Nancan

awwww Nancan. How sweet and touching. I would have approved ya also.

Tks. Good luck to you on your journey, I believe all will end well for you guys, you look so in love...

this are just the 3 questions that are holding me from printing out my ds156

22. when do you intend to arrive in the US?

(provide specific date if known)

"My wedding date is on the 5th of January 2013 i dont have a ticket for the flight yet so i dont know a date am to leave but should i say BEFORE THE 5TH JANUARY 2013?

26. How long do you intend to stay in the US?

PERMANENTLY "My question on intending to stay in the US Permanently is this i am a man and my fiancee living in the state being a female is the one petitioning for me so when i say i intend to stay permanently is that ok?

27. What is the purpose of your trip

ans: = Marriage and relocation

"my question on this one is this should i just say marriage? because making them know i dont have intention of even coming back i dont know how that will sound to them?

please anyone that have gone through this process i need help and idea please

22. My attorney entered a target date as suggested above. December or January should be fine. It also looks better that you have a wedding date set.

26. I believe we did say permanently.

27. We put marriage.

Hope this helps, try not to stress out. Just make sure all your paper work and supportive information is gathered.

Mine is a bit more emotional, but I do believe this is what made a difference in our approval. The letter was also signed and notarized at a notary public.

October 6, 2012

Dear US Consulate,

This is a letter regarding my intentions to marry (removed). He is the beneficiary on my I129-f application. It is my intention beyond a doubt to marry this man. He means more to me than I can express, but I will try.

With (removed) I have been able to experience love in a sense that I have always hoped it would be. He is unselfish, genuinely caring, and supportive. He has been there with me while I have struggled with my mom’s ailing health. He has been there to cheer with me when I was accepted into my RN program, even when I didn’t think I would make it. Not to sound like a cry baby, but he is there and comforts me, which means so much. With (removed) I feel secure and loved; he gives me strength and courage. He inspires me, and teaches me how to believe and think positively. His spirituality is also another endearing quality. It’s been a wonderful journey developing faith with him.

I love him immensely, and if it were appropriate to do so I would put several exclamations after that last statement. I have read that we (removed) are like motor and brick, like a rich man finding humility, like a poor man winning the lotto. (removed) has a great temperament, and great inner beauty. I am often blown away by his innate kindness. He is all I could have ever asked for in a mate and more.

I am excited about the potential of our relationship, and so thankful to have met him. With so many things I have experienced in life, nothing has felt more wonderful, or more blessed than being with him. I ask that you please allow us to do what we have chosen to do, and that is to get married. If it is appropriate I would like to leave my phone number and email, please contact me if needed:

(removed)

(removed)

(removed)

Sincerely,

I sent a copy of my wedding gown receipt, a copy of our reception quote, copy of our invitations. I hope this helps

Your answer doesn't show appreciation. You asked a question and it was answered. Why ask on a public forum if all you want are only the feel good answers?

Gowon, I'll have to agree with you. Be thankful no one only said things that would make them feel better, even though that same feel good advice could lead them to a denial. Which one is worse, not hearing what you want to here or a gentle reality check, to help ensure your friend reunites with her love. It pays to be prudent when dealing with immigration, It is difficult to prove extreme hardship. I would definitely consult with an attorney who specializes in immigration the fees are minimal. If you file a K-1 now, their visa could be approved in 6 months, leaving them more than enough time to prepare for the baby. BTW, congratulations to your friend on her conception. Wishing her the best.

I think the best thing you can do is to go and get married ASAP. I feel awful about the news, as I was so sure for a better outcome. Even now I wonder if chiming my two cents will help. However what I have heard and what I agree with is getiing married to your love. I've read the denials are less, and it may take less time than to wait for reaffirmation from USCIS.

Nice to see your tenacity, love how you haven't skipped a beat, and are still making progress towards being reunited with your love. Congrats.

I'm sending a prayer for your success. All is well, and shall end in praise. May God bless your endeavor.

