Bashorun

Well, after reading all that U have said one can only hear her part to confirm who actually is wrong here but I hope the two of U are not into something U will regret later cos I know if U don't end the differences between U two, U will return to Nigeria and she will regret it if she had been to hash on U with something that can easily be resolvable between U two.

Man my advice to U is to be a man and approach her, go where she is living and talk to her, explain urself and why do U want to explain urself to her on the phone. Don't U know where she lives?? If ur conscience is right that U didn't mean any harm on her and she is the one being too hash on resolvable matter then pls let her go becos she won't be the best for U.

The best way to approach this like Taye advised U is to bring down ur head and do what is right and U will both be as happy as before. I am a naija guy as well and believe me this is the best advise I can give about this. U can PM me if U like.

Here is the message Valentine posted immediately he got the visa saying he is going to re-unite with her hobby. Or is hobby also used to refer to ones wife?????

PRAISE GOD FOR VICTORY AT LAST.

I GOT MY VISA TODAY AT LAGOS

AND I WILL BE HOME SOON, TO REUNITE WITH MY HOBBY.

I LOVE YOU ALL VJ'S MEMBERS AND I APPRECIATE ALL YOUR CONTRIBUTION.

I WILL BE IN HOUSTON ON 9TH JUNE 2006 BY THE GRACE OF GOD

I AM SO....... THANKFUL FOR ALL YOUR LOVE AND SUPPORT.

MAY THE GOOD LORD BLESS AND SUSTAIN YOUR MARRIAGES.

AND I ENCOURAGE ALL OF YOU WHO ARE STILL WAITING, GOD WILL EMPOWER

YOU ALL AMEN.

VALENTINE

Idocare,

Before U start getting our sympathy on this board and from what I read of ur input, it seems like U're a very nice person from the way U portray ur person. This is just a one side to what happened as I will only believe ur story until I hear ur husbands part of his own story just like the court, the police and every one that confirmed what's went wrong between U two. It seems like U agree that U beat ur husband at one point or the other??? from what U said and what do U think would of happened to him if he was the one that beat U up???? And U haven't really told us what really started ur misunderstandings yet before U both got to this bad stage.

I am also married to an american and me and my wife like everyone of us in this board has had series of argument and as well misunderstandings which I believe is a characteristic of any relationship, even if that man is a preacher. From what have learnt from my own relationship with my wife, it shows the two of U are just two sturborn people that neither want to agree when U're wrong or right. U want to change him to be just as U want him to be and he also wants to change U to be just like he wants. I would be more of sympathy here if U tell me that he's doing something to U, like he's cheating on U, beating U up. Not respecting ur home like doing drugs and all that. Not that he is going out with his male friends or that he told U that the reason U married him is becos of his money.

Until U both agree, U're both at fault here. I am not against the fact that U're posting stuffs here to help the newbiz but at the same time stop making urself sound like a nice wife when he is the bad husband. If U're like U talk here then he will never or want to leave U and not to think about the fact that U have his baby.

Lastly, Do U think every of us here don't have misunderstandings in our homes??? Even those that got married with a spouse from the UK. I wish we could all tell U what goes on in our homes then U will know what it means to be married to someone. I remember sweetie sometime telling this board that she sometime make mistakes of taking decision on her own that affects the family, forgetting that she is now married. We all need to learn how to live a married life and not that I want to bash anyone here, I just wanna add my few cents to this topic.

I believe if U both had tried harder to work things out between each other U won't have put both or urselves in the situation. The fact that U tried on several occasion to postpone the interview date and even withdraw ur paper works from immigration and as well from what I read from U, I filled the divorce showed that U didn't initially tried to work things out with ur husband. U both want to show each other the power U have against the other but to ur surprise U didn't have that much power over him immigration wise. I hope U find some sense in what am saying here not that am trying to blame anyone here, Me and my wife experienced what U both went thru and that doesn't mean that we are wiser but the fact that we had to face reality at a high cost. This is marriage. Even if we had known each other all our life that doesn't mean we would have controlled a situation like this better. It is just as a result of bad communication. remember bad communication can destroy a 20 years marriage in just a day.

