Confusedchopstix

Man, you beat me! That one is over the top. The only chit I heard was "your white boyfriend will put insurance on you and then cut you into small pieces and place you in your luggage...literally...actually, the carry on."

My favourite is still...your bf could be a cult member and who knows he might end up convincing you that the end is near and you will both do a gainers off your roof or drink kool aid mixed with potassium chloride.

Your fiance is white, American ergo he is going to go postal on you.

I understand the desire to protect, but if it is too much...it gets old really fast. I would probably be cool about it if it came from my parents...but no, it came from relatives!

I do not mean to whine or b!tch, but have any of you experienced hearing some fooked up weird chit from relatives regarding your fiance? I met my fiance online and I am not embarrassed about that, now 2 weeks before I leave my country I keep hearing stupid chit from relatives and friends (i.e. you dont know him that well...he could be a criminal...are you desperate yada yada?) I know I am venting and I am so sorry. I just got royally p!ssed off when my uncle asked me if he could do a background check (intelius). Am I being sensitive?

Good luck!

Re: Tourist visa - dont worry about it. I was denied too and it was never brought up during the interview.

Hi.

I was wondering if there are members who are planning to leave on 26th of November as well. I was hoping in case there are some, we can all go together.

I just reckon it will be nice to know someone during the 12 hour flight.

Thank you

Thank you so much for the responses.

I will bring my IPAD with me, my two friggin cellphones, my cello, my guitar, my pointe shoes, and my pencils. I told my fiance I could not be ar$ed about clothes cause I can always wash them and such. I am taking all the stuff that I can use to entertain me. I am scared of boredom cause that's when you get all nutty.

This is the first time I will be leaving my parents. I have always been around my mother from driving her to helping her shop. I will sorely miss it. Plus, it does not help that Christmas is just around the corner. It makes things a lot harder.

He said I would not have trouble finding Asian friends since Asians smell each other and most likely they are going to find me. I was happy when I received my visa, but the moment I realised that I will be leaving soon I went emo. I have never went emo and yes, it was kind of new to me. Funny thing is, the stuff the I hated about Manila are the ones I will probably miss with the exception of some local actors and actresses that we have that I seriously loathe.

I pray to God that I wont have any problems settling in and wont have problems being comfortable and such.

Thank you for all the responses. It made me feel a lot better and it is my birthday today.

You'll blend in quickly, North California is home away from home with too many Filipinos but watch for the wrong crowd and you'll do just fine.

Have a safe flight and welcome to US soon! :dance:

Thank you. I will be in Napa. My fiance told me that his neighbour's wife is already waiting for me. She is a Filipina too and she is excited to introduce me to some Filipinas as well.

Man, leaving my family sucks so bad. I thought it was not going to be melodramatic.

I got my visa last Saturday. I am very much happy to receive it since it is going to be my birthday this Tuesday. But I got sad when I realised that I will be leaving my family soon. Is this normal? I mean, how do you overcome this phase? My fiance wanted me to leave Thursday it was a good thing I haven't had the CFO yet. It was a blessing that the CFO people were being a pain in the bum.

I just hope I will new friends around my area so I wont have a problem adjusting. I will be in Northern California so I hope I will find a couple of girls who are in the same place and same situation as I am.

That actually won't fly with the US Embassy in Manila. They will fully expect your fiance to know and understand what you do for a living. Your employment is one of the primary concerns of the Consuls when they do the interview. If your fiance hesitates or doesn't understand just what you do I can almost guarantee your case will go into review and she'll be asked how well she really knows you.

The idea that your wife or fiance can't know everything is patently false. There is not a single thing I have not revealed to my wife concerning my past and my views of the world. She knows me better than anyone else, including my family.

One thing for sure though, the USEM sure do know how to do their jobs.

I was asked if I'm aware that my fiance's family was being accused of being a mafia. I told him my family was accused of the same thing being Chinese and all. I further told him that being accused of being a mafia is better than being accused of being a communist and a republican! (Good thing he laughed most likely he is not a Republican otherwise I am so fooked.)

Anyway, he approved my visa but he made me submit "other documents" such as business licenses and updated federal tax return. He was blunt enough to inform me that the bank statement was not sufficient proof. They want to make sure where my fiance got the money etc.