No truer words have been spoken... if you asked him what his intentions are or anything questioning his honesty I can bet it took a while for him to cool down and answer you. sometimes how you word things even if it isnt what you mean can cause issues. but you are at the end of the journey have you felt like this all along? When I met my husband I was alot heavier and some of his friends made comments about my weight and he didnt say anything at the time. Of course they didnt say it in English so I didnt know. But I did over hear him having a dispute with one of them later and after I bugged him he told me about what was said and that he talked to him later. I use to wonder about text I sent to him or why he didnt answer until I was there and the same things happened to me when some one text me from the states. I am not saying he is or is not being honest with you I dont know your relationship I am however saying he sounds like a man. And his comment about it being too early for you to have a bad day actually does make sense sometime they dont always listen to everything you are saying and you said you told him about it the next morning and his first thought was how could this be happening that early in the day not realizing you were talking about the day before., I speak from experience on that one lol.... But only you know for sure what it is like between the two of you so only you can make the decision... I pray for your happiness and remember marriage is never easy and when you are so different from each other it is even harder. And Gowen is right it is such a different world there and he is getting ready to leave everything he knows behind to be with you that has got to be very scary no matter how much he loves you. And by the way you know how much people are telling you about Nigerians well there are just as many people there telling him all the bad things about Americans so keep all these things in mind and I am sorry to all the guys reading this post but most importantly remember he is a Man and they cant help themselves sometimes.

Well said, and a beautiful read. I have learned a lot today and am thankful for all the input. I need to realize that sometimes my intuition is just suspicion and nothing else. Thanks again.

Well. that clarifies were all NUTS HERE. I Always knew that. Get some rest tonight and just think later. You don't have a worry in the world tonight. I told you he would call and he will keep calling you if you stop calling and texting him. He will drive you up the wall.. WANNA BET. PS.. You look like Tina Turner.. lol...

LOL

Yeah, well thanks for the compliment I can only pray to have those kind of looks at the age of 102! lol, thanks for the good words.

No it doesn't mean it's fake. Could be he's trying to get everything sorted out before coming over.

I was once upset that my fiance wasn't online on time. When he finally got on I told him that I was upset at waiting hours to talk to him. It was also after our approval. Turns out he'd been scrubbing the kitchen floor in preparation for my arrival (he worked full time and went to school full time and that was one of the few times he had the chance to do it)... and yep, I felt like a total cow about being upset about it.. especially when you consider we'd be together in person soon.

What exactly did she say to you? So you told her about the approval and she was like "YAY!! Shame he's moving to be with a fattie but yay for his approval"?. Or was it more like "You only have a short time to lose weight before he gets here"? If the latter maybe you mentioned it to her at some stage and she didn't realise it was rude?

She said something to the effect of not even a yay, more of a fake smile, and did not want to talk about the approval, then when my fiance asked for my size for a mini gown he wanted to have made for me I told him I didn't know when I could get to a taylor here in the US, but my friend mary could show me in some time, she's nigerian. So my fiance said well can you use mary's size, I said nooo she's way bigger than me, his sister looked at my fiance and smirked and said that's hard to believe. Then cut her eyes at my fiance again like I was lying. I was so offended.

All is well Vanessa, I spoke to my fiance who made a lot things very clear, and yes I felt like a cow for doubting him. He told me not ever let anyone call me dumb for bring in love, which is what my ex did. He told me he understood about the stress of school, caring for a family and managing everything, told me to keep my head up because I was going to make it. I know it sounds childish, but it's what I needed to hear. It was so damn good to hear that it makes me worry! He's way too kind, this scares me. But I have work to do, and can only pray I learn the skills it takes to be grateful, thankful, and appreciative of this kind of kindness.

Nancan: You are jumping to many self thought-up conclusions. Foregive his Sister. That makes you more Mature. And then let it be. People have a tendancy to purposely hurt eachother and family or future is the target. Don't get caught-up into that. Anyone here knows that Long Distant relationships are the toughest. If you can't play the deck, then drop your cards and walk away. As I said before. Don't call or Text. The CARDS are in his hands now. Then you decide after some patience...

You are 100% correct! I did not call him, he did call me. Clarified what happened, and said some of the most heartfelt, most sincere things I have ever heard. He's so diplomatic that he made me want to smack myself for having such thoughts. In the end all I can say is I think this is real, I have to learn not to jump to conclusions, I hate my sign! my sister does this all the time we are the same sign, I see her do it all the time. But in my mind I just think the worst, think that people are against me. But he is not he said some of the most beautiful words I've ever heard...I must do better.

No every disagreement doesn't mean it's fake, but hopefully he doesn't think he's "in the clear" now he's had the approval and showing his true colours :S

what do you mean things have been weird? Have they actually been weird or are you maybe seeing things now he's got the all clear to come?

