting some of the life experiences that have happened to some of us on this board.

I completely agree with this. There has to be respect, and the relationship has to be a two-way street.

That said, I think there are many Western women (at least American women) who don't respect their partners (as a result of their HUGE sense of entitlement). This is what leads to so many problems in today's marriages. You guys can flame me all you want, but I know what I've seen.

Well, I'm coming from the other point of view in that one of the things I love about my husband is that he is so family oriented. I think that we can all agree that there is a major breakdown in alot of American familes. Yes, I think I could have found an American man with great family values--just like there are women--but there are alot of other societies that are more family based then America. I mean, the women here only get 6 weeks for maternity leave. In Nigeria they get one to two years. Just one example.

EXACTLY.......just enough time for the "goods" to heal up and throw yo kid in daycare and get out there and MAKE THAT MONEY!!! now whta does that do to society??? what the heck is 6 weeks maternity going to do??? NOTHING.......you just brought a life into this world...and you get 6 weeks....CMON.......I think the culture here prioritzes MONEY first ...then family last.......and alot of women AND MEN are buying into it...as a result...families are dying.

So why aren't you moving to your fiancee's country since it's so bleeding horrible here?

We plan on it as soon as my husband gets his citizenship! And I never said it was so bleeding horrible over here. There are great families here and I think there needs to be some active campigning to make the workplace more family friendly.

I wasn't directing this towards you actually. But if there needs to be some active campaigning...what exactly are you doing then? Since I presume this is something you feel strongly about....well strong enough to want to bring about change...tell me what you're doing to change it. Or is this just armchair quarterbacking then? Someone ELSE needs to actively campaign, eh?

Furthermore, I asked you to quanitfy 'how many' families are 'a lot' in your original statement that there is a MAJOR breakdown in al ot of American familes. since you seem to be an expert...or are you just watching too much Springer???

Seriously, how did you come to this theory of yours How many is a lot? How did you do your research? Cmon then, back up your statement with some facts and knowledge please? Again, Springer doesn't count, sorry!

Well, I would say that over 50% is a lot. And over 50% of marriages in this country fail. I would call divorce a "major breakdown" in the family unit (I'm surprised you even posed a question with such an obvious answer). And while it does take two to tango, if you do a little research you'll find that 70-80% of divorces are initiated by women. I think you'll also find that those numbers are much, much lower in countries that may be viewed as more traditional. And women in those countries work, just like they do in the U.S. In fact, many times the woman is supporting the family (something most Western women would never tolerate), so it's not like the women there can't be independent if they wanted to.

Most guys who promote "traditional" values are also in favor of women getting an education (like Dr. J said) and working if that's what they want to do. But there is still a fundamental difference in the values that women from traditional countries have when compared to Western women. You don't see it because you don't understand it. But it's obvious to those of us who were brought up in "traditional" families. Of course this doesn't apply to you in particular, or your mother/sister/daughter/best friend, so don't get excited. But the trends are there.

To the guy who made a comment about the stereotypical American man who "can't handle American women," the fact is that many American men simply don't WANT to handle American women. That's why, as my man Dr. J pointed out, there is a growing trend of American men seeking relationships with women from other, more traditional, countries. You can turn it into some sort of psychological babble, but it really boils down to what you value in your relationship.

I think specifically singling out American women in your message was a mistake. There are many of them on this board. You made it sound like all women in America fit into the same bucket, which people who didn't take a moment to relax and think, became offended.

Anyway, I think what you were saying was there seems to be an eroding of some core family values in Western culture, specifacally the US. You want to know if your wife will be effected by this, and perhaps persuaded by far-left fanatical attitudes that do exist in small percentages in this country. I say, no, she will not be effected by extreme posistions or attitudes unless she secretly believes in those things now. But you must certainly be willing to accept she will be influenced by the culture here.

I got to add for myself, I think family values are very important. I am not Republican or conservative, but it is the way I feel. There is much to respect in a woman who is very concerned for her family's well-being and welfare. Or a man for that matter. I think one of the problems in America is people, and specifically women, who look down on a woman who stays home and takes care of the household. It is an important job! They should be respected for this, not put down as some dummy who couldn't do any better and is "barefoot and pregnant" in the kitchen.

Exactly, Chuckles. Good to see someone else jump in to defend Dr. J. Women are discouraged by today's society from embracing traditional values, just as you described.

Don't worry, Dr. J. I understand your question. What a lot of people call "antiquated," we call "traditional." And as you can see, it's not just American women, it's Western women (US, Canada, UK, etc) that we are trying to get away from.

Any of you who know Latin American women know that they are very independent and are NOT afraid to speak their mind. I'm sure what Dr. J was referring to was the traditional values that the wonderful women of Latin America have. The kind where their husband, family, and home come first. And sadly, whether or not those in this forum will accept it, many Western woman today do not embrace these values.

Yes, you can go and pick up the visa the next day at 4pm. My Olga has her interview on May 24th and I plan to go down and get her on June 3rd, to give her a little time to get things in order.

Yeah, I guess I'm not sure why you would want to get the SSN before getting married? You can't work until the AOS anyway, right (except for 90 days if you get EAD)? Is it just for drivers' license, bank account, etc?

When my fiancee and I come through immigration at the airport, can we use the U.S. Citizens Only line or do we need to go to one of the others? Usually when I come through Miami, the U.S. Citizens Only line is much shorter.

thanks,

-Z

JOe, you could also try to use any electronic itineraries that the airlines may have e-mailed you. Another thing to check would be your credit card statements. Sometimes they show the flight destinations under the ticket purchase.

Hey BigTex, did you happen to recognize the ones applying for the fiancee visa? In other words, do you have an idea of how many of the K1 applicants you saw on the day of your interview were there to pick up their visas the next day?

My fiancee has to present a DAS certificate at the interview showing that she hasn't been arrested or had problems with the police, etc. She has one that she got in November. It is good for a year and so is "current" but is one from November good enough for the interview? Anyone going through Colombia have any comments?

thanks,

-Zed

My fiancee has to present a DAS certificate at the interview showing that she hasn't been arrested or had problems with the police, etc. She has one that she got in November. It is good for a year and so is "current" but is one from November good enough for the interview? Anyone going through Colombia have any comments?

thanks,

-Zed

I use Bank of America. I requested the letter at the local branch, it took about 5-7 days to arrive, and there was a $10 charge. Also, the letter covered the requirements of the I-134 EXCEPT the deposits and withdrawals for the past 12 months. It says if you need that then refer to your bank statements.

Does anyone here in the Club know the cutoff date to have your interview scheduled for the next month? The stupid packet 3 got lost in the mail and I'm afraid we won't have our stuff turned in in time to get a May interview. Thanks.

I may be getting a little ahead of myself here, but what happens after my fiancee comes here, we get married, and then she takes my last name? Her Colombian passport will still have her maiden name, and she will need to use it to enter her country again when we go back under the advanced parole. What name do we use on the plane tickets and that sort of thing? Do we use her married name and bring the marriage certificate? She'll need i.d. for check-in, customs, immigration, etc. and her passport will probably be the only form of i.d. she has for a while. Thanks!