Forget the immigration process and ask urself. HOW A GOOD WIFE OR A GOOD HUSBAND HAVE I REALLY BEEN?

I appreciate the fact that U're coming down here to say all this stuffs so that the newbiz will know what it takes to be married and work on their marriage at the same time they are so hungry in finally breaking the distance.

My advice for every other reading this, watch the language and what U say when U're angry with ur spouse, U may come to regret this bitterly, which U might not meant it but becos U were angry.

Remember, am not perfect and am going thru this everyday stuffs with my wife but we always put divorce out of it. If U don't think U can do this then pls don't ever decide to get married becos U will never find a marriage without misunderstandings!

Valentine is a lady and not a guy. I see so many people make this mistake becos I had once been. Well, like everyone of us knows that have married to someone from a different culture, it is not always smooth at the beginning but that doesn't mean that ur partner doesn't love U. After some months and U look back to this time of ur life, U will diffinately see that it was just a misunderstanding like every other relationship. U're just adjusting to what will later become ur new life.

It is impossible to think U will not have differencies, especially the first few months U start living as husband and wife. If ur expectation in a marriage is a marriage without misunderstandings and the will to work things out with ur partner, then U better not ever try to get married. Even without immigration, people always are quick to use the word (HE USED ME, SHE USED ME FOR SOMETHING) when the marriage is going thru cummunication problems. Valentine, like everyone one of us here, U will later on understand ur fiance better and a little advice for U both here. watch what U say to each other when U're both angry becos this is the dangerous part of the relationship and will regret everything U say when U were both angry.

I still think some of us who had their marriages crushed during the misunderstanding period like this is simply becos they lived a fantasy world. Come to think about it and like we say in africa, if two brothers come out of a room and U cound see seriousness on the faces, that shows they are truthful to each other but if they come out and start smiling to each other like everything is always cool, check it out, all they are doing is lying to each other. They certainly don't love each other. The same goes to every couple. Just thro away the fantasy idea U had before ur spouse and U are now living together and face the reality of life. It doesn't mean U don't love each other.

Like I always say, it takes two for a marriage to work.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY YOUNG NIGERIAN

I believe that if you have the desire and passion to do something, and if it's God's will, you will achieve it in good time. As humans, we continually put limits on ourselves for no reason at all! What's worse is putting limits on God who can do all things. We put God in a "box". The awesome thing about the Power of God, is that if we want to do something for God, instead of focusing on our capability, concentrate on our availability for we know that it is God through us and we can't do anything without Him. Once we make ourselves available for God's work, guess whose capabilities we rely on? God's!

Congrat

U're all wrong to say the biometrics for EAD was combined with that the AOS. Definately U will be having EAD biometrics very soon. Look out for it and U will have to go back and do this again. They are seperately and even when some people get both the EAD and AOS biometrics letter on the same day, they are done seperately cos they have to enter each reciept number by placing the electronic device on the part of the application that brings ur information out and tells what the case us all about before they take ur picture and finger print into ur case. In the EAD biometrics, they will only have a fingerprint of urs.

How many finger prints do they tale for EAD biometrics? I just did mine yesterday and they took just a finger print in my right hand. Is this normal for EAD appointment cos I saw that they were taking almost all the fingers of others which I think is not just for the EAD biometrics but also the AOS. Can someone share more light on this please? I need to know better.

I think for the k1, U must get a 2 years green card no matter how long U have been married. Most people who get the 10 years are either k3 visa applicant or have been in the country for another visa benefit that is different from the k1. Please someone correct me if U think am wrong? U know k3 visa is already a two years visa so if U are approved of ur green card around ur second year of marriage then I think U will get the 10 years of green card. That is why I think it is a waste of money for a k3 visa applicant to come into the country and immediately want to adjust to permanent residency. It is of no use, just get ur EAD which will be of 2 years becos it cover the 2 years visa that U got. Just using this medium to educate the k3 visa applicant cos I see so many of them rushing to get the conditional green card as soon as they come into the United States. Don't U think it is a waste of money????