I'm saying his sister was very kind or at least cordial before the approval, but when he(my fiance) got his approval, she was not overjoyed, understandably and was rude to my face, it was the first time any such thing had happened. Since that happened we have both been nervous with one another. Although he said something really sweet the other night, he said it only after calling me so late in his evenings for the past few days in a row. So now he has not responded to me all day and I think it's rude. Before I go to sleep at night he is never far from my mind and so I assumed he would feel the same, but apparently he doesn't, but it doesn't mean it's a fake deal right?

That seems alot/abit rude. She asked a question. I feel she was looking for some comfort and not opposition. We cannot judge those we do not know. She needs friends right now and not of "Add Lib" She is capable of seeing her own light. Don't add Insult to Injury. I seen Good Comments and Bad Comments. I really think we should refrain from negitive thoughts that WILL get Stuck There in her mind. Proof of what.. ? Pre-Judging because he's Nigerian. I'm not God and neither are you. She is looking for encouragement right now. What is wrong with some of you people. She is intelligent on her own but everyone needs alittle help and this is where she asked. If you think your Life never had a problem and never asked for help I would call you a Liar. Life is never perfect, just ask Adam and Eve.

Well said...well said....

Yes I think you misunderstand me. Your misquote of the OP implied she had romantic feelings for her ex. She might, but her actual post didn't imply anything of the sort. That said... I do not talk to any of my exes. They are exes for a reason. If I was friends with an ex and my husband had an issue with it then of course I would have to analyse my friendship with my ex and consider ending it (or at the least, cutting back on our interactions depending on how long we've been friends and why we broke up).

The OP said she called to talk to her ex about her issue at work. She said she did so because he's in the same profession as her and he would understand. I understand why she would feel this way, but feeling like her "ex would understand", regardless of being in the same profession, is dangerous territory. I'm sure there are other people that the OP works with, or studies with, that would also understand. The ex isn't the only other nurse in the world... which is why it's a little troubling that after a bad interaction with her fiance, she calls her ex to talk about her troubles instead. There's still way too much of an emotional attachment to the ex and she does need to put a stop to that. It doesn't mean she can't be friends or acquaintances, but he shouldn't be her first call when her fiance isn't reacting how she wants.

Where to start, well firstly let me clarify. Thank you Vanessa & Tony as you interpreted my statements correctly. I do not have romantic feelings for my ex. In fact I am friends still with a lot of my ex's as I tend to forgive and ask for forgiveness. But I have never reconciled with any of them, it's hard for me to fall back in love with someone once it's over. My ex is not the first call I make when I have issues, in fact I have not spoken to him in months until recently when he needed to use my truck for a move, so because this rift between my fiance is kinda unexpected for me I just spoke to my ex, knowing what he would say but was wondering if he would ferret out something I had not thought of before. I have never cheated on my fiance and am one of the most faithful companions one can have.

Thank you again Vanessa & Tony for understanding that these RN programs can be STRESSFUL add work to the equation and it almost spells disaster. Going though this program, being a single parent, trying to work, trying to maintain this home, rent, bills, life is as stressful to me as some days of living in Lagos. My fiance has running water, food and shelter, he has a car a better one than mine, he does not have to worry about paying rent or clothing children. He has an okay life in Lagos, not great but not the worst.

I'm sorry but I was mad that my fiance cut me off, had been short with me, and did not call me back. Then we I did speak to him about the issue about work his response was way off track, it didn't even make sense. He said it was too early for me to have such a day, doesn't make sense. To be honest I wrote on this page to get a grip on my feelings and the gauge whether I was being too emotional or way off, because I always feel like I'm right, you know?

I love some the responses I read as they give me insight to my short comings. Particularly the statement about being aware of always talking about negative things, or always focusing the conversation on myself. My sister does that and I hate it, I am always bored...That was very insightful. I honestly don't want to nag, and so I thank you for the advice. I don't want to hide my feelings either and resent him, so I just wanted to see what could be said about the situation.

@ Fafoo I did not understand what you said when you quoted my statement from the day we got our visa approval. Yes we had a lot of evidence, but things have been weird now since the approval. True enough I do need to learn that every disagreement doesn't mean our relationship is a fake.

Feel Better Nancan. Your friends are here. Think about it for a second>>> We got your mind off it for now. AND KEEP YOUR MIND OFF IT.... You know how to drive a Filipino Nuts? Take away their Cell Phone. . So put yours away too. Let him leave a message. Ignore all the Fraud Comments.

