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i called today the uscis offices they told me there still processing july 18 filers that there really backed up????im an october filer this is just getting to be too much of a stress and emotional ride..i pray for all of us to get results soon

Is this where rants go? I hope so...

TL;DR/ SHORT VERSION:

Parents think my fiancee isn't good enough for me; so they banish me from their house and I am no longer related to them. give me your opinion.

REGULAR VERSION:

(BTW I am the man and the petitioner)

So here is the deal, I used to live really close to my fiancee; just across the border. I would see her everyday since we worked for the same company. ( Me on the USA she in MX). Company started going down and i was laid off.

On the area I was living, the job market for me (engineer) is pretty much dead, so i made the decision to move with my parents to another city 6 hours away to find a job there.

4 months later I find a very good job with great pay, everything in life is happiness, except that my girlfriend(now fiancee) is away from me and she cannot visit (tourist visa denied)I have made every effort to travel to see her as much as I could so its bearable. I had already made the decision to get married so that I could bring her over and be together and live happily ever after...

As soon as I get my first few paychecks I buy a Ring and propose...

Everything is going smooth... TOO smooth...

So I propose and we are happy, I tell her parents and they agree since they have known me for a while and they know I am a responsible guy ( no drinking, smoking, crazy partying, no drugs etc, typical serious good guy)

unlucky for me, my parents didn't respond the same way.

You see, I am 25, I am an engineer with a bachelors degree making good money working at a great company, I am 'OK' looking, not fat, have my own car, responsible, no drugs or anything like that... I come from a poor family and have worked my own way up to be the first on my family to have a University degree.

She is 20, she did not complete high school and is now working to pay for her own stuff and help her parents since they are not of very big income. She's beautiful in my eyes and MANY other guys' eyes... I know that as a fact. She is very nice person and I like her because she loves me for who I am, she pleases me in every way possible as far as the relationship goes; and she goes out of her way to show that she loves me. Our plan after getting married is for her to come over to the US; where she will get her GED and study to become a school teacher. We don't plan on having kids for now, as we are still young and we rather wait until she is settled on the new big changed that await her ( new language, new country, new HUSBAND, new career, etc)

MY parents are saying that I am COMPLETELY RUINING MY LIFE by getting married to 'HER'.

Basically, my parents kinda have this elitist idea that I should marry this tall, blonde,blue-eyed girl that makes a ton of money and comes from a wealthy family; with perfect body and everything else... Their point is that I am giving EVERYTHING to this girl without anything in exchange... That she doesn't have anything to offer to me and my marriage will fail. They are also enraged that I want to get married since that means that I will move on with my life and they wont be able to do as they wish with me and my money.

Their other point is that i am way too young (25) to get married and that i haven't lived my life, that I need to travel, date many girls, drink, party, etc... things that TO ME;are not appealing AT ALL. I enjoy quietness, being at home and going out once in a while, not everyday, clubbing is not something that I enjoy, I like traveling but I would much rather take her with me, being with her is what MAKES ME HAPPY. I really don't see any reason as to why i should keep being miserable as I am right now, by myself.

it is because of these reasons,that 2 days after i gave them the news, they decided to kick me out of the house right there and then; with no explanation or discussions I was asked to gather my stuff and leave... To be honest, That is exactly what I wanted all along, to be independent from them and live my own life, except that I didn't plan on it being so harshly and with them ending saying that I am no longer their son and that I was always a bad kid. I can assure you, I was not a perfect son in any way, but I also don't think i was the worst there is.

I don't want things to stay this way, needless to say my fiancee is devastated since she already feels unwanted by my family and this is putting even an extra toll on our relationship... as if the distance and the K-1 visa process wasn't enough...

Thanks for reading... even if it was just some of it. ADVICE IS WELCOME.

wish luck in your journey, if this is the girl you love fight for her once your parents see you happy they will have to understand and accept her

thanks guys im praying evryday i wish all of us a speedy journey!!!

congrats

hi everyone i just checked my case on line and it said its on initial review its been 6 months already since i submitted my I-129f im curios to what does this mean???aam im closer to getting approved or im still in the same stage where m case is laying somewhere waiing to get picked up...i just really hope this means good news!!!!

Finally approved guys. Submitted August 8 to Vermont, got an RFE two weeks ago for missing one question on one form, then got approval today. Eight months to the day. Woohoo!

congrats!!!!!!

Hello guys,

Its been over 6 months now here.

From what I see, the average high right now is about 8 months. Please correct me if I am wrong. So if it continues that way or gets better, we should be approved in the next month or two.

i hope so i can wait one or 2 more months ,,more than that would be really dissapointning i chose the k1 visa because i thought it wa sthe most fastest way for my fiancee to be here in the us with me ,,if it goes longer than a year i would really regret thhis decision i m thinking i should of just married him in mexico

My fiancé had his interview yesterday April 5 in Ciudad Juarez and was approved! Yayyyy! He said the interviewing officer was really nice and only asked a few basic questions such as where we met and what I did for a living. I'm so happy that this part of the journey is over and we can now be together and start our lives being a family. He will finally get to meet his firstborn who is 4 months old now! I'm so happy! This site has helped me out tremendously. It's a long journey but well worth the wait. Don't give up fellow VJ'ers!

congrats to both of you!!!!

Just to let you all of you know. I checked the case status online at it stated my I-129F petition was approved.

thats awesome news congrats!!!

congrats ,,and how do u contact ur congressman?

im waitnign for the noa2...i filled in october

congrats !!!!!im i have hope im also an october filer ...

hi im also an october filer,,,waiting for the noa2....im soo anxious i keep lookinG at evrones timeline lol...just to get hope that mine can be fast...hopefully we will all get an answer soon ...

thanks everyone!im just having a moment of anxious , i need to wait and hope for speed in the system

hey i filled my i129f on october 6 i got my noa1 a week later but now im just waiting for the noa2 ??has anyone that filed on those dates have received a noa2???im reading that the processing times are gettin longer