Since U said with no stress, I take it that U where been interview by a male consular officer? CONGRATULATIONS!!!

I proclaim he has gotten it and has no problem. Best wishes to U Valentine

Thanks, I really appreciate ur comment so now I will wait till after a week a check again

I just got the reciept for the EAD I applied for last week but I have been enable to check my status online with the reciept number provided in the NOA1. I did enter the numbers very well and I don't understand why am not get any information as it tells me the number I entered is wrong. I entered it right several times. Pls can someone tell me how they did there's and how did U manage to get ur emails address to them to send U an email when ur EAD petition is approved??? PLEASE HELP.

U done already get the visa in Jesus mighty name, amen. E go better

Valentine,

I am a living withness to the K visa affidavit of support which is the I-134. Since ur wife already has a job in line just tell her to get a letter from them that state she will be emplyoed at the date U told us. Get her three years income tax ready and don't even bother to get a co-sponsor cos they won't accept that from U in the Lagos consulate, U will give them a chance to deny U the visa of U do. U have to show them that U're confident of what U have. If U meet the male consular officers, U won't have any problem at all becos they ain't as difficult as the female consular officers, especially the slim white lady in window 6. The affidavit for k visa is not the same thing like the I-1864 affidavit of support and people should understand this. I prove this during my interview cos my wife then was earning below 125% but above the 100%. All they want to know is that ur wife is working and can take care of U before U get a job of ur own.

Since U don't have kids and so also ur wife doesn't have kids I see U not having a problem. Just go with confidence with what I told U to get and make sure the employer of ur wife state out in the employment letter that she is goin to be permanent with them. I hope have been able to add my 1 cent to this.

Thank U all, I finally called the USCIS and I finally got the result. All I hve to send in check is 180 dollars for the EAD.

Does anyway know the USICS number I can call and get to talk with someone about the EAD fee? This time not the voice service becos I am on k-3 and I need to know the fee for the EAD since am not doing the AOS yet.

I just called the USICS number and the voice service told me the fee for the EAD is 180 and that leaves me more confuse. What do U think?

Pls can someone give me the USCIS email address where I can request for answer about the EAD? I will be grateful to hear from someone.

Yes, Yodrak is totally right. I am a living witness to that cos at the time I went to the embassy for my interview, I only demostrate that my wife is earning above the 100% and now am trying to get my EAD and start working before we apply for the AOS so that my income will be combined to that of my wife for us to meet the 125% for the 1864 affidavit of support.

Yes that is exactly why am confuse about this cos it says an additional 70 dollars if U have not done any biometrics before. I don't want to apply for the AOS yet but just the EAD since I came here on a k3 visa. Just read ian read from the uscis that an additional 70 dollars is needed and this confuse me alot right now.

Is there anyone there that knows for certain, I mean someone that filed for just the EAD AND paid just 180 and without being asked to pay the biometries?

I will like to know from someone who have filled the EAD seperately without the AOS application. Did U include an additional 70 dollars with the 180 EAD fee for the biometries? Pls I need ur advise here.

I have been waiting for the IRS to process our 2005 income tax so that we can file the AOS but it seems they are delaying me from working so I want to file the EAD right away and not wait for the EAD since I can do that with my category which is K-3. I came in the states with my K-3 visa and to my understanding I can file for an EAD with the AOS at the same time with a K-3 visa. I need to know if the fee for EAD alone is just 180 and no additional 70 dollars for biometries. Have someone here done that before? I mean file just the EAD without the AOS package and just sent the 180 fee? pls do let me know

I am a k-3 visa holder which means I can apply for just the EAD with my k-3 category visa, what if I apply for just my EAD, will the fee be just 180 or will I be asked to pay additional 70 dollars which makes total of 250 dollars for the EAD? Pls help!