You can't tell them "everything", so omitting major facts is OK? This is exactly the kind of rationalization a person needs to flee from.

Yeah, girls are stupid. I'm thinking this is a trolling post, not serious.

Not telling something important is called a lie by omission. That is why the oath in a courtroom is to tell the WHOLE truth. You can be prosecuted for purjury by leaving out something pertinent.

So I just want to make it clear that this lie by omission is a concept formally recognized for centuries by society, and it is only a con-man who makes up this excuse for lying to his fiance. We also understand this is a rationalization is a lie. The truth is that the con-man conceals who he really is because the fiance would reject him if he was honest.

So it is a lie to conceal. It is a lie to tell this rationalization for the lie. And the person doing this can be counted on to lie, lie, lie about far too much to be trusted.

Can I get an AMEN for this one?

Quoted for emphasis

Congrats!!!!

Real deal Binondo Girl.

Mother from Naga Camarines Sur, Dad from Iloilo.

I know I should be sleeping, but I am having problems sleeping. So I am reading VJ members' posts about their interview experience hoping their experiences will calm me down. I am rambling again and its 2am in Manila.

That was wicked!

Salamat po ulit ng marami.

God bless po.

i am sure it has some entirely different possible meanings in phils, but you have to remember where you are moving to.

I am going to pretend this was not an asinine response, which was most likely pulled out from somewhere other than your magical hat.

I don't think you need to expedite the process. Even though it may take two or three weeks for the results of the psych test, I believe you can still go to your interview on October 10. If your medical has not arrived at the Embassy by that time, you will be interviewed and then issued an MNL-IV-22 (221g) which will say that the Embassy is waiting to receive your medical result. When the Embassy receives your medical result, they will issue your visa. It will not set you back for too many days.

I don't believe the Consular Officers pay much attention to the medical. I believe they look at it as a pass/fail issue, where St. Lukes has already determined the outcome. I have never seen anyone here on VJ post anything about the Consular Officers analyzing a medical during an interview. I think they take St. Luke's word for it that you are good to go.

Thank you very much for responding.

I really hope it wont be a problem.

I believe that you will be okay at your interview.

I say this because, from your description of what happened at your psych evaluation, you don't seem like you would be a danger to yourself or to others. In a case like yours, that seems to be the standard they use in determining whether you pass the medical.

Also, if the psych evaluation doctor thinks you have a serious problem, he will require you to undergo a psych test. You will find out when you return to St. Lukes whether you are required to undergo the psych test. The psych test costs Php3000 and takes a few hours. I believe the psych tests are administered at another location.

Thank you very much for responding.

Is there a way for me to expedite the process? I am scheduled to be interviewed on 10 October. If all that I have to do is read ink blots for them, I do not mind at all. I am just concern about the results being forwarded to the US Embassy before my interview.

I am also worried that I am going to be asked about it during the interview. Like it is going to be a big deal and the chances are the CO will have this impression that I am most likely to do a gainers off a roof or go postal.

During my physical exam, i lied and said i got it burnt from a square pan, but my doctor didn't believed it so he referred me to have a psych evaluation.

During my psych eval, the psychiatrist asked me what really happened and i told her the truth. she didn't asked me why i lied the during my physical exam.

it was just for 5 mins and she asked me to call on monday to check my results, and when my fiance called st. luke's everything is fine and i can go there right away and get my vaccine.

how about you? did they told u when to call them back to check for the results?

They told me to check tomorrow to see if I can finally get my results even though the instructions stated that it will take 2 to 3 days.

I am worried because if I have to undergo the psychiatric exam it will take two to three weeks for them to figure out that I am not a loony. I really don't mind waiting, but I am scheduled to have my interview on 10 October, and they are just being a pain in the a$$.

When is your interview? How did it go? Did you already have it? If so, were you asked about it during the interview?

Thank you very much for responding.

God bless

Hi.

I am wondering if anyone can help me with regard to psychiatric evaluation?

I had my medical exam last Friday. I was informed that I have to return on 27 September. I did.

