Zdavidson

I have a bit of experience here and i can tell you that this endevour is not for the weak. It is very difficult and also very rewarding. I asked my fiancee for marriage 11 months ago and haven't seen her since march. We have skype and email and mail each other gifts and cards but it's not like being together in person and as the months drag on little things crop up that might be a simple misunderstanding but turn into huge arguments. As painful as this has been I am thankful for everything because after all we have been through i have never been more sure of any decision in my life. There are many things that come up and because of the distance and different time zones end up being real problems. sometimes talking on the phone with a little bit of a language barrier can cause huge problems. The only thing I can say is that if you two truly love each other then you will trust and honor one another. You will decide that when when problems come up you will walk through them together. By the time you finally get married and live together you will have proven to each other a level of commitment that most people will never get to experience. While it may be true that divorce in the USA is around 50%, the little known fact is that internationl marriages are under 10% and I believe that is partially because of the level of commitment and work it takes to get together. People here can get married one day and divorced the next but to bring someone across the world takes a bit more than a fleeting moment or fading emotion. My advice would be to welcome this hardship as a testament to your commitment and don't run from an argument or a problem because this is where you guys teach each other that you actually can go through hard times together. this will also take away the fear of divorce when you realize that you are allowed to have disagreements without losing everything. For the guys I would say love your fiancee unconditionaly and do everything you can to lift her up and make her feel safe and secure about the future. be Kind. To the girls I would say be understanding and caring because we guys are not mind readers and many times think we are doing really great while missing the boat if you have each others backs and love and trust each other then after this waiting you will have the strength to acheive anything. Best of luck to us all and God blessing.