Thanks....*teary eyed*

Well, you might be over-reacting a bit. You kinda sound "Nagging" as well. but, who knows ? Take a Chill Pill.... His family making fun of your weight. Whats that? Your communicating with your Ex about about problems.. (you know that sounds kind weird don't you) Do they want to hear it? Probably not. Find something to do today and keep your mind off not getting WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR. Wait for him to get ahold of you. Trust me: If you stop Texting and Stop Calling he will start to THINK and get ahold of you.

Well you might be right, I could be nagging as he is the type who needs lots of space. (air sign) But I am not working b/c I am finishing my RN program, took an assignment last night that could have meant the difference between paying my some of my debt and still wallowing in tons of debt, so the assignment was important only to have things go awry on the first day. I was also stressed b/c the RN program is rigorous and i didn't get to study. I am a bit stressed and called for reassurance which may be considered weak. I really wanted to hear everything will be okay, not a I'll call you back and never does. My ex I talk to because he is like a reality check for me, as I feel carried away with this romance sometimes.

Feeling dumb as hell right now. Called my fiance last night to tell him about a horrible day at work, he said kinda short I'm in the shower I will call you back, so I never got to tell him why I was calling..... he didn't call me back. I understood he was getting ready for church , so I let it go. So this morning I text my fiance told him I had a horrible day at work yesterday, it was so bad i didn't get to study, but I promised I would go to church early today, asked what should I do. he wrote back, it's too early to have had such a bad day, all will end in praise. I thought, wow that didn't make sense. So I felt snubbed, not once from last night, but twice now. So I called my ex to discuss the work issue( he is a nurse like me.), who promptly began to tell me how dumb I was for beli

eving the intentions of my fiance, that it is almost assured that once he able to leave, he will do so. I have always disregarded what my ex would say because I felt an honest connection to my fiance and was/am head over heels in love with him and his kindness. To add insult to injury, the other day my fiances sister made fun of my weight in front of me to him and it hurt very much. I discussed it with him but it just made me feel a little doubt, even though he apologized for his sister's actions. So back to this morning, after speaking to my ex, I text my fiance and asked him to swear before God that his intentions are true, he has not responded, it's been over and hour. Am I being too sensitive? Am I watching the clock a little too closely? I'm feeling super stupid right now....

congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations! It always works out in the end.

If I may, how do you get the times your application got to NVC, left NVC, got to Embassy etc? We just got our NOA2 and am still at a lost on what to do next? How do I schedule an interview in Nigeria? please help

I waited a couple of weeks then called the NVC, who actually just told me to email the US Embassy in Lagos in regards to our interview date. Their web address is lagosIV@state.gov. I had a response within a couple of days. Good luck to you on your endeavor.

Awwww congrats to you two...so happy for you guys...God is Good.

Thanks it means a lot.

Thank you to all who congratulated my fiance and I. This is an unbelievable time and in the midst of some who did not receive visas know that my heart and prayers are with you for success. There was a couple who asked for detailed info about the interview, I updated my timeline with all related information. Thanks again.

I have an UPDATE. My fiance was contacted by the embassy by phone around 4pm. They called him, blocked number, it was a man. He said that he was sorry about today and they are going to generate a new interview date for him to come back in. The "system" will print it off and it will be mailed to him, he should receive his new appointment date letter within 2 weeks. He said that he will need to return with more proof and bring more pictures. Make sure to write the dates on them. He said just bring pictures and it does not necessarily have to be pictures of us together, it could be ones of me alone at my house that I send to him. He does not have to do any of the forms or fees again; only pictures or proof. I do not understand and I do not get it, but hey, at this point, we will take anything they want to give us. So now, more waiting...

I absolutely cheered, clapped my hands out loud, when I read your new post! God is with you and I am happy for their reconsideration of your case.

Thanks Chi.

I knew that you'll have a temporary period of disappointment but also knew you'll rebound quickly and spring right back into action - I'm so proud of you.

So continue the good fight and we are all praying for you Guys. They used such a bogus denial reason.

I actually read on another denied post that there is a class action lawsuit going on on behalf of us K1 folks. Apparently there is a memo from USCIS to DOS not to arbitrarily denied approved petitions unless they have solid evidence of fraud or misrepresentation that can withstand a court challenge.

I'm starting to think the immigrant section of the Embassy is a money grab as we've submitted tons of evidence to USCIS and we've been approved there.

Keep researching, email, contact, etc it will happen.

Thank you for the good info. I saw the guideline for petition revocation, and am glad you shared it with the rest of us.