The doctor asked me what happened with the scars around my wrists. I told him I failed the bar exams last 2005 and I was too numb at that time, and it felt weird so I decided to cut myself so I could finally wallow in self pity and have that good ole cry. He asked why I lied to the doctor who examined me and told her that I cut myself when I was 10, to which I responded..."I was too proud to admit that I did not pass the bar exams first time and I was too old to be getting all emo." Then he asked me where I met my fiance and if I checked his background. I told him yes, and I told him anyone in the similar situation would be paranoid and conduct his/her own investigation. Then he said..."yes, so you are paranoid that is what I am going to write." I told him I was being responsible. He reiterated again that I was being paranoid.

My question is, is this going to be a problem during the interview? Do I have to take ANOTHER psychiatric exam and read ink blots? He said something like "the happiest people are usually the ones who are suicidal because they mask their depression." What does this mean? Was he just being Yoda?

I read previous posts here regarding psych evaluation and I could not find one wherein the doctor was being condescending and snotty. I never lied. I was never arrogant. I was jolly sure, but I have always been jolly and goofy. I just did not have an emotional reason as to why I did it. I guess I did, but it was the lack of emotion not too much or overwhelming. Now, I panicking Polly. I am just worried that is all.

Thank you so much for reading my post. My apologies if I sounded like I am rambling.

Kind regards

Hello.

First of all, I am sorry for airing my sentiments and frustrations. I really have nowhere to ###### at where I will be understood.

We just got our NOA2 last week. Prior to receiving the NOA2, we received a letter asking us names of people we have not heard of, and asking us if we changed our names. When we rang the California Service Centre they too were surprised about the mixed up and the odd letter that they sent. Fast forward, my fiance knew some bloke who worked for the state department and he asked this friend of his for a favour - basically to check the status of our application. He asked this friend of his during the time we were confused about the letter we received. The friend yesterday told my fiance that he checked my name and he saw that my name was red flagged. According to my fiance's mate, I lied about my application and apparently I was married before according to the records. So my fiance told me about this and I was just raging mad right now to the point I want to stab stray kittens. I never lied to my application and I have never been married. Bloody hell, if I was married I definitely had no recollection of it esp the shagging bit. So my question is, do random rubbish system bollocks often happen? I am really exhausted. I would have probably understood the whole thing if the reason why I was red flagged was because I am Chinese.

I am sorry for moaning.

Thank you

Hello.

First of all, I am sorry for airing my sentiments and frustrations. I really have nowhere to ###### at where I will be understood.

We just got our NOA2 last week. Prior to receiving the NOA2, we received a letter asking us names of people we have not heard of, and asking us if we changed our names. When we rang the California Service Centre they too were surprised about the mixed up and the odd letter that they sent. Fast forward, my fiance knew some bloke who worked for the state department and he asked this friend of his for a favour - basically to check the status of our application. He asked this friend of his during the time we were confused about the letter we received. The friend yesterday told my fiance that he checked my name and he saw that my name was red flagged. According to my fiance's mate, I lied about my application and apparently I was married before according to the records. So my fiance told me about this and I was just raging mad right now to the point I want to stab stray kittens. I never lied to my application and I have never been married. Bloody hell, if I was married I definitely had no recollection of it esp the shagging bit. So my question is, do random rubbish system bollocks often happen? I am really exhausted. I would have probably understood the whole thing if the reason why I was red flagged was because I am Chinese.

I am sorry for moaning.

Thank you

Oh bless for responding, thank you.

We did send our G325s again, however, I am curious as to how long are we going to have to wait again? Do we have to go through and endure another 4 months?

We received NOA1 23 March, then we got an odd letter from the CSC asking us if we know a certain person named Robert Ma who changed his named or something. Totally unrelated and I have no clue which cow's ####### did they pull that #### from. Oh, when we rang, they said we should send another G325 since they "lost" it. Well the person did admit it in his own subtle way. But anyway, chill out.

Congratulations. Bless you.

I have a question, did any of you experience receiving a letter from CSC asking them totally unrelated stuff regarding your petition? I asked because we recently received a response from them asking names of people we do not even know. I followed the timelines of some members of the group and it seemed like we were right on time, except, there were odd queries included in the letter pertaining to some individuals we were not familiar of. I am rambling, I know. I just want to know if a rubbish like this happened, how long is the waiting period?

Add: We did ring the CSC and even the person who talked to us was surprised with the letter that they sent us. They said they "lost" our G325! (Yes, they did admit in their own subtle manner that they did lose our the g35!)

Could any of you be kind enough to give me some insights?

Thank you